How Happy Is Your Home? 5 More Tips To Better Sex And Sleep

Click here to read How Happy Is Your Home? 5 Tips To Better Sex And Sleep, Part I.

Some people complain of too much sleep and not enough sex and others, too much sex and not enough sleep.

A client of mine, Jim, wanted to have as much sex as possible, with as many women as possible. His bed was the main feature in his house. It was positioned slap bang in the center of the bedroom, surrounded by a high wooden stage, which covered the whole bedroom, so you had to step up on to the platform when you entered the room and the window was positioned a foot behind his head. He did indeed, get lots of sex, but very little sleep.

Then there's Leslie, another client, who had just moved to a beautiful new house and had decided it was time that she and her husband upgraded from a queen size bed to a king size bed. But for some reason she and her husband started to have way less sex than usual and a hell of a lot more sleep! In both these particular cases the clients' problems and solutions lay with the size and location of the bed. So this week's tips are about your position and choice of bed.

Do you remember how important I said the entrance was to the house? (If not, click here.) Well, the master bed is also one of the major power points in the house, as it is where we are nourished on a physical level.

TIP 1. Make sure the head of your bed is against a wall. This will make you feel secure when you sleep and help you have a good night's kip. When Jim built his bed, he obviously wasn't interested in having much sleep. However, it had come to the point where his lack of sleep, due to the lack of safety he felt from the bed's position, was affecting all areas of his life negatively. He was so tired during the day that he couldn't concentrate at work. He obviously had to be convinced that getting rid of his platform and putting the headboard against the wall wasn't going to cramp his pulling power!

TIP 2. Make sure that when you're lying in your bed that you have the widest possible view of the room and can see the door easily. This commanding position will give you a sense of feeling in control. If the only place for the bed is on the same side of the door, then put a mirror up on the wall opposite the door, so that when you're in bed you can easily see reflected in the mirror anyone who might be coming in through the entrance, without feeling like someone is creeping up on you.

TIP 3. The problem with king beds in America is that they are so big, that the box spring comes in two pieces and that creates a hidden split in the lower layer of the bed and can possibly affect our relationships. Now, you can remedy this in a few ways. Firstly, you can go out and buy a queen size bed or even easier, you can get a red sheet and put it between the box spring and the mattress and visualize the two box springs merging together and unifying your relationship on all levels. Then imagine lots of action! See if that works. In this case, it actually did work for Leslie who is in a very happy marriage.

TIP 4. If you are single and want to be in a relationship, make sure you have two bedside tables on either side of the bed, no matter which side you are on, and enough pillows for someone else to sleep with. By doing this you are psychologically making the space ready for someone to enter and inhabit it.

TIP 5: Getting a new bed can symbolize a new start in life. It's a very powerful symbol of drawing in fresh opportunities. A good time to get a new bed is when a long-term relationship has ended, when one of you has been very ill in the bed for a long period of time, when you are getting married or even when you move house. If you have a bed that has been handed down, in many ways that bed carries the energy from the last person who used it. So when you're ready to splash out, get one of your own.

The last thing that I wanted to say as an added bonus tip this week, which is nothing to do with your bedroom, is if you have a guest come to stay and you have the luxury of choice, try to have the guest room at the front of the house, because if it's at the back they might get too cozy and outstay their welcome. I mean, why leave if you're that comfortable? I went home to London for a few weeks five years ago, and a friend asked me to stay with him. It was meant to be for ten days, but lo and behold, his guest room was at the back of his house and I ended up staying for three months. Now, it so happened that, in this case, it was meant to be, as in that extra time I met my husband, Oliver. Now my friend has moved house and we joke that his guest room is called 'Sophie's room.'

With the bedroom foundation strong, we are now ready to move from the physical aspect of the bedroom to the more emotional aspects of our relationships. Next week: What do you do if your partner's snoring keeps you up all night?

Remember, these tips aren't for everyone, but they might be for you!

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Comments

[Gorsegrower]

Interesting, the bit about placement. Birds have magnetic needles in their brain, so they always know where North is. We don't.

[yappnmutt]

during a visit to japan we stayed in a traditional inn(ryokan). traditionally the bed(futon) is placed in the middle of the room, away from the walls. at this inn, because it caters to western tourists, the beds were placed against the wall. we had a good laugh while we pulled the beds into the middle of the room as did the maids who put the beds away in the morning.

[joebiz]

One sure way for couples to get more sex is to take the TV out of the bedroom. TV is the great satan in the clash of freaks between the sheets.

[Village]

I don't agree. I can't sleep in my bed unless the head and foot are free, and the SIDE of the bed is against the wall. I have to the the head free so my pillow can hang off the end, and the foot free so my feet can hang off the end. (I recently covered a king sized head board and placed it between the side of my bed and the wall. It's just so cozy.)

I have to have the foot of the bed facing the windows. I don't want to see the door or look through the door. The view through the windows is beautiful, and the view through the door is of other doors and walls. Why would I want to look at that?

I don't have any bedside tables. They irritate me. And collect clutter. I don't take things into my bed, so I don't need light, or a place to put the things I'm not bringing into the bed. I'm one of the lucky ones who fall asleep crawling into bed.

[woundedduck]

Red sheet? Visualize? Are we talking The Secret? Uhg.

[dadw5boys]

I guess cutting out any foods with growth hormones in them is out of the question.

I know it make women more secually argessive and men passive.

I think cutting the BGH or other hormones out of the diet should be first thing for a couple.

[boddhisatva66]

Mother77: those details require your bagua number as well for accurate postioning, as well. Great points though.

[LordMoon]

First of all never date anyone who smokes.

They reek of tobacco, and they'll make you sick from "side Streaming".

[Mother77]

You missed not having the head of your bed pointing north, that your feet in the direction of the door is called the corpse position and that you shouldn't face a mirror. Having your head to the east as they practice in Bali is to aide in enlightement, and to the south is for deep rest. Forget the pillows, grab a compass.

[BatMasterson]

I call shenanigans!

Feng shui in BS...it's not even good enough to be a pseudoscience.

[Harinama]

even though you are mistaken about the previous post, who are you to call feng shui bs? Do you also feel acupuncture and energy healing are bogus?

Typical western mindset, if you can't buy it, lord over it and destroy it it doesnt exist.

open up your mind a bit, and realize that just because the WEST hasn't proven something, doesnt mean it is not real or the truth, it just means that the model wasnt set up to be easily discernable.

[Mother77]

These principles come from Vaastu Vidya, a Hindu practice of placement, not Feng Shui.