If you're a naturally go-with-the-flow type person, or just shy, you may have, like me, interpreted an instinctual fear of rejection as a reason you shouldn't talk to that cute girl or approach Joe Cool. You've developed a habit that transforms fears into subtle lies and excuses.
Everything you need to know about being fearless you can learn from watching children. They play with each other without ever knowing each other's names. They run, jump, climb, fall down and get right back up again. They are also our greatest teachers.
It is easy to understand the reactions of those who respond to the emotional vampires in their lives with umbrage, anger, ridicule and pain. Those feelings are real, but in choosing to nurture them we imprison ourselves.
My own fears were not about the people I loved rejecting me. They were all fears about those outside of my immediate circle of trust and love.... In naming and befriending my fears, their power to confine and define me was deflated.
As we approach February and the theme of love, I know of no better way to begin what is coming in the next few weeks than to share an interview with someone well-versed in the affairs of the heart: Agapi Stassinopoulos.