My Uncle Frank once walked into a restaurant (alone) and ordered dinner for two. "Shall we wait for your other party?" the waiter asked. Uncle Frank patted his ample belly. "This is the other party," he replied.
The unfairness issue crops up often among chronic dieters: "It's unfair that everyone gets to eat whatever they want [and only I have to limit myself]." Aside from being erroneous, this sabotaging thought leads dieters to feel resentful.
Being comfortable with a new healthy lifestyle is definitely a goal we all are striving for. We just need to remember, that with the comfort level we can't let slip the focus that got us to that comfort level in the first place.
Sometimes, with my own clients, I prescribe a similar strategy for dealing with stress eating. There isn't a pill or a medication. Instead, there are certain foods that can help reduce emotional eating. Yes. It's ironic that food can prevent overeating.