How Happy Is Your Home? 5 Tips To Better Sex And Sleep In Your Bedroom

This series is about finding happiness in the home. How do we, very simply, make the physical layout of the house more harmonious? How do we improve our communication with those we live with? What food would be most beneficial to have in our fridge? And how can we generally make more positive choices in our home life?

Last week, we talked about drawing opportunities through our front door, and this week, some simple tips on making the bedroom layout as conducive as possible to a sizzling sex and serene sleep.

Most of us spend at least a third of our lives in the bedroom. It's where we withdraw from the world and rejuvenate. If we experience a sense of harmony in there, we have a much better chance of coming out in to the world in a balanced way, which will, in turn, affect how we go about our day, how much energy we have and how we communicate with others.

TIP 1. My number one motto for the bedroom is to keep it simple, peaceful and uncluttered. If at all possible, don't have anything in there that is too stimulating. Answering machines, computers, televisions etc. If you must have a television, then put it in a cupboard, so it can be put away or covered when you aren't watching it. If you live in a studio or bed-sit, hide your electronic equipment behind a screen when you sleep. Also, please, not too many books. We are taking away options of activities, so that nothing is going to divert your attention from sex or sleep.

TIP 2. If you're going to have any photos in your bedroom, please make sure they are really happy ones of you, with your lover. It is not a good idea to put pictures up of your parents, siblings or children. It's not exactly sexy having other members of your family staring down at you while you're getting laid!

Many years ago, my mother put a picture of me above my parent's bed, thinking it was a great decorating move. Dad immediately took it down as it totally put him off having me staring over their bed. My brother thought it was rather funny and the next day put a picture of himself up at 13 years old, looking like a dork, in his bar mitzvah outfit, with the slogan "I'm watching you!" underneath. The bedroom is a sacred space just for you as a couple. Pictures of anyone else, reminding you of your family duties, will not in any way enhance your sex life!

TIP 3. The best place for a master bedroom is at the back of the house. The front of the house is where most of the activity takes place, so you want to have your bedroom away from all the comings and goings. The total ideal is the back, right hand corner of the house, which is often thought of as the relationship area. (So if you're facing inside from the front door entrance, your bedroom should be at the back and to the right.) If that's not possible, then anywhere behind the midline of the house is good.

TIP 4. Put a plant in the bedroom to keep the atmosphere fresh and bring life and growth into the area. A good place for that is in the back right hand corner of the room, which is the relationship corner, in the relationship room. Also, another great option is to put fresh flowers there to keep your love blossoming.

TIP 5. Stand in the entrance of every room of your house and the back right hand corner of each room is the relationship area of the room. If you want to bring in a new relationship or enhance the communication in the one that you're in, then make sure those areas are clean and clear of clutter.

You might want to put flowers there, a picture of you together, a mirror to draw in life. Use your common sense and what you think might look best, as you bring life and activity in to those areas in each room. Then, as you physically make these changes, imagine the changes you desire taking place.

So, for example, if you want a new relationship in your life, visualize that happening. If you want clearer communication in the relationship that you're in, then imagine that happening. What might it sound like? What might it feel like? If you create the positive changes in your mind first, then they are much more likely to happen in the outside world.

Next week we are going to talk about the bed itself and where the guests should stay so they don't outstay their welcome.

Enjoy the tips. They are not for everyone, but they might be for you!

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[BlueBerryPickN]

paint your bedroom a soft green.

seriously.

not only do many men find it oddly 'natural'... but as every portrait artist knows, green is the best colour to keep one's skin & shadows looking less intrusive.

some might go with orange, pink or coral... even purple or red...

but if you get the *right* green, you'll look great.

...& isn't it smart for someone to decorate their home to compliment **themselves**?

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[Cynth]

A Feng Shui "practitioner" (from the author's bio) is not synonymous with Feng Shui *master*. Believers would tell you that if you aim to adopt the practices & techniques, it's best to consult a master, since there are a couple of schools of thought/practice from which to choose, Feng Shui should be individualized (the far right corner isn't the relationship sector for everyone and just placing plants/flowers there is not a universal prescription), and there's *lots* to understand before dispensing with advice and reducing them into decorative tips. Oh, and traditional Feng Shui practices discourage mirrors in the bedroom. This advice is actually "anti-Feng Shui", if you will.... But if you believe a mirror will work, I suppose the placebo effect may displace any bad qi that could result... ;-)

[H.L. Mencken]

In our day there were the puritans that judged all behaviors especially through the lenses of 18th and 19th century comstockery!Today these folks have been replaced by wowsers who believe that american behavior should be judged as though society were a penitentiary and they the guards to enforce discipline and compliance to their rules of sex and language! I call this secret retinue the official non-official American behavior court for american sexual conduct! It is so pervasive that it encompasses free cable t.v.! These folks poss absolutely no official authority but they pervade audaciously upon our deportment and conduct of sex in any form! These folks have become the new neophillia crowd of modern illustriti!

[H.L. Mencken]

A huge majority of american females do not understand the male sex drive and alternatively many males do not understand the exigencies of the female sex drive! Do you not believe that the answer to this difficulty is self education? Environment is secondary while. feelings of completion and satisfaction are paramount! These goals are reached differently for each sexual encounter! Perhaps couples that pray together stay together but folks that copulate together with complete satisfaction stay together longer!Your generation should wake up and smell the coffee and stop inventing variables!

[H.L. Mencken]

regardless of environment don't be delusional- sexual satisfaction of your partner is paramount-this is the behavior art that should interest you and should be explored by both parties

[dadw5boys]

Personally I see sex as a celebration of life. When things are good we celebrate. When times are hard we are to worn out and just happy to rest.

Sex is not our only reason for existence. I really don;t understand these people who make it their reason to exist.

[bgregs]

You talk about the best place for the master bedroom at the back, but what if, from the front of the house, your master bedroom is in the front, but from the door (which is most of the way to the back of the house) it's as far as you can get?

[H.L. Mencken]

just call me if you mate is exceptionally attractive

[bgregs]

Not a chance! She's absolutely GORGEOUS as far as I'm concerned, and I'm sure not gonna let anyone ELSE have a chance!