In childhood, shame leads to avoidance and withdrawal and then, in adolescence, to desperate attempts to alleviate, or get rid of, this painful state of mind. Many experiences that evoke a feeling of shame are uniquely painful, and the feeling of shame, perhaps more than any other emotion, stays with us.
Brian knew that he was different. He loved to be read to by his parents and had a voracious curiosity, but when it came to reading a book on his own, Brian failed miserably. He couldn't read the text on the page and words got jumbled. Some teachers thought him lazy. "How could this bright boy with intense listening skills not keep up with his schoolwork? Try harder!" they said. Reading was more like an elusive puzzle than a way to absorb information. Years went by and his grades fell, and his parents weren't getting help through his school. After searching for more answers to their son's reading difficulties, Brian was diagnosed with dyslexia -- the inability to decode printed words.