Something extraordinary happened in that room. In the midst of the roomful of people acknowledging each other for their best qualities, one could palpably feel the energy in the room spiraling up and rising. Until a moment came when the energy had lifted to a place of unification.
If we truly want to create a world where love, caring and compassion comes first, we have to start at the source -- ourselves. It is only through self love that we can begin to give ourselves to others in any beneficial way.
We can control our focus. We can take a step back from the penny and view the enormity and warmth of the sun. We can take a step back from the tree and view the complexity and beauty of the forest. We can continue to give back.
It is common belief that those who have more should help those who don't, which is true a fair amount of the time. There is also a silly phenomenon that I've noticed that is funny because it loops onto itself.
Let us be clear -- we don't advocate suffering. And we're all in favor of happiness (and success and achievement). But we need to be wiser about how children truly become not only moral, but happier and high-achieving.
When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.
Downton is not unlike our own time, and that may also be a secret to its popularity. But if dramatic change was all it had to offer, the series would be depressing, if not also scary. What the characters give us is hope that we can come through both morally and materially intact.
If we want girls to receive positive reinforcement for early acts of leadership, let's discourage bossy behavior along with banning bossy labels. That means teaching girls to engage in behaviors that earn admiration before they assert their authority.
World peace. We all want it, but how can we achieve it? Headlines preach to the choir the ongoing violence and conflict seen not only internationally, but within our own community. Is it only meant to be dreamed of for a utopian society? Will it ever occur?
We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"
True generosity is giving without any thought of getting or receiving. It is unconditional, unattached, free to land wherever it will. Through giving and sharing in this way, we soon find that we do not lose anything. We do not have any less. Rather, we gain so much.
The Richie Incognito-Jonathan Martin incident -- both on and off the field -- reveals a culture where the "rules of the game" at best tolerated and at worst endorsed a "Wild West" culture of meanness, hazing, bullying and anything-goes.
We want our children to learn where we came from, how we got to where we are, and more importantly, who it was that had the ideas, the courage and the determination to change their own world and therewith, ours.
Where is there any good news? The answer lies beneath the surface, under the noise and drama that capture major headlines. Unobtrusive and resilient, the human spirit of kindness, caring and generosity is still thriving.
Who could blame us for wanting people to notice when we do something nice? But what if we keep our kindness private, shared only between us and the person we care about at that moment? That is something I would like to see.