Most of the conversation has focused on the double standard of refusing membership to openly homosexual adults as leaders. However, there hasn't been any discussion about another qualifier in the proposed language -- "alone."
The Boy Scouts of America tries to pretend that LGBT people aren't morally straight. That's the entire basis for keeping us out of scouting. Well, I have news for them: There's a long list of straight people who've been involved in scouting who are not morally straight.
Every Boy Scout memorizes the Scout Oath, which requires him to be "morally straight." The Boy Scout Handbook says this means, among other things, that he should "respect and defend the rights of all people." It doesn't add, "unless they are gay."
I am a Boy Scout. As a matter of fact, I'm an Eagle Scout. And yet I cannot continue to serve the organization that played a large part in shaping who I am today. Why? Because of whom I love, which apparently negates the values that were ingrained in me during my years of scouting.
After the latest Boy Scouts news, it dawned on me that there might be something fundamentally different about straight men's sexuality. I'm not talking about the whole being-sexually-attracted-to-women thing. I'm talking about some darker, more shameful secret that no one ever mentions.
The reaction from both sides of the issue suggests that the recommended policy change, allowing openly gay members but keeping a ban on gay adult leaders, was likely doomed for failure the moment it was announced.
Presumably, the Boy Scouts still believe that they must protect their charges from us scary adult gay men. And it's not just a concern about potential attraction. If it were, they'd also ban heterosexual women from being den mothers. It's a concern that we are predators.
I felt violated, because the spirit of Boy Scout bigotry had descended on my home, forcing me to explain to my son that I am not as universally loved as he supposed. This is a state of affairs that my sons had been blissfully unaware of... until now.