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The Cocaine of Relationships: Are You Hooked?

Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks | Posted 09.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks

We're talking about the insidious habit called blame. That's right, blaming your partner (or yourself) can actually become an addiction -- a habit you and your partner can get hooked on, and one that slowly drains the vital energy from your relationship.

The Business of Business Culture: Shift From Blame to Brave

Mona Patel | Posted 08.28.2014 | Business
Mona Patel

A blame company culture chips away at employee morale, wastes precious resources and suppresses employees' innovative, proactive mindsets.

Your Relationship's Biggest Enemy -- And How To Avoid It

OWN | Posted 08.05.2014 | OWN

As it turns out, all is not fair in love and war. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, a clinical psychologist at Northwestern University, says there is one thin...

Positive Divorce: From Blame to Forgiveness

John McElhenney | Posted 07.20.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

Positive divorce is a choice. And the process to get there requires time, insight, and often the help of professionals. But the alternative is bitterness and continued failings at love relationships as you make the same mistakes.

The Danger of Blame

Jeff Steinmann | Posted 07.01.2014 | Comedy
Jeff Steinmann

There is a very dangerous drug on the streets that nobody is talking about. It's called blameoin (pronounced: blame-o-win). Blameoin is a drug that m...

How to Deal With Life's Little Lessons

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

So rather than hiding under a rock, I have learned that processing each lesson the universe sends me is essential for my well-being. I have learned that if I don't want to have to learn that lesson again, I need to do three things: Eat it, digest it and eliminate it.

Non-Reactive Listening

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Jules and Sue came into marriage counseling clueless as to why there was so much pain and suffering in their relationship. After listening to each of ...

Why The Effects of Blame Kills Productivity

Gil Laroya | Posted 05.31.2014 | Business
Gil Laroya

My dad is retired US Marine Corp. He fought for our country in both Vietnam and in Korea. As a Platoon Sergeant, his goal was to complete the missions...

8 Telltale Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating

Corri D. Fetman | Posted 03.30.2014 | Divorce
Corri D. Fetman

It is amazing to me how many people ignore the telltale signs only to learn that the person they shared a bed, their body and innermost dreams and secrets with has instantaneously become a "frenemy."

Gratitude: A Reflection

Eric Simpson | Posted 02.25.2014 | Religion
Eric Simpson

The more my focus is on another person and what their merits and deficits are, the less likely I am to see myself clearly. Moreover, the less we are inclined to compare ourselves with others and judge others, the more likely we are to partake of genuine gratitude.

Does Your Relationship Have IDD? -- Part 2

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 02.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

IDD (Intimacy Deficiency Disorder) is an insidious relationship-threatening condition that if unaddressed can undermine and severely damage even the m...

Accepting Responsibility

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

As the language suggests, it is a "response ability" -- the ability to choose our response in every moment to all that is going on around us. A choosing that allows us to claim ownership of the circumstances of our lives, and thereby, to contribute to making them better.

Republicans, You Are to Blame! Get Over It

Atiba Madyun | Posted 01.23.2014 | DC
Atiba Madyun

They reaffirmed what many in this nation want to deny. We the People, moved FORWARD! It is time for YOU, the Republican Party to do the same, or be left further BEHIND!

Is This The Secret To A Happy Marriage?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 11.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Interrupting the daily routine with a getaway isn't a luxury, it's a necessity. And for us and many others, these breaks have meant the difference between having a thriving relationship and getting a divorce.

Emotional Intimacy: It Doesn't Just Come Naturally

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 11.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The less frustrated and disappointed we feel, the less likely it is that our attempts to create shared emotional closeness will be experienced as criticism by our partner, and consequently, the less likely it will be that they will respond defensively to us.

Why We're So Quick To Punish The 'Bad Guy'

Posted 07.30.2013 | Healthy Living

Was it clearly an accident, or more of a malicious move? How we perceive an action affects how we judge it, according to a new study from Princeton Un...

Is Your Partner Disappointing You? 4 Steps to Getting What You Need and Want

Anat Baniel | Posted 09.16.2013 | Parents
Anat Baniel

One of the biggest challenges for a woman in any relationship, particularly when she has a child with special needs, is the expectation that your partner is going to automatically do what you think he should be doing.

The Subtraction Game

Eldon Taylor | Posted 09.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Eldon Taylor

What is fear but an emotional assumption that we lack the ability to negotiate a desired quality of life?

Don't Believe Everything You Think

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 09.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The fact that so many marriages end in disappointment for so many couples is a reflection of how many people continue to opt for the illusion of myths rather than to challenge the assumptions on which they are based.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: 4 New Insights To Make It A Little Easier

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 09.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

Usually what people want is a loving, cleansed, varnish-free, more enlightened version of their ex. And unfortunately this fantasy doesn't exist or you'd still be together.

Forgiveness

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 08.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

Forgiveness means that you are choosing to release the grip you've continued to allow people and situations from your past to have over you in the present. It is a gift of acceptance you give to yourself; the very gift that allows for true freedom from all that has come before.

5 Questions To Ask Before Ending A Friendship

Shasta Nelson, M.Div. | Posted 08.21.2013 | Women
Shasta Nelson, M.Div.

Very few people are actually "toxic" (a word thrown around way too easily these days!), but that is not to say that the friendship you co-created with someone might not be meeting your needs anymore.

Blame and Punishment: When Mea Culpas Are Simply Not Sufficient

Jay Halfond | Posted 07.30.2013 | College
Jay Halfond

The recent Internal Revenue Services targeting of the Tea Party implicated many -- where the lines of responsibility are fuzzy and perhaps even arbitrary. And just this past week, the dean of Harvard College resigned amidst a scandal-within-a-scandal.

Are You Certain That Your Divorce Is All Your Spouse's Fault?

Mark Baer | Posted 07.22.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

If you can think of even one positive thing that ever occurred from blaming others, please continue doing so. We can't change others, but we can change the way in which we act and react. Maybe people would benefit from accepting responsibility, instead of blaming others.

Beating the Odds of Divorce When Your Child Has Special Needs

Anat Baniel | Posted 07.17.2013 | Parents
Anat Baniel

It's often said that parents of children with special needs divorce at a higher rate than the general population. So, I asked John Gray: What do you think are the causes and what suggestions can you give to these parents?