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Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

'Til Death Do Us Not Part: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Deceased Spouse

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 07.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

You will likely always long for their physical presence, but recognizing that you still have a relationship is one way to soothe the sorrow. Staying connected fortifies you so that you can engage with life, connect to the living, and make meaning out of your loss.

What it's Like Pocket-Dialing a Dead Parent and Being Emotionally Triggered by Five Guys

Meaghan McGoldrick | Posted 07.08.2014 | College
Meaghan McGoldrick

Death is kind of like a bad break-up. There's a lot of ugly crying, fetal position dry heaves, binge drinking and subsequent after-hours spent reaching for the phone. The only difference is that, this time, there's no chance of reconcile.

A New Look at the 7 Emotional States of Loss

Dr. Natasha Josefowitz | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Natasha Josefowitz

Even though people grieve in many individual ways and need different types of support, there are common feelings and behaviors that most people exhibit in a continuum. I found that emotional states after the loss of a spouse had enough similarities that they were worth examining further.

Notes From a Home Funeral

Rebecca Novick | Posted 06.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Rebecca Novick

It felt intensely natural to take matters into our own hands this way. American families had conducted their own funerals for hundreds of years. When had our loved ones been taken from us by the institutionalization of death?

How Are Baby Boomers Handling the Death of Their Parents?

Gloria Horsley | Posted 06.25.2014 | Fifty
Gloria Horsley

Early in her bereavement, she kept hearing, "Oh, you're amazing." Rather than making her feel encouraged, it made her feel that she was not showing the traditional response, and thus she was not grieving correctly.

Dear Kids: Read This in the Event of My Death

Leigh Koechner | Posted 06.19.2014 | Parents
Leigh Koechner

I believe that there are no coincidences and that every interaction in our life, in our days, is an important, meaningful one -- and oftentimes a gift.

Seven Lessons I Have Learned From The Dying

Smita Malhotra, M.D. | Posted 06.12.2014 | GPS for the Soul
Smita Malhotra, M.D.

There is wisdom that comes when a person faces his or her own mortality. The best way to honor the lives that we have lost is to learn from them and make our own lives even better.

Losing a Spouse to Cancer

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.26.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

For all who have lived through these long, protracted battles, I dedicate Memorial Day to our spouses, our loved ones, who finally succumbed. But not with a fight. A national holiday to honor their true fighting spirit. And a way for us to always remember.

World's Worst Website for Moms Has Constant Traffic

Jody Becker | Posted 07.20.2014 | Parents
Jody Becker

Two years ago, I launched MomAlways.org, a website that has no business getting international traffic almost every day. But most mornings when I look at the website's analytics, I see a mix of visitors.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.

Go Ahead and Die Already (Luke 24:13-35)

Rev. Dr. Stephanie Buckhanon Crowder | Posted 06.28.2014 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Stephanie Buckhanon Crowder

We appreciate life, but we are seduced at the intricacies and unknowns of death. While there is much enjoyment and celebration over health, personal accomplishments, births and birthdays, people the world ponder the 'what ifs' concerning the end of life.

Religion Not Needed to Cope With Death

Roy Speckhardt | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Roy Speckhardt

While the prospect of permanent nonexistence is terrifying for some, it can also be comforting. As humanists, we don't bank on an afterlife unsupported by the evidence.

The Challenge of Being Present With My Daughter As My Father Is Dying

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 06.15.2014 | Parents
Elizabeth Flora Ross

It is so strange to go about your normal day-to-day activities when one of your loved ones is slowly dying. I find parenting to be particularly challenging right now. Being present with my daughter is hard. So is being patient. I am distracted. Full of emotions. On the edge.

'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process

Megan Devine | Posted 06.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.

San Pantera: Santa Muerte's First Saint

R. Andrew Chesnut | Posted 06.07.2014 | Religion
R. Andrew Chesnut

David Metcalfe, author, researcher and founder of Liminal Analytics (website) co-authored this piece....

Ann Murray Paige: The Story of Amazing Light and an Unfinished Box

Sarah O'Leary | Posted 06.08.2014 | Impact
Sarah O'Leary

Breast cancer claimed and lost an activist on March 16th, but God Himself knows she was so much more than that. A loving family surrounded by scores of close friends lost a mom, a wife, a sister, a daughter and cherished friend.

If It Isn't Meant to 'Cure' Grief, What Good Is Therapy?

Megan Devine | Posted 06.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

A good therapist is a wonderful thing: They know that there is nothing about you that's wrong. They know their role is to listen and validate, to come up alongside you and provide support.

Death, Dying and Finding Meaning in Loss

Joel Readence | Posted 05.31.2014 | Gay Voices
Joel Readence

I think as a society, if we were able to take the focus off the way a person died and focus on the manner in which they lived, the loving presence they held in our lives and the fact they continue on in another form, our mourning process would be kinder and gentler.

Dying to Be Me Author, Anita Moorjani, on Healthy, Fearless Living

Ingrid Peschke | Posted 05.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Ingrid Peschke

Anita Moorjani has a recipe to fight cancer that might catch some by surprise. The New York Times bestselling Dying to be Me author revived from a...

Review of Christian Wiman's 'My Bright Abyss: Meditation of a Modern Believer'

Catharine Stimpson | Posted 05.24.2014 | Religion
Catharine Stimpson

My Bright Abyss is not a smarmy story that can be easily shared on a TV talk show about the miracle of surviving cancer. It is a meditation, a genre that is thousands of years old, in which a writer or speaker thinks about and arduously contemplates his or her experience.

One Mother Challenges Five Common Myths About Death and Dying

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 05.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

I do not subscribe to death, per se. Rather, I believe in transition... the transition of souls.

As Life Ends -- Forever Begins

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 05.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

What happens when we pass? Where do our souls go when our bodies die? Is there life after "death?" Is our time here on Earth all there is? Allow me to...

Pain Is Not Redeemed by Art: Grief, Loss and Creative Practice

Megan Devine | Posted 05.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I've been a writer all my life, and a visual artist, too. When I was in private practice, I used creative tools with my psychotherapy clients, drawing...

A Letter to People in Pain: The Early Days of Grief Are a World of Their Own

Megan Devine | Posted 05.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're here, in the early days, and the universe has just split open and everything has changed, I'm sorry you're here. Others have come before you, but that doesn't really matter now.