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The 1 Vital Skill You Need to Command Respect Like Beyoncé: Without Sequins and a Pro Styling Team

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Some people just have the Midas touch.

They walk into the room -- and everyone watches.

They take the stage -- and the crowd goes dead silent.

They speak, and everyone listens -- and takes action.

Everything they touch turns to gold.

There is just one thing it takes to command attention -- and get the respect you deserve.

Capturing someone's attention and getting them to do exactly what you want isn't about being the loudest or shiniest one in the room. It's about saying precisely what needs to be said, and not one word more. It's about calculated brevity. And if you study today's top celebrities, you'll see: it's an art form.

Women who learn how to stop rambling and "speak in golden sound bites" have a much better shot at getting the job, closing the sale, earning a raise -- and even getting their kids to behave.

- 5 DON'TS -

Here are 5 communication DON'TS to avoid if you want to command people's attention and inspire adoration and respect -- like Queen Beyoncé.

1. DON'T over-explain.

When asked why she chose to release her latest album without a traditional marketing campaign, Beyoncé simply said: "I make my best art and just put it out. And that's why it's out today." End of story.

Brevity is powerful.

2. DON'T apologize.

Women have a terrible tendency to apologize, even when there is absolutely no need. Mincing and prefacing comments or requests with "I'm sorry" and "excuse me" invites people to perceive you as weak or submissive.

After her sister was caught being "drunk and belligerent" in public, Beyoncé's family released a simple statement: "Families have problems and we're no different. We love each other and, above all, we are family. We've put this behind us and hope everyone else will do the same." No room for further discussion.

3. DON'T be afraid to be honest.

Women often censor themselves in public, saying what they think others 'want' to hear. They succumb to "the disease to please".

Beyoncé isn't afraid to express controversial and unpopular ideas -- like the fact that losing weight actually takes a lot of hard work. At a live concert, she explained to her fans, "I had to lose 60 pounds. They had me on that treadmill. I ate lettuce!"

4. DON'T let others control the conversation.

I see this all the time. Women asking, 'what do YOU think?' instead of taking a strong stance and being brave enough to state their own thoughts, feelings and desires first.

Beyoncé, on the other hand, shares exactly what she wants to share, and not a word more. For example: the first time the world got to hear a single peep out of Beyoncé's daughter's mouth was in a music video for Beyoncé's song, "Blue." All controlled and produced by Mama Beyoncé, of course.

5. DON'T ramble.

This is THE biggest DON'T of them all. If you want to command people's attention and garner respect, brevity is king.

Beyoncé's lyrical "sound bites" are so brief and memorable they become instant slang -- on the tip of every fan's tongue. The phrase "I woke up like this" is a perfect example -- so popular, it's even been immortalized as a gold coffee mug.

Whether you're a frenzied mom trying to get the kids to pick up their clothes, a job-seeker prepping for an interview, or a consultant trying to seal a major deal, just about every woman can learn a thing or two from media-savvy celebrities like Beyoncé.

In today's day and age, where the average attention span is literally less than a goldfish, learning how to speak in powerful 'sound bites' is not optional... as a woman, if you want respect and results, it's everything.

How can you get the Beyoncé touch and make every head in the room snap up when you walk in, command attention at a media interview or a meeting, or even get your kids to pick up their clothes?
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