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Coexistence Is Within Reach: The Making of a Tri-Faith Community Center

Posted: 12/16/2011 2:11 pm

In the late '60s my dad was a member of the Omaha Club -- a club whose members were white, Gentile males. When his friend, Nick Newman, applied for membership his application was rejected. The reason? The Jews have their own club. So to protest that bogus logic, my dad applied for membership at said Jewish club -- Highland Country Club. He was eventually accepted as the first non-Jewish member. Nick joined the Omaha Club and barriers were broken.

Meanwhile, my mother was spending several nights a week as a member of the Panel of American Women. The panel was made up of a WASP, a Catholic, a black and a Jew. These women spoke to various church groups, social groups, high school and college classes, etc., about their personal experiences with discrimination and stereotypes.

As a child, I saw that the actions of the grown-ups around me mattered. They changed the way people viewed each other, the way people viewed the world and they cared about making the world a better place. The bold actions of a few -- despite conflict, controversy and differing opinions -- really can make a difference.

Since 9/11, the Muslim population in the U.S. has grown while prejudice and stereotypes have grown exponentially. In many communities, both large and small across our country, there has been opposition against Muslims building their own houses of prayer. Omaha is not immune to its share of prejudice, fear and ignorance.

Having said that, after 9/11, the rabbi of the reform congregation in Omaha, Aryeh Azriel, joined hands with the members of Omaha's only mosque to protect it if necessary. Thankfully, there was no violence. From that gesture of support, relationships grew between members of Temple Israel and members of the Muslim community. These relationships, like all human relationships, were not perfect -- there was dialect, but there was also discord. Friendships formed. But there were -- and still are -- trust issues. Yet the relationships, like the dialogue, endure and grow stronger.

There was already a longstanding Jewish/Christian dialogue in the Omaha community. These interfaith relationships -- one person at a time, one interaction at a time -- were the seed of what is today the Tri-Faith Initiative, what will be a religious campus with an Episcopalian church, a Jewish synagogue and a Muslim mosque. In addition to the three houses of worship, a tri-faith center will be built to serve as a community center for the three congregations to interact and welcome others open to understanding and respecting diverse religious beliefs.

Why is this work important? Just like when I was a child and my parents stood up to the ignorance and prejudice of their day, real change still happens one person at a time, one conversation at a time, one friendship at a time. Change won't happen overnight but nothing happens if we don't do anything. By building their houses of worship together, the congregants of the tri-faith group are making a long-term commitment to being neighbors and interacting with each other regularly. For many, many years. Yes, they will continue to have difficult discussions -- but they will also have the opportunity to celebrate together and share each other's traditions.

The irony is not lost on me that the location of the Tri-Faith campus is none other than the site of Highland Country Club -- the same turf where my dad made his statement for religious diversity in the 1960s.

At the press conference announcing that each faith group and the Tri-Faith Center had closed on the land -- taking the first of many steps to make the vision a reality -- the most moving moment was when three young people -- one Jew, one Christian and one Muslim -- each came to the podium to offer a blessing, one at a time, in their respective faiths. Listening to those young people, so respectful of each other, and so devout in their own faith, a feeling of hope for the future was palpable in the room.

For years I have had a bumper sticker on my car that says "COEXIST." The "C" is the Muslim crescent, the "X" is the star of David and the "T" is the Christian cross. Despite the hard work that inevitably lies ahead, the work of the Tri-Faith Initiative makes me believe that the sentiment expressed on my bumper sticker is within reach. If not my reach, then the reach of my children.

 
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02:44 PM on 01/01/2012
It is truly amazing that in most inter-faith dialogs/projects etc., in the US they are most often limited to the Abrahamic groups with little or no effort made to include the Dharmic faiths such as Buddhism, Jainism, Hinduism, Sikhism, Taoism, Shinto, Wiccans, Unitarians, Ethical Socities etc. The dire need is for the Abrahamics to understand the socially destructive potentials of their "exclusivity" and appreciate the true secularism and pluralism innate in the non-Abrahamic faiths.

Our country which prides on its separation of church and state and guarantees freedom of religion, still seeks "guarantees" from our political candidates of their commitment to "Judeo-Christian values. And, yet we are quick to condemn other Islamic and non-Abrahamic nations when their populations elect leaders who profess their particular set of religious beliefs and want to have them guide their nation's policies. We have two Indian-Americans (Nikki Haley & Bobby Jindal) who are Governors. But, they could not have been elected had they remained in their birth faiths (Nikki as a Sikh & Jindal as a Hindu)!!

A politician's faith appears to be of little or no consequence in non-Islamic countries of Asia in being elected or appointed as Prime mMinister, President, Governors etc. So, there is much that we Christians can learn from non-Christians and appreciate their inherent universalism which is in my Christian view far superior to our Western Universalism that likes to parade itself as "exceptional" and perched as a shining city on the Hill.
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04:26 PM on 12/31/2011
Christians really need exposure to other religions to move to a deep awareness of our unity with the power of God in all religions so we can also experience a greater good as a result of limiting our negative attitudes. This positive awareness applied to specific needs in our daily life changes our circumstances helping us to pass from hardship and desire into a greater freedom than we have ever known. As we enter into a greater consciousness astonishing things happen that we thought were not possible, but we must take an honest look at our negative thoughts and let them go. Having the determination to expand our positive thoughts and take charge of our life will eliminate many problems, negative beliefs and unhappiness. We must have the courage to move forward into the new Christ consciousness where we are free from pain, desire, fear, conflict and worry.
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iLdoRight
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07:14 AM on 12/25/2011
Out of these movements toward coexistence has there come one person who could qualify as a "true" Christian?
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SouthernRaised
It's the military spending stupid!
07:42 PM on 12/17/2011
"Change won't happen overnight but nothing happens if we don't do anything." So true. The seemingly small acts, such as those by your dad and mom, are often the seeds to a better society for all. Best Wishes to the Buffetts!
03:08 PM on 12/17/2011
What a wonderful concept! It's a fine step in the direction of coexistence.
01:57 PM on 12/17/2011
"Coexistence Is Within Reach"

When a tri-faith community center opens up in Cairo, Riyadh or Tehran there might be cause for celebration. America doesn't exactly need interfaith dialogue...we get on just fine.
11:14 AM on 12/17/2011
As long as we do whatever the Christians and Muslims command us to do we'll get along just fine.
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DrP
07:59 AM on 12/17/2011
I am so proud that this innovative and inclusive effort is centered here in my hometown of Omaha, NE and that I work in the Episcopal church where the Tri-Faith congregation currently meets. Small steps....
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Dan Jighter
06:47 AM on 12/17/2011
Susan,

If your only goal is peaceful coexistence and ending discrimination and stereotypes, then interfaith things like the Tri-Faith Community Center are positively wonderful. If instead you're like me and thinks tolerance and pleasant coexistence must be balanced against other values and goals, including intellectual honesty and avoiding beliefs in absurdities, than this interfaith stuff is not a good thing. So you've gotten all the monotheistic clowns and their silly beliefs under one roof. Perhaps people will get along and confront less bigotry. But the monotheistic beliefs are all still silly.

(Note I'm not just picking on fundies but moderate religion too.)

I agree with Eric14 and Michael Lee Smyth, this does seem to leave out atheists, agnostics, Buddhists, Wiccans, Hindus, etc. So the members of the Abrahamic religions are getting along and talking to each other... so what?! You all originate from Judaism and arguably believe in the same One True God. You aren't going to be discussing how you know your beliefs are true like an atheist would or engaging with the Eastern religions. You aren't going to have to deal with the bigotry against atheists, Wiccans, or others. You're just going to pat each other on the back for sharing similar ridiculous beliefs in one god and getting along. While there's serious intolerance and disagreement within monotheism, isn't this child's play compared to the big picture. You know, not everyone is a monotheist. How about engaging with more than just fellow monotheists.
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06:20 AM on 12/17/2011
What about non religious spirituality? These rigid organizations are ancient and corrupted into power elites of self serving men. I want a spirituality that does some real good. One based on love, not power. With no hierarchies, discrimination, outdated rituals, big money, exclusions. That is a coming together we could all believe in.
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Dan Jighter
06:49 AM on 12/17/2011
Um, what is your definition of spirituality? It doesn't seem to match up with how I would use the term.
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06:55 AM on 12/17/2011
Thought is spirituality.
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Michael Lee Smyth
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02:11 AM on 12/17/2011
Of course this is all good for those who are members of the Abrahamic Trinity. For everyone else, well you can still be protected as long as you are very well organized and have enough pull to make the federal government take notice of you.
I have noticed that while the Abrahamists are all good about getting along with each other with a lot of hearty patting on the back...the rest of us are still considered evil, satanists, or just wierd because we refuse to bow before their mythology.
07:16 PM on 12/16/2011
Atheists, pantheists and polytheists can gather round the back.
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Michael Lee Smyth
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02:11 AM on 12/17/2011
HUZZAH!!!
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BurtonDesque
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03:18 AM on 12/17/2011
I'm a Buddhist and I'll walk right in the front door, thank you very much!
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tutorintoledo
Conservative AND Liberal. Depends on the issue!
05:42 PM on 12/16/2011
This may work, but only for the most moderate (read this as 'those who don't care') of each individual faith.
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03:45 PM on 12/16/2011
They could have saved a lot of money on construction and just built a Unitarian church instead.
12:35 AM on 12/17/2011
Hardly anybody goes to Unitarian churches. They're kind of boring at this point.
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Bibulus
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12:53 PM on 12/17/2011
...you're right because of course the whole point of fellowship and spiritual self examination is to be entertained. Why even bother on a Sunday morning unless there's going to be at least a lazer-light or fireworks show to accompany the sermon?
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EspritDeVoltaire
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03:38 PM on 12/16/2011
We have a large inclusive interfaith community project in Montgomery County which is highly successful in doing good works.
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04:54 PM on 12/16/2011
Was wondering if this is the one in Maryland. I'm not sure there are any participating Mosques.
09:53 PM on 12/16/2011
It's in Omaha. where Susan Buffet's, father, Warren Buffet, lives.
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EspritDeVoltaire
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02:48 PM on 12/17/2011
My comment was for Maryland and yes there are participating mosques.
11:34 AM on 12/17/2011
I love our local Interfaith Thanksgiving service -- Christians come together with Jews, Muslims, Wiccans, Native American spirituality, Nichren Buddhists, (sometimes) yoga, and New Thought. It's held at my spiritual home, the local United Methodist church. Great conversations happen over food, too.