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Scarred, But Never Closed

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.25.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Our trauma, tragedies and losses (infertility related or not) make us who we are. I have learned that I am a better everything because I wanted and loved those babies so much. I am also a better everything because I lost them.

Our Infertility Rap Sheets

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.24.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

As men and women suffering through infertility treatments we are identifying ourselves, sometimes completely, through how many treatments we have endured. We are so much more than this.

A Letter to the 14-Year-Old Girl Trapped in the Darkness of a Body Cast

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Justine Brooks Froelker

Trust that you will thrive through this and that this isn't the end of your story; because, I promise, it is not even close. And try, to hold onto that light just a little, knowing and believing that someday it will flicker again.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 3

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.12.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When it comes to family planning, fertility, infertility, miscarriage, infant loss and recovery, there really can't be too much love.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 2

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.12.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When we practice empathy we connect. When we receive empathy we feel seen, known and loved. In other words, we all feel not so alone in this huge, hard world.

No Really, I Never Want To Have Kids

Literally, Darling | Posted 11.06.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

I am 24 years old and I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that I don't want to have children. Ever.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 1

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.05.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Practicing empathy means being willing to sit with someone in their discomfort. It means being willing to just be with someone, maybe not saying a single word or simply saying, that is so hard, that sucks, I can't imagine, ugh.

The Often Silenced, and Left Out, Parts of Our Infertility Stories

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.03.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must continue to break this silence. It is only through talking about our stories that we will be able to embrace it all. Through this embracing we will be able to practice our recovery no matter what our version of the happy ending is.

Conceiving Our Chosen Family

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.28.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Never could I have imagined I would find myself, my home and my destined chosen family all from a woman I met online.

It Happened to Me: Infertility Treatments Didn't Work and I Defined My Own Motherhood

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.27.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must give ourselves permission to make our own family, however that may look. And, as a society we must all have more fertility compassion for whatever those means are.

Mulling the Motherhood Mandate

Robert Walker | Posted 10.24.2014 | Books
Robert Walker

Given the enormous personal stakes in childbearing, it is surprising that more women have not written a book about the pros and cons that go into making childbearing decisions.

Catherine Pearson

Meet The 20-Somethings Who Want To Be Sterilized

HuffingtonPost.com | Catherine Pearson | Posted 10.28.2014 | Women

They're young and childfree by choice, but can 20- and 30-something women get sterilized? The first time Bri Seeley told her doctor she wanted ...

On 'Who's Happier' Studies: Two Questions to Ask Yourself

Laura Carroll | Posted 10.22.2014 | Impact
Laura Carroll

Why does non-parenthood continue to be pitted against parenthood? It's like continuing to ask: "Are children the key to happiness in life?" and continuing to try and prove the answer is yes. Yet the real answer is already known.

Taking Off the Armor of My 'Choice'

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.22.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I fought really hard to be a mother. I paid lots of money to be a mother. I endured painful tests and procedures to be a mother. I put my body and my surrogate's through synthetic hormonal hell to be a mother. I put my faith and trust in many doctors and other humans to be a mother.

Our Scarred Imperfections

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.21.2014 | Women
Justine Brooks Froelker

We will suffer losses, traumas and tragedies in this life. When we lose one dream we must pick up the pieces and redefine. To wallow in the lost only defines us. To stay stuck on the never to be's only keeps us stagnant in life. To make our scarred imperfections our entire story misplaces them completely.

The Most Ironic Story of Ever Upward

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.21.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

FULL CIRCLE It was a full circle weekend for me returning to the Emerging Women conference, this year in New York City. Last year I attended EW as a ...

An Imposter and Fraud or a Forever Grieving and Healing Mother?

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.20.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

They turned up the lights after one song. We usually sing four amazing rock band-like songs, which is one of the many reasons I love our church. The...

6 Things To Avoid Saying Or Doing In The Presence Of Friends Without Kids

Darcy R. Shapiro | Posted 10.13.2014 | Parents
Darcy R. Shapiro

When we become parents, our lives are so incredibly altered by these amazing little creatures that we often forget that everyone around us isn't as dazzled, in love, impressed, or infatuated with our children.

8 Reasons I'm Not Having Kids (Not That It's Any Of Your Business)

Sezin Koehler | Posted 11.15.2014 | Women
Sezin Koehler

I do not assume that my personal life choices are so fundamental that other people are less human or will live less fulfilled lives because they don't make the same ones.

Aisha Tyler: It's OK To Choose Career Over Kids

HuffPost Live | Ryan Buxton | Posted 09.03.2014 | Women

Aisha Tyler has spoken out about her struggles with infertility before, and she wants other women to know that it's alright to abandon a fruitless eff...

What It Really Feels Like To Be A Childfree Woman

Bri Seeley | Posted 10.16.2014 | Women
Bri Seeley

At the age of 24 I began to ask my doctors if I could be sterilized. Year after year at my annual exam I would state my case -- each year unchanged from the previous year. At each visit my physician told me that I was too young, what if I changed my mind? But the reality was that I didn't change my mind.

Childfree By Choice: How Women are Redefining Tomorrow's Family

Faith Popcorn | Posted 10.08.2014 | Women
Faith Popcorn

Millennial-focused media is just beginning to recognize this emerging mindset and celebrities are popularizing and glamorizing this path, too, with powerful women like Chelsea Handler, Zooey Deschanel and Cameron Diaz leading the charge.

Happy International Childfree Day! Announcing 2014 Childfree Woman and Man of the Year

Laura Carroll | Posted 10.01.2014 | Impact
Laura Carroll

On August 1, 1973, the National Alliance for Optional Parenthood did a wonderful thing -- it celebrated Non-Parents Day by awarding a Male and Female National Non-Parent of the Year. Last year, 40 years later, this day was resurrected as International Childfree Day.

25 Reasons Why Aunts Deserve a Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Melanie Notkin

Babies are born from the womb. Maternity is born from the soul. There are many ways to "mother" a child. Aunthood is as close as it gets.

I Love Kids, But I Don't Want To Be A Mom

Beth Leipholtz | Posted 09.21.2014 | Women
Beth Leipholtz

I absolutely adore children. Or rather, I adore them as long as I can escape from them at the end of the day. And I think that is perfectly OK.