With some hard work and a few key action steps, I can now see my ex's name pop up on my caller ID and not have a pit in my stomach. Is it perfect? No. Do I feel like we're in a good place? Yes. I only got there because I decided to get there.
What is revealed about the maturity of the person demanding no contact for others? These are all very interesting questions to me. Dear readers I am very interested to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Whether you agreed on parenting styles before separation or parenting was one of the primary issues in your divorce, your family is changing, for better or worse. These changes don't have to be detrimental; positive outcomes are possible.
You can't control the pettiness of your ex. Who you can control is you. You can decide you aren't going to be petty anymore. That's all you have to do. Just say you're not going to be petty anymore and that's it. Just say it and you'll feel better.
You may be angry about the situation, but don't be angry with the kids. Trust us, blaming the kids caught in the middle of this situation won't help. There are times we say you have to take a "grown-up pill" and this is one of them.
Even a well-handled divorce is a huge upheaval. For your kids, as for you, the first step toward adjusting to the "new normal" is facing and working through the tough feelings associated with the changes and losses they're experiencing.
How many of you would consider sharing a checking account with your ex after the divorce is final? I'm not just talking about the joint bank account, where only specific funds are deposited and withdrawn for spousal and child support monies. I'm talking about a truly shared account.
Welcome to the unknown, brave new world of co-parenting, or perhaps its more complicated sibling, co-parenting with stepparents! Splendid. Little disagreements that turned into giant disputes when you were married are now exponentially worse as a divorced couple.