Why would someone make the choice to be miserable? Because it is often a way of getting attention and of attempting to get someone else to be responsible for them. If this is what you want, here is a roadmap to make sure you accomplish your goal!
If you look at our culture's eating behavior, it certainly looks like addiction. Any situation is an opportunity to eat. Once we've started eating we don't seem to know when to stop, even when we want to, even when we know we're hurting ourselves.
The food industry brings in serious muscle to bully us into eating too much of all the wrong things, while someone counts the cash. Any conversation about personal responsibility or public policy that fails to acknowledge this reality is either disingenuous, or uninformed.
The cycle of overeating and obesity can be broken. Those trapped in it know what it feels like, but putting our heads in the ground and wishing it would go away will not work -- anybody who has lost weight only to gain it all back and then some knows what I mean.
Now, close to 20 years since those early, painful days when I first discovered I was not alone, my life has completely changed. That person I was all those years ago is not who I am now. But I still remain an addict. It is who and what I am.
Although curbing cravings can be difficult, particularly if you are already in a pattern of indulging, it is possible to better understand your cravings and make even small changes that have a lasting impact on your willpower.
Every year I used to lose the same 10 or 15 pounds every summer, only to gain them back by Thanksgiving. One year I wondered if it was the cookies. My husband said, "Duh." On a whim I made him a bet: I would only bake the cookies, not wear them on my hips.
Various schools around the country are banning Flamin' Hot Cheetos. But what makes Flamin' Hot Cheetos so different from other junk food that it deserves its own special ban in schools? And why are schools in the business of selling this stuff?
I might not live longer, but I feel great. That makes passing up the French fries -- and the French toast, drizzled with so much butter and syrup even the new me pauses for a moment of wistful -- so worth it.
There are many things in life we can't control. If you have a weight issue, sometimes it may feel like you can't control how much or what you eat. You may feel like you're at the mercy of the food. I certainly did.
You can read every diet book and try every weight-loss drug and every new diet, but if you don't learn to manage your painful feelings in ways that don't cause even more pain, you will not lose weight or keep weight off.
On top of the government, medical, and celebrated health organizations' support of factory-produced food, we are inundated from birth with brilliant advertising indoctrinating us with messages that factory food is healthy, sexy, and satisfying.
I'm not perfect, but what's wonderful about eating a plant-based diet is, I don't have to be. What has happened over the years is that feeling good has become its own addiction. I like it. I want to feel even better.