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Adult Children

Survival Story: Visiting Adult Kids

Felice Shapiro | Posted 10.02.2012 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

My Mom role has changed -- my boys are men and they have their own lives. On this trip, I learned that there is joy in being an observer, giving them space and in so doing, finding some great space of my own.

The Un-Empty Nest

Lisa K. Friedman | Posted 09.02.2012 | Fifty
Lisa K. Friedman

Whoever coined the phrase "the empty nest" didn't have real children.

Will They Still Love Us When We're 64?

Jane Adams Ph.D. | Posted 08.29.2012 | Fifty
Jane Adams Ph.D.

As a generation, we've changed the boundary between parent and child by enlarging the definition of the relationship to include 'friend.'

Health Care Ruling Good News For Struggling Young Adults

Posted 06.28.2012 | Business

The kids are alright. As part of its landmark decision to uphold most of President Obama’s health care law, the Supreme Court kept a provision t...

Father's Day Without a Father

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 08.05.2012 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

It's impossible to explain to others who haven't been through losing a parent what it feels like -- how much a parent can be missed, even at the age of 50, 60 or more.

More Alzheimer's Patients Living Alone | Posted 05.07.2012 | Fifty

WASHINGTON — Elaine Vlieger is making some concessions to Alzheimer’s. She’s cut back on her driving, frozen dinners replace once elaborate cook...

The 'Tin Can Telephone Award' This Week Goes to: Adult Children Who Don't Call Their Parents... Enough

Pat Gallagher | Posted 06.24.2012 | Fifty
Pat Gallagher

When my children lived at home, at least they were visible when they came out of their rooms. They had to eat.

Letting Go Of My Son, And Getting Him Back Again

Lisa Belkin | Posted 05.17.2012 | Parents
Lisa Belkin

The 21st birthday that seemed impossibly distant back then is now here -- and with its arrival comes my realization that I have been planning for it before you and I had even met.

How My 20-Something Children's Simple Gestures Surprised Me

Bonni Brodnick | Posted 04.29.2012 | Fifty
Bonni Brodnick

When our children are young adults, do we have any place to "comment" on uncombed hair, cracked nail polish, table manners or strange outfits? Do I have the right to tell them to mind their Ps and Qs and while they're at it, pick up a brush?

What Do Our Kids Owe Us?

Deborah Gaines | Posted 03.31.2012 | Fifty
Deborah Gaines

I've seen the damage that can come from withholding love out of fear that there might not be enough go around. With our children, especially, caring needs to be its own reward.

What Do You MEAN You're Not Going To College?

Karin Kasdin | Posted 03.25.2012 | Fifty
Karin Kasdin

A large number of our young people are wasting valuable time and money in college when they could be learning a trade, working as apprentices, becoming entrepreneurs, or working in community service.

Why I Told My Daughter to Quit Her Job

Holly Robinson | Posted 03.19.2012 | College
Holly Robinson

My daughter is the poster child for why college matters. She did everything right, and lo and behold, the system worked. Slowly, though, things unraveled.

I Still Need My Mommy ... Even at 30

Mary Kate Sheridan | Posted 03.18.2012 | Fifty
Mary Kate Sheridan

Just because we're not in pigtails and OshKosh B'gosh anymore doesn't mean that we don't need some one to clean a scraped knee or scare away the ghosts under the bed.

The Paradox Of Spending

Mary Quigley | Posted 01.21.2012 | Parents
Mary Quigley

What does it really cost to have a boomerang kid? Let's examine some of those necessities.

Penn State Scandal Presents a Teachable Moment

Mary Quigley | Posted 01.14.2012 | Parents
Mary Quigley

The teachable moment for us parents that Penn State drives home is the ongoing role we play to help our children make moral decisions. Most likely, our children will never be confronted with such a horrific situation. Instead they face a thousand cuts of ethical quandaries.

Empty Nesters, Be Warned: More Young Adults Are Moving Back Home

Posted 01.05.2012 | Fifty

In Italy, they're known as "mammone", a staple of adult men living with at home with their mothers. In the US, they're known as "losers", and they're ...

Why 'There's No Place Like Home' For Boomerang Kids

SFGate | Posted 12.17.2011 | Fifty

Danny Guo came marching home two years ago as a corporal from the U.S. Marine Corps, thinking the country he served would be a land of instant job opp...

Death by Tchotchke

Susan Orlins | Posted 12.14.2011 | Fifty
Susan Orlins

There would be irony in getting snuffed out by my stuff, since one of my biggest worries happens to be that I'll drop dead and my children will have the burden of sorting through everything.

Facing An Empty Nest? Cheer Up And Rejoice

The Huffington Post | Evan Allis | Posted 12.14.2011 | Fifty

You love them, sacrifice for them and root for them when no one else will -– it’s the unspoken promise of parenthood: “You are my child and I wi...

Boomers, Butt Out of Your Adult Children's Lives

Ken Solin | Posted 12.12.2011 | Fifty
Ken Solin

So, butt out of your adult children's lives. Trust them enough to give them the latitude to become the men and women you hoped they'd be. After all, you raised them to have good values and judgment.

That Wedding Bell Could Have Been Mother-in-Law Hell

Sally Abrahms | Posted 12.02.2011 | Fifty
Sally Abrahms

We live in an ageist society, where old and infirm family members are often invited out of obligation, not genuine desire.

When Parenting Your Parent Gets Tough: A Daughter's Dilemma

New York Times | Posted 11.30.2011 | Fifty

My mother had just completed her first physical in about seven years. The new physician was young, energetic and articulate. His respectful handling o...

A Sunday Drive

Randi Miller | Posted 11.20.2011 | DC
Randi Miller

My parents and I wound our way into D.C. and my father parked the car behind some obscure but fancy little church. As we walked toward the church, my father announced that this is where they were to be buried.

Choosing My Parents

Susan Orlins | Posted 10.16.2011 | Parents
Susan Orlins

Whenever I would leave them, my dad would say, "Oh, Sooze, it's such a short visit." He wouldn't say more, because that's the way he was. He never wanted to impose on his children.

Why Some People Go Crazy When Their Children Get Married

May Benatar, Ph.D., L.C.S.W. | Posted 09.17.2011 | Parents
May Benatar, Ph.D., L.C.S.W.

This is a moment in which we may feel enormous loss, depression, deflation. We are challenged on so many fronts, but a significant one involves having to face something of which we may not have been aware: the secret plan we never knew we had for these later chapters in our life.