My sons take their seats, the motor kicks on and the swings start turning to the right in a soft, careful circle. It is their spotlight. It is as wide as a slow dance and twice as wild. Their hearts beat accordingly. They pass me by again and again. The only thing that changes is the calendar.
At some point down the road, there will be a girl they love more than me. Or maybe just differently. And over the next few years, my job as a parent is to shepherd them through that process, all the while with my heart tethered to theirs.
My love for my boys isn't "equal" in height, weight or circumference. The love I feel for my second is absolutely incomparable to the love I feel for my first. As if it's a different color, a different language, a different texture or a different tonality.
I don't think you can describe a person from any one story. But there is one story that I think it's important to relate, one last story about growing up as kids, because ultimately it's a portrait of who John always was.
Sibling relationships provide your child with their first lessons about how to handle the more difficult aspects of long-term, intimate relationships. Here are some ideas about how to help your kid get the most out of these lessons.
During the first week or so following the death of someone's child, we are pretty clear about how to help that parent. I am concerned, though, that in our culture, we are at a loss for how to help these parents once the first week or so has passed.
Mommy is so sorry. I didn't know that two babies would be so hard. I didn't think I'd treat you any differently than your brother. And I didn't realize how quickly life would pile up and try to steal our special moments from the two of us.
Originally uploaded over 5 years ago, this viral video of baby Charlie biting his brother Jasper earned massive amounts of attention from Internet video and broadcast news outlets for its adorable and quirky brotherly spat.
My younger brother Denny and I fought constantly growing up. Denny was smart, athletic and always got what he wanted... At least that's how it seemed. I guess it's normal to feel that way about your own brother; especially if he's a total ass hat.