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The Unexpected Cure For Decades Of Sibling Rivalry

Jane Heller | Posted 01.24.2013 | Fifty
Jane Heller

I was thrilled for Mom and Aunt Maxine and their new-and-improved sisterhood. So what if they didn't remember names and events and where they kept their reading glasses. Also wiped out were the insults and hurt feelings and you-started-its, and good for them.

Giving and Receiving Are the Same

Linda Noble Topf | Posted 01.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Noble Topf

As a person with illness and in a wheelchair for many years, I am so frequently on the receiving end of other people's attention that I often forget there are many ways I can give.

13 Resources To Help Caregivers Reduce Stress During The Holidays

Huff/Post50 | Rebecca Klein | Posted 11.21.2012 | Fifty

For Tory Zellick, the holiday season used to mean a table full of savory turkey, ham and stuffing, and a delighted mother who gladly prepared each dis...

Questions to Ask Before You Hire a Nanny

Helen Moon | Posted 01.16.2013 | Parents
Helen Moon

If you listen carefully to the answers you are given by a prospective nanny, you will have a really good idea of who the person is that you are interviewing.

Why We Shouldn't Underestimate The Creativity Of The Aging

Kelley Connors | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Kelley Connors

Here's what's key to know: Because of their greater capacity to empathize, older people can have a better sense of the things that may charge up another person's brain and get them excited. This is a caregiver's balm, capture YOUR creative spirit!

How My Soul Mate Became A Ladies' Man (And Why I Loved It)

Marie Marley | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

At lunch with my best friend, Marsha, one day, I poured out my soul about the problems I was having with Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate of 30 years. He had Alzheimer's and was living in a top-notch long-term care facility which specialized in the care of people with dementia.

Dying Parent: Woman Makes Decision About Visiting Abusive Father In Hospice

Lisa Belkin | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Lisa Belkin

A few weeks ago, a reader who we called "SH" wrote to ask advice from readers about whether to go visit her dying father. He had been abusive to her mother throughout a 20-year-marriage, she wrote, and had cut all ties with his children back when SH was still in her teens. She just made her decision.

Living With Alzheimer's, Looking for a Home

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 01.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

We can take each of those seven characteristics of "home" and use them to assess living environments for people with dementia, remembering that significant accommodations may need to be made to recreate the home experience that patients yearn for.

The Truth About Caregiver Burnout, From Dr. Gail Saltz (WATCH)

Posted 08.15.2013 | MarloThomas

Taking care of an elderly loved one can be taxing, especially when you're with them every minute of every day. Psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz spoke about...

How To Survive Living In Caregiverville

Jane Heller | Posted 01.13.2013 | Fifty
Jane Heller

Over 20 years, my husband required dozens of surgeries. I started taking notes about Caregiverville because, as Nora Ephron famously said, 'everything is material; someday you will think this is funny.' Not that being a caregiver is a laugh riot. But when there are moments of levity, you either seize them or go mad.

Being a Successful Caregiver: Getting the Support You Need

Rita Altman, R.N. | Posted 01.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Rita Altman, R.N.

Receiving the news that a loved has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease or a related form of dementia is often life-changing. As our population ages, more and more of us are faced with the difficult reality that our loved ones are experiencing increased memory impairment.

How To Turn Even The Crankiest Medical Personnel Into Buddies

Jane Heller | Posted 11.08.2012 | Fifty

Tell me if this has ever happened to you. You’re taking your loved one to the doctor. Or maybe you’re visiting him or her at the hospital or assis...

Living With the Medical Elephant in the Room

Patrice Bendig | Posted 01.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Patrice Bendig

I write this not only in honor of World Stroke Day, but for the millions on people who are forced to live World Stroke Day every day, and for those who will one day be forced to adjust their lives to a new normal.

When the End Is Near, What Really Matters?

Marie Marley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I felt as if ordering hospice care for Ed would be tantamount to signing his death warrant.

How to Prepare Someone With Alzheimer's for the Holidays

Lily Sarafan | Posted 01.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Lily Sarafan

The holiday season is steadfastly approaching, with stores already full of lights and decorations. Preparing for family gatherings is hectic for all, but this time of year can be especially stressful for those with Alzheimer's or dementia.

Wise Advice from Dr. Ruth on Alzheimer's Caregiving

Marie Marley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Dr. Ruth takes a firm stance on the hotly controversial issue of whether to find another partner. "Though it's not your spouse's fault," she says, "you've been abandoned. If you need the love, the companionship and, yes, the sexual gratification of a relationship, then by all means seek one out."

What To Do if You're Suddenly The Caregiver For A Loved One

Tory Zellick | Posted 12.25.2012 | Fifty
Tory Zellick

My mom placed the book in her lap, looked me in the eye, and calmly uttered three words that forever changed my life: "I have cancer." I was 18 years old.

Who Aging Mothers Most Want To Care For Them

The Huffington Post | Shelley Emling | Posted 10.22.2012 | Fifty

The term "favorite child" is a loaded one. Most recently, daddy blogger Buzz Bishop sparked a public outcry by admitting he had a favorite son. An ar...

The Terrifying Moment My Father Disappeared

Posted 10.22.2012 | Fifty

I heard my mother screaming from upstairs, screaming that she couldn’t find my father. The fact that I hadn’t watched him, that he had escaped the safety of that living room while I slept beside him, shook me.

Singer Amy Grant Talks About Caring For Her Mom And Dad

Posted 10.20.2012 | Fifty

Singer/songwriter Amy Grant, 52, is a six-time Grammy winner. She also one of 42 million Americans who act as caregivers for loved ones. On Friday, Gr...

Senior Moments, or Something More?

Rita Altman, R.N. | Posted 12.18.2012 | Healthy Living
Rita Altman, R.N.

Here are some tips for those who may be concerned that either themselves or a loved one are showing signs of memory impairment and may be struggling with knowing how to differentiate normal forgetfulness from Alzheimer's disease or a related dementia.

Does She Have To Say Good-Bye To A Dying Parent Who Was Abusive?

Lisa Belkin | Posted 12.18.2012 | Fifty
Lisa Belkin

A reader wrote to me at 3 a.m. the other day. Her father, an abusive parent, is in hospice in Florida, about 1,300 miles from her home. To scrape together the funds for travel, and miss work for the days she is away, would leave her destitute, she says. Should she visit him before he dies?

Brilliant Scholar Didn't Regret Losing His Mind

Marie Marley | Posted 12.17.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

We often refer to such people as "walking encyclopedias," but Ed was far more. Ed was a walking library.

Is It Ever OK For A Caregiver To Cheat On A Sick Spouse?

Jane Heller | Posted 11.26.2012 | Fifty

In 2010, on the day my husband Michael was hospitalized for the fourth time in four months, I got an email from an old boyfriend. Talk about irony. Talk about timing. Talk about temptation.

How to Behave When Visiting a Nursing Home

Marie Marley | Posted 12.09.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Visiting loved ones in their nursing homes is essential for your well-being as well as theirs. When your loved one is admitted, talk with the administrator or director of nursing about their policies for visits. Some facilities have written guidelines while others may have unwritten rules.