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I Can, Too, Quit You, Ray Rice

Ethlie Ann Vare | Posted 09.17.2014 | Women
Ethlie Ann Vare

Here's my modest proposal: We have, in only a few decades, changed society's acceptance of another addiction: tobacco. Can we make it as socially unacceptable to hit a woman in a elevator as to light a cigarette in one? I think we can. And I think we can do it the same way.

NFL Has Opportunity to Enforce #NoHitting Policy

Areva Martin | Posted 09.16.2014 | Parents
Areva Martin

We can't expect adults to refrain from violence if, as children, they learn it's acceptable when cloaked in terms of "discipline." We cannot interact in ways that rely on or revert to any form of physical and emotional battering, even if we label it "discipline" or "tough love."

Why I Didn't Leave. Until I Did.

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 09.16.2014 | Fifty
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

There has been excellent conversation noting the complexity and reality of the danger an abused woman faces. The impact of the emotional abuse and isolation she has likely suffered for months or years prior to that.

Why 'Boys Will Be Boys' Is No Longer An Excuse For Domestic Abuse And Sexual Assault

Tom Allon | Posted 09.16.2014 | Impact
Tom Allon

Silence is not acceptable. Sweeping problems under the rug is not acceptable. "Boys will be boys" is no longer acceptable as a credo.

Misogyny and Homphobia in the NFL: Is America's Crisis of Masculinity Playing Out in Its Favorite Sport?

Michelangelo Signorile | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Michelangelo Signorile

The only way to change professional football is at its foundation, transforming the culture in our schools and what defines masculinity -- and what defines being a girl or a woman or gay or transgender -- and, most importantly, that needs to happen within sports programs, not separate from them.

Just Desserts: The Bad Taste of the NFL

Marla Romash | Posted 09.16.2014 | Women
Marla Romash

The NFL hires women consultants, tries to sound contrite not because they are suddenly learning about all the violence that's spilling from playing field to home (or elevator), but because they are realizing it could cost them women fans and dollars.

The True Meaning of the Ray Rice Scandal

Garret Kramer | Posted 09.16.2014 | Sports
Garret Kramer

Ray Rice did damage. His actions were completely unacceptable. But like Ray Rice, I've done damage. My behavior, a few times in my life, has been completely unacceptable. And the same goes for you and the many people who've jumped on the bandwagon of judgment.

Melissa Jeltsen

Kerry Washington Sheds Light On An Invisible Kind Of Domestic Abuse

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.16.2014 | Women

Kerry Washington wants to keep the conversation about domestic violence going. On Monday, the Emmy-nominated actress spoke out about an often-over...

Raise Voices, Not Fists

Melanie Young | Posted 09.15.2014 | Women
Melanie Young

The NFL has the voice and the audience of so many men in this country. Think of the impact it could make.

The NFL - Pivotal Moment, Not PR Nightmare

Chris Komisarjevsky | Posted 09.15.2014 | Sports
Chris Komisarjevsky

With the power and popularity of football as its leverage, the NFL must take a leadership role and set the standard by having what would be considered the strongest enforcement policy on abuse, anywhere.

Sunday Roundup

Arianna Huffington | Posted 09.14.2014 | Politics
Arianna Huffington

This week, the country had a national teach-in about domestic violence courtesy of a grainy elevator video showing Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice knocking out his then-fiancée Janay Palmer. The dark, disturbing images sparked the soul-searching coast-to-coast conversation this issue deserves. In the two days after the video's release, calls to the National Domestic Abuse Hotline shot up 84 percent. And while some shamefully implied that victims who stay in abusive relationships are somehow culpable for their abuse, the hashtag #WhyIStayed, begun by Beverly Gooden, provided a harrowing array of deeply poignant answers. Though questions remain about what NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell knew and when he knew it, it's clear this issue goes far beyond the NFL. Ray Rice is just the tip of the iceberg -- beneath it lies a culture and legal system that perpetuates this kind of violence in millions of cases that we never see.

There's Nothing Domestic About Domestic Assault

B. D. Colen | Posted 09.13.2014 | Politics
B. D. Colen

We should not give this kind of assault a special name and put it in a special category that ultimately belittles it, fails to protect society, and robs victims of justice. By calling it "domestic assault," as we have for so long, we put a white picket fence around it and in some weird way prettify it. Which is utterly inexcusable.

Ray Rice and Friends: Why Are We Surprised?

Rick Horowitz | Posted 09.13.2014 | Sports
Rick Horowitz

Violence, on and off the field...

The Real Questions We Should Be Asking About #WhyIStayed

Megan Foo | Posted 09.15.2014 | Teen
Megan Foo

Scrolling down these tweets, I couldn't help but wonder: how many more women bear the same brunt of intimate partner violence? How many more women struggle to break the vicious cycle of violence and reconciliation that keeps them holding on to abusive relationships?

Janay Palmer Rice: An Abuse Victim Taking the Blame

Joanne Bamberger | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women
Joanne Bamberger

There's a lot of chatter online as women share their stories of abuse. Some people in the conversation who are critical of Janay for staying in her marriage with her abuser claim that we are victim-blaming her and not being supportive or understanding of another couple's marriage.

Pistorius Negligent But Not Guilty of Murder: Sadly, I'm Not Shocked

Dr. Peggy Drexler | Posted 09.13.2014 | Women
Dr. Peggy Drexler

The Pistorius decision reflects a culture-wide challenge to hold accountable abusers and others who perpetrate domestic violence.

Melissa Jeltsen

'When I Realized That One Of Us Was Going To Die, I Knew I Needed To Leave'

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

This story, as told to Melissa Jeltsen, is part of "Why Didn't You Just Leave?", a HuffPost series on domestic violence in which six women share their...

Melissa Jeltsen

‘Why Didn't You Just Leave?' Six Domestic Violence Survivors Explain Why It's Never That Simple

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

Family Read Lisette’s story » ...

Melissa Jeltsen

'He Did Everything He Could To Beat Me Down Until I Felt Worthless. It Almost Worked.'

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

This story, as told to Melissa Jeltsen, is part of “Why Didn't You Just Leave?”, a HuffPost series on domestic violence in which six women share t...

Melissa Jeltsen

'Once You Have Established An Intimate Relationship With A Person, It's Human Nature To Bond With Them'

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

This story, as told to Melissa Jeltsen, is part of "Why Didn't You Just Leave?", a HuffPost series on domestic violence in which six women share their...

Melissa Jeltsen

'I Couldn't Afford The Life We Had Established By Myself. I Was Drowning.'

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

This story, as told to Melissa Jeltsen, is part of "Why Didn't You Just Leave?", a HuffPost series on domestic violence in which six women share their...

Melissa Jeltsen

'You Can Either Have Your Friends And Your Family, Or You Can Have Me'

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

This story, as told to Melissa Jeltsen, is part of "Why Didn't You Just Leave?", a HuffPost series on domestic violence in which six women share their...

Melissa Jeltsen

'I Believed I Could Love The Abuse Out Of Him'

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women

This story, as told to Melissa Jeltsen, is part of "Why Didn't You Just Leave?", a HuffPost series on domestic violence in which six women share their...

Video Shows Need to Confront Domestic Abuse

Elizabeth Ann Thompson | Posted 09.11.2014 | Sports
Elizabeth Ann Thompson

The NFL needs not only to punish players who engage in domestic violence. It also needs to educate all its players about this issue.

Behind Elevator Doors: It's Time for All Men to Stand Up Against Domestic Violence

Victor Rivas Rivers | Posted 09.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Victor Rivas Rivers

We should acknowledge that the movement to end violence against women and domestic violence was championed and led by women. The news this week brings a reminder that it's time for men, all men, to be a part of the solution.