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Forever Changed, Never Fixed

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.23.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Survivors of infertility know how quickly your joyful high can be crushed by the breath-stealing loss of heartbreak.

I Was Ambivalent About Having Kids -- Until I Wasn't

Dana Norris | Posted 12.20.2014 | Women
Dana Norris

I find it hard to believe at first because I don't feel any different. But then days go by and I begin to feel a buzz around my edges. I realize that I, through no conscious effort of my own, am slowly building another person. My husband and I compare bellies in the mirror every night. I didn't think it was possible, but I enjoy being pregnant.

The Semantics

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.19.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I chose the term childfree over childless for the subtitle because I am not less of anything. I am not missing anything. I am not less of a woman because I cannot be a mother in the traditional sense.

If People Who Don't Want Children Said What They're Actually Thinking

The Huffington Post | Alanna Vagianos | Posted 12.17.2014 | Women

"Wait.. you meant to get pregnant?" A new video produced by Buzzfeed illustrates how annoying (and hilarious) life can be for people who don't want...

I'm 40 And I Don't Want to Be A Mom. Now What?

The Cut | Posted 12.15.2014 | Women
The Cut

I knew I did not want this motherhood thing, an idea I had, without much thought, signed off on early on as being something I should want. If fate knocked me up, I'd be okay. But if it didn't, that was pretty great also. Maybe greater.

The Dichotomy of Life

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.09.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

What I am figuring out is that this ever upward recovery I fight to live every day will always be filled with the dichotomy of life.

When We Become a Mother or Father

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.08.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I will never get full understanding from everyone, let alone validation. But, I will still speak my story. I will own all the parts of my story. And, I will continue to fight and break the shamed silence that surrounds infertility, miscarriage, infant loss and recovery.

Defining Our Enoughs and Everythings

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.02.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Defining our everything and our enoughs in order to let go, embrace and move forward. I think we can apply these questions to many areas of our lives that we are struggling with.

An Apology and Thank You to Bobbie Thomas

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.01.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Thank you for your realism that this doesn't always work. Without even knowing it, you had my back in that interview. Thank you for supporting what needs to be the message.

Let's Stop Giving Shit To Women Who Don't Want Kids

Karen Mangiacotti | Posted 12.01.2014 | Women
Karen Mangiacotti

The mandate that you must have children to be a "real woman" is completely false, but you are real. How could anyone ever tell you otherwise?

Scarred, But Never Closed

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.25.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Our trauma, tragedies and losses (infertility related or not) make us who we are. I have learned that I am a better everything because I wanted and loved those babies so much. I am also a better everything because I lost them.

Our Infertility Rap Sheets

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.24.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

As men and women suffering through infertility treatments we are identifying ourselves, sometimes completely, through how many treatments we have endured. We are so much more than this.

A Letter to the 14-Year-Old Girl Trapped in the Darkness of a Body Cast

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Justine Brooks Froelker

Trust that you will thrive through this and that this isn't the end of your story; because, I promise, it is not even close. And try, to hold onto that light just a little, knowing and believing that someday it will flicker again.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 3

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.12.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When it comes to family planning, fertility, infertility, miscarriage, infant loss and recovery, there really can't be too much love.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 2

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.12.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When we practice empathy we connect. When we receive empathy we feel seen, known and loved. In other words, we all feel not so alone in this huge, hard world.

No Really, I Never Want To Have Kids

Literally, Darling | Posted 11.06.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

I am 24 years old and I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that I don't want to have children. Ever.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 1

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.05.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Practicing empathy means being willing to sit with someone in their discomfort. It means being willing to just be with someone, maybe not saying a single word or simply saying, that is so hard, that sucks, I can't imagine, ugh.

The Often Silenced, and Left Out, Parts of Our Infertility Stories

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 11.03.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must continue to break this silence. It is only through talking about our stories that we will be able to embrace it all. Through this embracing we will be able to practice our recovery no matter what our version of the happy ending is.

Conceiving Our Chosen Family

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.28.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Never could I have imagined I would find myself, my home and my destined chosen family all from a woman I met online.

It Happened to Me: Infertility Treatments Didn't Work and I Defined My Own Motherhood

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.27.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must give ourselves permission to make our own family, however that may look. And, as a society we must all have more fertility compassion for whatever those means are.

Mulling the Motherhood Mandate

Robert Walker | Posted 12.24.2014 | Books
Robert Walker

Given the enormous personal stakes in childbearing, it is surprising that more women have not written a book about the pros and cons that go into making childbearing decisions.

Catherine Pearson

Meet The 20-Somethings Who Want To Be Sterilized

HuffingtonPost.com | Catherine Pearson | Posted 10.28.2014 | Women

They're young and childfree by choice, but can 20- and 30-something women get sterilized? The first time Bri Seeley told her doctor she wanted ...

On 'Who's Happier' Studies: Two Questions to Ask Yourself

Laura Carroll | Posted 12.22.2014 | Impact
Laura Carroll

Why does non-parenthood continue to be pitted against parenthood? It's like continuing to ask: "Are children the key to happiness in life?" and continuing to try and prove the answer is yes. Yet the real answer is already known.

Taking Off the Armor of My 'Choice'

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.22.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I fought really hard to be a mother. I paid lots of money to be a mother. I endured painful tests and procedures to be a mother. I put my body and my surrogate's through synthetic hormonal hell to be a mother. I put my faith and trust in many doctors and other humans to be a mother.

Our Scarred Imperfections

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.21.2014 | Women
Justine Brooks Froelker

We will suffer losses, traumas and tragedies in this life. When we lose one dream we must pick up the pieces and redefine. To wallow in the lost only defines us. To stay stuck on the never to be's only keeps us stagnant in life. To make our scarred imperfections our entire story misplaces them completely.