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How Happy Is... 5 Essential Tips To Find Your Ideal Home

07/10/2009 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Most of us move house many times in our lifetime and it is more often than not, an exciting thought, but very stressful in practicality. The more prepared you are and the clearer you are about what you want, the easier the whole process will be. If you are thinking of moving at some time in the future then you might want to keep these tips in mind.

Tip 1: As if:
Clear out your house 'as if' you are moving. It doesn't matter if you have found a place or not, just imagine that you have and you have to do the first part of the moving process, organize yourself and get rid of everything you are not planning to take with you. Use this time as a great opportunity to give away or throw out anything that you haven't used in the last year. This is a very powerful exercise and works. You are essentially letting the universe know you are serious and you need to move house, so it can collaborate with you in finding one. Also by doing all the clearing out you are going to find the moving process so much easier when you do move. My husband and I looked for a house for a long time to no avail and then did this and two weeks later found a great place to live. Also when you do move it makes the moving process so much easier and less stressful as you have done all the hard work.

Tip 2: What are your Priorities?
List the 5 things that are most important in a new home. If you are married, or with a partner, then you both need to write down your top 5, so that you are clear about what you want. For example, do you want to be able to walk to shops? Does it have to be quiet? Do you need a garden? Do you want high ceilings? Does it need to be light and bright? Write everything down and then if you are moving by yourself look at the top 3 things you can not in any way do without and, if you are with a partner, the top 3 things you can not each do without, so that you can dovetail them together. These are your essential needs. It is unrealistic to think that you will get everything you want in a place, but if you can get your most important needs met that is a great start and you can always save the following for the next house you move to.

Tip 3: Project Forward:
Visualize what you want and where you see yourself living. Imagine yourself there. How do you want to feel when you live there? What do you want to be able to say to your family and friends about your new place? Visualize what you might see on the inside. The more you are clear in your mind's eye what you are looking for, the more likely you are to find it. If again you are moving with a partner then sit down and visualize it together. Get very clear collectively so both of your energies can focus in the same direction. This can be very powerful.

Tip 4: Trust Your Gut:
Notice your experience when you first walk in to a place. Did you have problems finding it? If you did then other people will. Do you feel that you can breathe when you walk in to the space? Can you see that you will be productive there? Can you imagine how you would decorate it? Find out if there is a barking dog next door. When you go to look at places trust your gut reaction, if it feels right when you enter, it probably is. If it doesn't, then don't try to make it fit and keep looking until you do find what you want. Be patient.

Tip 5: Ask the Right Questions: Each home that you live in has it's own energy, so find out whether the people who lived there previously are moving to a bigger house or a smaller one. This will let you know if they made money there. Ask if they are in a happy relationship, if they are single, separating or got married, while living there. You are trying to find out if their life worked in the house. If you ask these sorts of questions you will get a good idea of the energy of the home as that energy will affect you as well, until you consciously change it.

That's it for this week and if you want to make contact with me please do so at sophie@howhappyis.com.