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3 Things Kids of Divorce Want Most

Honoree Corder | Posted 07.25.2014 | Divorce
Honoree Corder

Divorce is a grown-up experience that can bring us to our knees. In addition, it can hurt our kids very deeply as they have neither our years of experience, nor our understanding.

The Money After Divorce Manifesto: A Neverending Story

John McElhenney | Posted 07.11.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

Money after divorce can be a nightmare. Even when you are hurt and grieving you have to continue the painful negotiations and discussions about money. If you've got kids, you never escape the money matters meeting, but now you have to do it under duress and potentially adverse interests.

Prayer for Single Parents, and My Ex

John McElhenney | Posted 07.07.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

Communication is the key. The less we communicate... The more we communicate... It can be hard. And it is often the cause for friction in this co-parenting dance.

5 Custody Myths Separating Parents Should Know

Carla Schiff Donnelly | Posted 06.10.2014 | Divorce
Carla Schiff Donnelly

Custody cases can be contentious, expensive and painful for all involved. Parents are often flooded with war stories of their cousin's neighbor's bes...

The Cheat Sheet All Co-Parents Should Read

Honoree Corder | Posted 06.04.2014 | Divorce
Honoree Corder

No grown-up child of divorce ever says, "My mom complained about my dad and I took her side. It was awesome." They will tell you they felt unsure and insecure about their life. They will say they felt put in the middle.

Co-parenting Tip of the Day: Don't Give Spineless Support

Christina Pesoli | Posted 07.23.2014 | Divorce
Christina Pesoli

Spineless support is when a parent deliberately leaves the tough decisions and unpopular positions to his ex, so that he can be more popular with his kid by comparison.

The Truth About How Hard Single Parenting Is

Lara Lillibridge | Posted 06.25.2014 | Divorce
Lara Lillibridge

If you are contemplating leaving your marriage, it's probably not because you are happy. Parenting when one or both of the parents are miserable is far more difficult.

My Unconventional Family Dinner

Today's Mama | Posted 03.23.2014 | Parents
Today's Mama

The family dinner that's most important in our house is not the typical weeknight meal where my son, Javier, mumbles something about his day after an onslaught of questions from me. The one we treasure is the monthly meal we share with my ex-husband, Ed, who lives in another state.

Holiday Advice From A 'Broken' Family

Michelle Lamar | Posted 02.02.2014 | Divorce
Michelle Lamar

Before the divorce, my family was a like blanket that kept my children warm with its love. After the divorce, my family resembles a quilt. But a blanket and a quilt still serve the same purpose.

The Straight Dope About the Holidays: What to Expect, How to Make It to the New Year

Alison Patton | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Alison Patton

Holidays are stressful in general. And so is divorce. Combining them can be the final straw that pushes some people into depression. If this is your holiday experience, get the support you need to make it through but don't be too alarmed. It's par for the course and next year's holiday season will be much easier.

Listening to the Little Man Inside, Healing Our Hearts

John McElhenney | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
John McElhenney

I am not the healer. But I can see the need for that masculine energy in their lives. Even in my own son's life. I see that he misses me.

Reconnecting With Children You Left Behind

Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D. | Posted 11.06.2013 | Divorce
Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.

Having grown up or cleaned up or moved past your anger or pain from the divorce, you can re-establish or create an important role in your child's life -- even many years later.

Love, Marriage and Grey Divorce Italian Style

Tara Fass | Posted 10.19.2013 | Divorce
Tara Fass

Ulysses is a contradiction. He's traditional enough to believe minors should reside primarily with their mothers and bohemian enough to want an open relationship.

5 Ways to Create a Parenting Partnership

April McCormick | Posted 08.28.2013 | Parents
April McCormick

If you harbor animosity about the fact that you are doing all the work, you have to decide whose fault that it. If you jump the second your child needs something, then what kind of message are you sending your parenting partner?

10 Things Co-Parents Need to Know About Parenting Coordination

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 08.25.2013 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Next to the divorce itself, co-parenting is the single cause high-conflict divorcees use most to perpetuate litigious behaviors, resulting in unnecessary stress on the children, exorbitant legal fees, and a burden on an already over-extended court system.

The Cheater's Guide to Divorce

Kate Scharff | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Kate Scharff

There are lots of ways to end a marriage, and they all stink. No matter how tactfully it's delivered, if the message is "I don't want to be married to you anymore" it will inflict pain.

An Interview With Deesha Philyaw of Co-Parenting 101

Magda Pecsenye | Posted 08.11.2013 | Divorce
Magda Pecsenye

Today I'm interviewing Deesha Philyaw, co-author (with her ex-husband Mike Thomas) of the book Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive In Two Households After Divorce.

My Kids Are Struggling Because of Our Divorce

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 07.29.2013 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Adjusting to divorce takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself so you can be there for your kids. If you take things slowly and prioritize your energy so you're focusing on the things that nourish you all, you and your family will get through this rough time.

My Ex Keeps Trashing Me to the Kids! What Should I Do?

Kate Scharff | Posted 02.21.2014 | Divorce
Kate Scharff

It takes practice, but you can learn to address misinformation about you (and redress the emotional damage it causes) without resorting to counterattacks or pulling your kids into an alliance against their other parent.

'Divorce Made Me A Better Mother'

Posted 04.10.2013 | Divorce

An upside of divorce? It can make you a better parent. Just ask author Eileen Workman. In a HuffPost Live segment on Tuesday, Workman said that he...

What I'm Not Afraid To Admit About My Ex

Marcelle Soviero | Posted 06.03.2013 | Divorce
Marcelle Soviero

"I envy couples who got it right the first time."

Why You Shouldn't Stay Together For The Kids

Rosalind Sedacca | Posted 06.02.2013 | Divorce
Rosalind Sedacca

Stay together for the sake of the kids? Generations of miserable parents followed that, advice hoping their sacrifices would pay off for their children in the end.

Why I Went To Bat For My Ex (And You Should Too)

Judith Ruskay Rabinor Ph.D. | Posted 06.01.2013 | Divorce
Judith Ruskay Rabinor Ph.D.

I understand how angry people can feel in the midst of a divorce, how vicious they can behave when they feel hated, betrayed and cheated. Because when I got divorced, I shared many of those sentiments.

Why I’m Thankful For My Ex

Annette Powers | Posted 05.18.2013 | Divorce
Annette Powers

I have a true partner in my ex-husband, who is a devoted and loving father.

Why I’m Excited For Valentine’s Day... As A Single Woman

Annette Powers | Posted 04.15.2013 | Divorce
Annette Powers

I know Valentine's Day is a silly greeting card holiday that shouldn't really matter to me -- and yet, it does. As a single woman, all the hearts and flowers can be a painful reminder of what I don't have. As a divorced woman, they can be an even more painful reminder of what once was.