Standing behind our lived experience is an 'ideal' of how we think -- or perhaps it's a preconscious knowing -- this relationship could be or should be. The Father, we feel, should bring out the highest in the Son.
At one point I called him one night, panic-stricken, asking what I was going to do without him and he calmly said: "But sweetheart, if death was such a huge problem, don't you think we would have found a solution already?"
As a lawyer working with low-income single parents and their children, I saw first-hand the unique frustrations of the young Black and Latino fathers that I worked with as they attempted to effectively parent the children they loved, while also navigating the trials and tribulations of adolescence.
Have we done what we need to do to protect the people closest to us who will be left behind? Are our spouses, our children, or are partners prepared to make important decisions on our behalf, and have we given them clear instructions for doing so? I
The next lesson I learned was that the concept of the 'evil stepmother' developed for good reason. Unfortunately, there is an inherent conflict of interest between a new spouse and children from a prior marriage or relationship.
When people consider the impact of divorce on children, they typically focus on minor children. Is this because they somehow believe that once children reach the age of majority, their parents' divorce doesn't affect them?
It's good to rally and march; coming together for a common cause can be mentally and emotionally healing. But right now, I do not want to be approached by anyone who does not look like me to discuss the verdict.
How do you protect a child from harm, make sure they do what needs to be done, learn what they need to learn -- while at the same time making sure they don't conclude I'm powerless or I'm not good enough?
I know you didn't expect most of this. I know you never realized how this incredible amount of love and stress and self-doubt could all stem from even one small child in your life. I know you wish you could do it better.
"Dad, I'm gay. Please don't hate me," I said. He responded, "I love you no matter what. And I'm happy you're out now and can be yourself. I always knew you were gay. I was just waiting for you to feel comfortable enough to tell me."
Twelve-time WWE World Champion John Cena joined What's Trending at the SXSW Samsung Blogger Lounge to talk some smack about The Rock, tease WrestleMania 29 and share how he engages with fans on Twitter and YouTube.
Parents are realizing that just keeping their children safe in a crash isn't the end-all, be-all of car seats. We also need to think about the long-term implications of exposing our kids to the toxic chemicals the seats can be made with.
My dad's time away with his friends was on a golf course. He never really mastered the game, but he didn't really care. That's because dad was with his guy friends, relaxing in nature, taking his frustrations out on a little white ball.
Without state support for early parenting, being present in those precious early months is a class-based privilege, one that ultimately exacerbates the very class disadvantage that creates unequal access to the luxury of parenting in the first place.