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Death Amp Dying

A Reprieve From Grieving the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 04.23.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

It was like my memory only went back two and a half years, to the hospital room after Rob's original surgery, waiting for him to wake up. That is my image. With amnesia for any life of my own before that moment. And now the memories are coming back. Filling the blank spaces in me.

An Unexpected Life Preserver After the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 03.29.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I found this poem, again. Rob believed that he had experienced a life/death choice during his surgery and wrote this poem from it. I always read it thinking of cancer and illness and death. Now I feel he wrote it as a lifeline to me.

Facing the Great Unknown

Deborah King | Posted 03.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Deborah King

When I got the call on Christmas Eve, I thought, "This is it, my mother is dying." But with hands-on care, this 89-year-old woman fought off yet ano...

Defining Death: Four Decades of Ambivalence

American Anthropological Association | Posted 03.19.2014 | Science
American Anthropological Association

The case of Jahi McMath, the 13-year-old girl declared brain dead at Children's Hospital Oakland on Dec. 12, is but the most recent example of a 40-year-old national perplexity and the controversy that it is capable of unleashing.

In Times of Pain, Illness, Suffering, and Dying, 'That Which Is Shareable Is Bearable'

BJ Gallagher | Posted 03.18.2014 | Media
BJ Gallagher

As writers themselves, you'd think that the Kellers would appreciate the power of writing as a process for understanding life and coming to terms with painful experiences. Writing is a powerful way of connecting with others. Writing helps us reach inward -- and upward -- to find the holy, the numinous, the transcendent.

10 Must-Have New Year Resolutions for the Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It's that time of year again. We are all getting peppered and pelted with those endless ads and commercials designed to help you "start the New Yea...

In Awe of Me

Debbie Fink | Posted 07.10.2014 | Women
Debbie Fink

I didn't like being the benchmark for which "strong" was based. Rather, I just wanted to be "Debbie": normal, cancer-free and worrying about which pre-natal vitamins to take, not what chemo won't make me vomit, mortality and, worst, not being able to have kids of my own.

Protect Her 'Till I Get There

Jason A. Atkinson | Posted 02.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Jason A. Atkinson

I read somewhere the reason men like me fall so hard for dogs is because dogs can only do one emotion at a time. We know, the moment we first call their name, if they are happy, sad, preoccupied, or would rather not get up from their warm beds.

Why We Need To Change Our Approach To Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 02.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

The stages of grief were not meant to tell you what you feel, what you should feel, and when exactly you should feel it. They were not meant to dictate whether you are doing your grief "correctly" or not. They were meant to normalize a deeply not-normal time.

How to Help a Grieving Friend: 11 Things to Do When You're Not Sure What to Do

Megan Devine | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Above all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend's life, without flinching or turning away. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts.

Upon the Death of My Mother: Bridging Two Realities

David Bedrick | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
David Bedrick

I visited my mother just a few months before she passed; that was about two years ago now. We went out to dinner in a restaurant attached to a casino....

Death and Dying: Personal Goals at End of Life

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

This study is evidence of what can go wrong when doctors, patients and families fail to have frank and open communication about end-of-life care. It is also, in the clarion call of its conclusion, "a first step toward refocusing care on treatments that are more likely to benefit patients."

A Family Christmas Tragedy: Psychological Reflections on One Mother's Road to Recovery

Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D.

At this Christmas time, we can rejoice with ad agency executive Madonna Badger in her recovery from the unspeakably tragic loss of her three young daughters and her parents in the fire that destroyed her Connecticut home two years ago.

Giving Thanks for a Sweet Goodbye

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

In my years of working with grieving clients, I have all too frequently heard grievers lament "Why didn't we ever talk about death when she was alive?" "I wish we had been able to say goodbye." On the other hand, seldom have I heard regrets from people who did have the conversation.

Death Is Not Destroy

Yasmin Grothé | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Yasmin Grothé

At one point I called him one night, panic-stricken, asking what I was going to do without him and he calmly said: "But sweetheart, if death was such a huge problem, don't you think we would have found a solution already?"

10 Things Death Can Teach

Cassie Premo Steele | Posted 11.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Cassie Premo Steele

When I was studying Mexican literature in graduate school, I learned about the Days of the Dead, which were celebrated just a few days ago. While most people here in the United States rarely celebrate death, I have come to learn that there are many lessons that death can teach.

Inside An NYC Park: A Discovery

Bonnie Gleicher | Posted 01.23.2014 | New York
Bonnie Gleicher

The 40 to 60-somethings: They bring a book to read, every now and then looking up at the strollers passing by. But the 70-year-olds and up -- the ones who have lived the most life -- they arrive at the park with nothing. No phone, no book.

How to Write a Condolence Letter: 5 Suggestions

Kathleen Buckstaff | Posted 11.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Kathleen Buckstaff

Who knows what to say when someone dies? Often, not knowing what to say, we put off writing the note and eventually don't say anything. The intention to write is there, but what to say isn't easy or obvious.

Just Keep Breathing: Coping With the Loss of a Young Adult Child to Cancer

Pat Taylor | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Pat Taylor

What I did to keep breathing is different from what someone else will choose to do. I think that is the key word: choose. We can either choose to follow our child into the grave or learn to live without them. Live or die? Cancer stole their young lives... will it steal yours, too?

Don't Be Afraid to Touch Death

Judith Johnson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

How sad to live in a lie at the end of one's life. How sad to risk regrets, not realizing the blessings that come with the alternative -- a depth of intimacy that we may never have experienced before and that will never be available again.

Why I Still Believe in God

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 01.23.2014 | Religion
Kristin Meekhof

Often during these conversations, the question that I am most frequently asked is this: How do you trust in God after your husband died? My answer is always hesitant because there are days when I'm not sure how or why I continue to believe.

The Light Side of the Top 10 Darkest Dreams

Kelly Sullivan Walden | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kelly Sullivan Walden

It's that time of year when the veil between worlds is thin. "What worlds?" you ask. The world of the so-called living and dead. Halloween is the t...

Ghosts, Goblins and Grief

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

Holidays are a mixed bag. A griever can't help but have mixed reactions to certain accessories that characterize Halloween and Dia de Los Muertos. If you know someone who is grieving, be sensitive to their perceptions and reactions.

How We Die Is Not Our Whole Story

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

My parents and I heard phrases like, "What a waste." At grief groups, I was embarrassed to say how he died. As if him dying from drugs and alcohol meant I had less of a right to be there than if his life had been claimed by a car accident or a heart defect.

The Gravity in Gravity

Rabbi Daniel Cohen | Posted 12.17.2013 | Entertainment
Rabbi Daniel Cohen

In my mind, the film is about transcending gravity; the quest to live life a few feet off the ground. The Kaballah teaches that growth and impact emerge from living outside our comfort zone. The ground offers security but the most memorable moments in life and fulfillment arise when we strive to live a little higher and brighter.