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'Father Hunger' Doesn't Mean You're Gay

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 08.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

I know that I am inviting controversy by claiming that some straight men seek sex with men, especially because I have found that "father hunger" can be a contributing factor. However, there is a world of difference between what I am claiming and what the reparative therapists claim.

PrEP'd and Ready

Michael LaMasa | Posted 08.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

PrEP has magnificent potential to prevent infection. It has the potential to provide many with a chance at a more comfortable life, but I would encourage the gay population to be responsible and remember that none of us are invincible, no matter what powers we think we possess.

I'm White, Gay, and Dating a Black Man: What I've Learned About Racial Profiling

Jeza Belle | Posted 08.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeza Belle

Over the years, the startling consistency of the manner in which I am addressed while he is ignored has become a quasi joke between us.

Everyone's a Little Biased

Dr. Carmen Cruz | Posted 08.22.2014 | Latino Voices
Dr. Carmen Cruz

As a diversity trainer and psychologist, I've heard how classism, racism/colorism, and homophobia hurt others. Given that understanding differences is a slow process in our self-development, I believe there are three steps to move yourself along the continuum.

Sex, Intimacy, and Being Gay

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

Sex seems central to intimate and romantic relationships. If it is a means of intimate communication, and communication is the secret to a lasting and healthy relationship, why don't we gay men talk about it that way more often?

The Muscular Elephant in the Room: Gay Men and Steroid Use

Renato Barucco | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Renato Barucco

The title's muscular elephant is not a pun; it's purely proverbial: We don't talk about anabolic-androgenic steroid (AAS) abuse in gay men, but we know it's there.

Turning 20 Twice

Joe Hutcheson | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Hutcheson

I now find myself turning the age that is supposed to be "the new 30," but that feels like a mathematical impossibility. I've realized that it's not the aging process itself that I fear. I do my best to fear only things I have some control over, like icky spiders and abdominal fat. It is the stigma of age that I fear most.

Why I Prefer Side-by-Side to 'Top' or 'Bottom'

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 08.22.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

My preferring not to have intercourse might be less about a distaste for the actual act (or pain, or boredom) than it is about the way in which too many guys approach it, not just as the endgame but as the only way to truly score.

How a Young Boy Knows He's Gay

Randy Eddy-McCain | Posted 08.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Randy Eddy-McCain

As I reflect on that innocent horseback ride with Paul, I see it now as a time when my natural, God-given sexuality was beginning to take shape. I cherish the memory of that time with my young friend. Unfortunately I was robbed of the joy of being able to celebrate my coming of age.

Here's Why Lesbians Are More Likely To Orgasm Than Straight Women

The Huffington Post | Cavan Sieczkowski | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices

Lesbians are apparently having better sex than straight women. A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine focuses on how sexual or...

How To React If Your Teammate Comes Out To You

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 08.19.2014 | Sports

There's only one way to react to teammates who come out: SUPPORT THEM. It's just that simple. Respect them -- exactly as you would any other ...

Social Media's New Dark 'Secret'

Michael LaMasa | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

Bullying and taunting follow people through their entire lives, and it's not just a problem for our children. Just ask the drag queen who was brought to tears onstage during a late-night cabaret show in New York when discussing recent anonymous attacks against her on Secret. Who benefits from that?

The Duality of Being a Gay Christian

Glenn Garner | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Glenn Garner

As a gay Christian, I have only faced true discrimination for one of these identities. Here's a hint: It's not Christianity. When I tell someone I'm Christian, they don't come up with a series of offensive questions and remarks. I have never felt threatened or in danger when praying or practicing my Christian beliefs. Christianity is not an oppressed identity.

WATCH: This Policeman's Impromptu Dance Performance At Pride Is Everything!

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices

Have you ever been so psyched to celebrate something that you just can't help but break into dance? This Swedish policeman has. In this video fr...

LGBT Parenting and the Flaming Hoops of Second-Parent Adoption

Allison Auldridge | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Allison Auldridge

The hoops that LGBT parents and families jump through to protect and assert our rights are consistent reminders that we remain on unequal footing with our straight peers.

High on Heels

Michael Rohrer | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

Sometimes a man's gotta do something that's out of the ordinary. Sometimes he has to push himself. Sometimes a man's gotta walk into a shoe store and buy a pair of heels.

ACT OUT: Enabling the LBGT Actor's Inherent Tendancies

J.W. Harvey | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
J.W. Harvey

If good acting is dependent on accepting & accessing the quirks, quarrels and quests of a performer's own life, Act Out suggests that there is no greater well to draw from than members of the LBGT community.

What Women Want

Robin Koerner | Posted 08.15.2014 | Politics
Robin Koerner

Feminism is about enabling women to have what they choose. But women choose to feel like women - to experience the delectable polarity of the female and the male, and that requires a culture that empowers, and celebrates, both.

Here, Kitty, Kitty - It's Time for Change

Judge Kemp | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Judge Kemp

On the verge of my 50th birthday and with all the fear-inducing cancer-metastasizing now luckily behind me, I'm done. I'm not afraid anymore.

Grammy-Winner Estelle: Being Told I Couldn't Make It Helped Me Understand LGBT Struggles

Pollo Del Mar | Posted 08.15.2014 | San Francisco
Pollo Del Mar

Warning to small-minded people: Don't mess with Estelle's gay fans! With choice words for the narrow points-of-view which "seem to run the world," the Grammy-winning singer admitted negative attitudes toward the LGBT community "really bug" her.

Online Foreplay and Bringing Sexy Back

Brandon Andrew Robinson | Posted 08.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Brandon Andrew Robinson

Online foreplay is a conversation that allows individuals to mutually share their fantasies and sexual wants. Users can erotically turn each other on while trying to express their desires and sexual practices. This online foreplay becomes a way to negotiate one's sex life.

Chelsea's Legendary Alan's Alley Video Reopens... Here's Why It Matters

Christopher Lee Nutter | Posted 08.15.2014 | New York
Christopher Lee Nutter

Alan's Alley is more than a store -- it's a real New York experience, and a precious Chelsea treasure. If you are a New Yorker -- and especially if you live downtown -- here's why you should drop by the new location.

O Captain, My Captain: Thank You, Robin Williams

H. Alan Scott | Posted 08.14.2014 | Entertainment
H. Alan Scott

I had the great opportunity to share a meal with Robin Williams. Let me clarify, in no way were we close. But in that moment, talking with him, seeing that man that so changed my life, who in unexplainable ways has contributed to my being an openly gay writer/comedian, I'm overwhelmed with emotion.

Suffer Little Children

Stephanie Mott | Posted 08.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Stephanie Mott

More and more people are choosing not to be identified as Christian. Does anyone really wonder why? The persecution is coming from the very people who are claiming to be the victims. They have attacked Christianity at its very core.

Southern Gay Men and Interracial Dating

Glenn Garner | Posted 08.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Glenn Garner

I notice the all-too-familiar hums of gossip coming from the corner. Their whispers and stares fail to attain a level of subtlety. Although it's not uncommon for gay guys to judge each other, this time is different. Their gossip is aimed at the interracial couple who just walked through the door.