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10 Being the Worst Pain You've Ever Experienced in Your Life...

Tristan Higgins | Posted 07.17.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

Sometimes I wonder if the pain is all in my head. If it really hurts or I just think it does. This is especially true whenever I find myself at a doctor talking about my "situation."

Does This Haircut Make Me Look Gay?

Maria Burnham | Posted 06.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Maria Burnham

What I find fascinating is that I went from bi invisibility due to my long hair and "straight" appearance to bi invisibility due to my short hair and "gay" appearance. I had no idea that so many people would feel so strongly about my appearance and my head of hair.

What Butch Looks Like Today

HuffPost Live | Kira Brekke | Posted 04.28.2014 | Gay Voices

Oakland-based photographer Meg Allen embarked on a photography project last spring to explore how the idea of a "butch" woman has changed over time. ...

Bejeweling Your Inner Lyon: An Interview With Lauren Bedford Russell

Tristan Higgins | Posted 06.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

She is a successful and talented jewelry designer. She is charitable. And, did I mention the smoking hot part? Well, after I talked to her I also learned that she is very smart, an extremely hard worker, passionate about giving back, grounded.

Wedding-y Wit and Wisdom: How to Propose to a Princess (Part II)

Tristan Higgins | Posted 03.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

She makes me believe in happily-ever-afters, and I wanted her to be mine.

Wedding-y Wit and Wisdom: How to Propose to a Princess (Part 1)

Tristan Higgins | Posted 03.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

I had given her a cute little promise ring (made from a coconut with a turtle on it -- in Hawaii; don't judge, because she loved it), but it was time to get the real one on her finger.

What Does an Engaged Butch Call Herself, Bride? Umm..

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

We had talked about language not long after we got engaged, but hadn't come to any conclusions. I didn't like referring to myself as the "bride" because that has very girly/feminine connotations to it for me.

Butch Voices

Tristan Higgins | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

I didn't really realize how amazing it would be to be in a room full of butches -- let me repeat: a whole room full of butches -- to look around and see butches everywhere. I was giddy with excitement to... belong. To be a part of the crowd. To fit in. I'd never really fit it before.

What Straight People Think Lesbians Look Like (VIDEO)

Jodi Savitz | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Jodi Savitz

2013-11-21-jodisavitzlesbianstereotypesstill.pngHow would unsuspecting passersby answer the question, "What do you think a lesbian looks like?" The on-the-spot question: "Can you name three lesbians in the media or popular-culture?" Some people's answers may surprise you.

'Where Have All the Butches Gone?'

Roey Thorpe | Posted 12.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Roey Thorpe

The question is driven in part by nostalgia and in part by a discomfort with what seems to have been a shift in the way that young lesbians think about gender. And the first question often leads to others: Why are all the butches becoming men?

'You're Too Pretty to Be Gay' Is Not a Compliment

Anita Dolce Vita | Posted 11.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Anita Dolce Vita

Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise, but believing that there is a point at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that's homophobic.

WATCH: Lesbian Responds To Really Dumb Question About Dressing Butch With... A Watermelon?

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 06.04.2013 | Gay Voices

Lesbians get asked all sorts of silly questions. One of them is, "If you love women so much, how come you don't dress like one?" In the video abov...

12 Steps To Being Butch

Tristan Higgins | Posted 07.06.2013 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

I know that you may be so delighted, so intrigued with my life experiences that you want to know how you, too, can be butch. If only there were an instruction manual. Wait just a tick! I have found such a manual -- which I have written! Read on for a step-by-step guide to being a proper butch.

Lesbians Gone Wild: Dinah Shore Weekend

Tristan Higgins | Posted 06.10.2013 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

Last weekend I went to the Dinah, as we lesbians call it. For those of you who don't know, the Dinah Shore Weekend in Palm Springs is the biggest lesbian party of the year -- our spring break, if you will -- and this year I was single! Here are my highlights, in no particular order.

Why I Hate The TSA

Tristan Higgins | Posted 04.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

I am filing a complaint with the TSA. They need to know what this feels like. They need to make some changes. There should be another way to do this, another way to handle those of us who don't conform to gender stereotypes, so that we don't feel less than human.

Height: The Last Lesbian Prejudice?

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 03.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Once upon a time, I tried not to date anyone shorter then me, not because I think any less of shorter women, but as a femme, I had it stuck in my head that my partner should and would be taller and bigger than me.

When You Realize You're a Lesbian

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 03.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Does knowing you're gay early in life affect what type of lesbian you're going to end up being? Or is a butch a butch and a femme a femme no matter when the proverbial lightbulb goes off that says "Oh, I'm so gay!"?

On Being Butch Jaxon... And Tristan

Tristan Higgins | Posted 06.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

I usually don't have to come out. When I walk into a room, people know I'm a dyke -- unless they mistake me for a dude. Whatev. But recently I had to decide whether to come out. Again. This happened when a reader of my anonymous blog was kind enough to send a post of mine to HuffPost.