Examine what holding patterns you may be settling for. Tell yourself the truth and examine the options. When two people are making skillful relationship choices, there is no limit to where things can go.

Life changes when you make it okay to fail. To me, the only true failure is not making an effort toward what brings you joy, and the only way you can do this is by making it okay to fail.

There are numerous benefits to lightening up, for ourselves (both physically and emotionally), and for the world at large. And lightening up doesn't mean you turn a blind eye to issues that need to be dealt with.

My favorite definition of surrender comes from the website TinyBuddha: "Surrender is complete acceptance of what is, knowing it will all be okay, ...

If "fear" didn't exist, what risks would you take? The question may inspire endless fantasies (and please, spend some time relfecting), but it also...

Fear. We all deal with it at some point in our lives, but never had it been such an all-consuming part of my life until my cancer diagnosis.

Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you would do that? Here are some of the beliefs that might trigger your fears or your resistance to taking loving action in your own behalf.

How to answer to fear is different in every case. What is important is that we do not automatically react to fear by either doing the thing that scares us or not doing it. Fear is just a warning light, there to alert us that we need to inquire more deeply into ourselves.

Positive thinking is a good thing. But without being vigilant about the power of negative thinking, all the good thoughts in the world will not defeat negativity if you give it space to flourish.

There's a bright light of awareness that shines through each of us and guides us home, and we're never separated from this luminous awareness, any more than waves are separated from the ocean.

We can choose to let fear be a noose around our neck, holding our breath through life. We can choose to hold onto what we believe we can control, saying no to experiences that may seem risky. We can choose to be satisfied, but less than passionate. Or we can choose to cut the cord.

Life has its ups and downs, and it's not unusual that we should feel a need to be comforted when we are more aware of the downs. Because of past programming, though, too often our ways of comforting ourselves are less than ideal, especially in terms of our health.

In helping them navigate the wild world of dating, I hear their complaints, and there are many. Overwhelmingly, the biggest one from the guys is about who should pay on a date and also how to deal with people they take out who don't thank them or are seemingly ungrateful.

If I allowed it, I could "what if" myself into a state of total paralysis. But I'm not going to do that. Fear is the only thing keeping me from living a full life, not cancer or car crashes.