So you're a single midlife woman and you care about sex? Then say so in your online dating profile. And no, I'm not just talking about women who are looking for casual fun, although that's a perfectly acceptable choice. I'm talking about any sexually charged woman who believes that good sex is a vital component of a romantic relationship and doesn't want to settle for anything less.
Dating should be fun, even if a little exhausting at times. Dating over the age of 50 isn't always pretty. You know yourself better than you did at 30, have less patience for the endless BS, and it is endless, and it's difficult to find someone with whom you want to spend however much time you have left.
If you met an attractive man at a party, you would be showing him your best side and flirting up a storm. Your online dating profile is no different. It's the first introduction a man has to you. You are literally marketing yourself to the male population online. For some women that sounds horrid but in real life we do it all the time.
Growing up as a product of the '60s and women's lib, which by the way did awesome things when it came to opening doors to previously unattainable careers for women, I learned to follow a philosophy of never needing a man except to make a baby. So like many women of our generation, I became a powerhouse who stepped on men regardless of their feelings.