I told her that when my husband left, he didn't ask for anything. Not a single photograph. Not any artwork the kids had made. He wanted nothing, not a single remnant nor reminder of our 15 years together.
Rather than its original intention, of making things easier, I believe all this new technology has added more stress to our daily lives. But it's not all bad. Some very clever entrepreneurs have stepped up to lend us a virtual helping hand.
We simply do not like to talk about our problems openly. Perhaps we haven't really learned all the skills to communicate in a way that is geared towards truly listening to each other, working things out and finding a middle way.
It's comfy to repeat the same old sob story where your ex sucks and you don't. However, you are better than that. You don't need to put anyone down in order to lift yourself higher. Know that life is more rewarding when you aren't looking for the fault in others.
When I mention to people that I'm a divorce lawyer, they usually joke about how they hope they'll never need me. But then, privately, they pull me aside and ask me the questions that they have clearly been carrying around with them for some time.
I have been divorced for nearly two years, and I'm still not ready to have someone in my life. The idea of talking to someone every day or seeing someone all the time makes me feel claustrophobic just thinking about it.
Sometimes if I've been in a group of new people and it's relevant, I've mentioned that I'm divorced. That's a fact. But I don't want my identity to be "divorced." Divorce is horrible, even if the net result is positive.