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My Abusive Relationship: My Metamorphosis

Lani Buess | Posted 09.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Lani Buess

I questioned why I continued to stay. Was it habit? Some sadistic sense of comfort? Did I think we'd change back into the people we once were? I'm not a weak person. I grew up in such a loving home. My parents have a beautiful marriage. What's wrong with me?

What's It Like Being Blind and Gay? (VIDEO)

Nathan Manske | Posted 09.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Nathan Manske

2014-09-20-20140918GeorgeWalkvid.pngGeorge Ashiotis started going blind when he was 5 years old. When he was a teenager, he worked at Lighthouse as an assistant counselor, helping younger visually impaired teens. After helping his sister dye her hair black, he ended up going to work with black fingernails, leading to his first experience of homophobia.

Yes, It Does Matter If Jonathan Bennett Is Gay And Out of the Closet or Not, And Here's Why

Noah Michelson | Posted 09.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Noah Michelson

This has nothing to do with privacy. I'm so tired of people blabbering on about how we need to respect people's privacy. Sexuality shouldn't be a private matter. It certainly isn't for straight people.

Evangelicals for Marriage Equality: A Response to Our Critics

Brandan Robertson | Posted 09.18.2014 | Religion
Brandan Robertson

Unfortunately, the arguments leveled against us by our critics had little to do with our mission. Instead, we faced mischaracterizations that bore only a passing resemblance to our statement of belief, and even faced some misguided attacks on our personal standing as evangelical Christians.

To Our Future Baby:

Anthony Romeo | Posted 09.17.2014 | Gay Voices
Anthony Romeo

By the time you read this, we might all be in very different places in our life. I might be chubbier, your Dad might have more gray hair than he had when I wrote this. It might be 2024, it might be 2034, or later.

How the Cub Scouts' Exclusion Impacts Our Fourth Grader

Fred Swanson | Posted 09.17.2014 | Gay Voices
Fred Swanson

For all of the good that scouting did for me, I don't want to have either of my sons participate in a club that actively excludes people. I hope to teach my kids love and integrity and not to judge others, which is something they cannot learn from scouting as it stands.

Why on Earth Is This Gay Guy Marching for Climate?

Peterson Toscano | Posted 09.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Peterson Toscano

It's the immoral, flamboyant fossil fuel lifestyle that got us into this climate mess. Part of me wants to wash my hands of climate change and enjoy a little marriage equality while we all go to hell in a flaming hand basket.

Keeping the Peace

Janet Blair Page | Posted 09.17.2014 | Women
Janet Blair Page

Make sure that when you communicate, you are not adding extra hurt or complications to the topic you are addressing. The point is to achieve better understanding and harmony after every conflict or conversation.

7 Things I Wish I Knew Before Coming Out as Gay

John Paul Brammer | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices
John Paul Brammer

Coming out was the best thing I've ever done for myself. That being said, coming out came with its fair share of struggles that I felt I had to navigate alone. To all the gay men who have just come out or are in the process of coming out, I hope this list helps make your experience a little easier.

How Do We Stop LGBTQ Youth From Killing Themselves?

Michael Carosone | Posted 09.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Carosone

During the spring semester of 2002, while I was teaching my creative-writing class at Sheepshead Bay High School in Brooklyn, a student finally shared and read aloud a poem that he had just written. And after he read, our jaws dropped with amazement, our eyes widened with shock, our brows curled with concern, our hearts stopped with empathy, and our bodies froze with fear.

An American Talks Turkey About the 'Intolerant' Chicken

Bethany St. James | Posted 09.14.2014 | Politics
Bethany St. James

Here in America, we have a knack for twisting around the meaning of a word and molding it into something we can get a bit more use out of. Americans are good at capitalizing on opportunities. In fact, we founded our country on that exact ideology.

If You Don't Go After It, Someone Else Will

Michael McNair | Posted 09.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael McNair

As gay men, sometimes we find ourselves subconsciously choosing to do everything in our power to avoid looking foolishly vulnerable and admittedly undesirable in the face of other gay men, but at the end of the day, doing that almost NEVER makes us feel any stronger or masculine by a long shot.

The Same-Sex Marriage 'Debate' Is Based Upon Ignorance and Inaccurate Information

Mark Baer | Posted 09.11.2014 | Politics
Mark Baer

It seems as though Judge Feldman allowed his own prejudices get in the way of his duties as a judicial officer. He showed his ignorance by making such comparisons and referring to homosexuality as a 'lifestyle choice.'

Pray the Shade Away

Greg Mania | Posted 09.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Greg Mania

For someone who has went from an 11-inch platinum blonde mohawk a la John Sex to black slicked-back greaser hair, going to get a drink at a gay nightclub in NYC is like trying to steal a coveted artifact from a museum in the middle of the night.

15 Song Lyrics That Define Being Gay and Single

Lester Brathwaite | Posted 09.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Lester Brathwaite

Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" remains one of the quintessential dating songs, as well as perhaps the most iconic gay anthem of all time, and is it any wonder? Its theme of survival in the face of heartbreak -- or other insurmountable odds -- rings especially true for the gays.

If Lesbians Said The Things Straight People Say

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 09.10.2014 | Gay Voices

The things straight people say to lesbians can often be straight-up offensive. A new BuzzFeed sketch, posted online Sept. 5, uses a humorous role r...

A 'Thank You' Letter to the Westboro Baptist Church

Michael LaMasa | Posted 09.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

I envy you because you have been witness to all of these wonderful moments of progress. You've had to stand there, signs in hand, tired vocal chords, aching feet, watching as state after state legalized gay marriage. You've had to watch as gay marriage made it to a federal level -- and won.

Criminalization of LGBT People and Those Living With HIV Threatens Global Progress Against AIDS

Kenneth H. Mayer, M.D. | Posted 09.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Kenneth H. Mayer, M.D.

A decade-long public health partnership between the U.S. and African countries should have clarified, by words, actions and example, that human rights are critical to success in stopping the spread of HIV/AIDS throughout the world, particularly in those countries hardest hit by the epidemic. Any new public health partnerships must make this a priority.

The Time I Outed Myself on AIM

Shawn Binder | Posted 09.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Shawn Binder

At the time, I thought these incidents would ruin my life. I thought they would completely destroy my relationships with friends and family and that I would be cast out. When you're in high school the mistake of divulging information to the wrong person can seem disastrous.

A New Toolkit to Support LGBT Inclusive Curriculum--Inspired by Bill O'Reilly

Debra Chasnoff | Posted 09.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Debra Chasnoff

We've seen that when talking about sexual orientation or gender identity, emotions can run high, misconceptions can spread, and divisive politics can get in the way of doing what is best for students and families.

Coming Out: Going Beyond the Impossible

Rick Clemons | Posted 09.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Rick Clemons

Thank goodness that instead of listening to my doubting inner cynic I began to stack things in my favor by believing, being optimistic and trusting that my path was my true path and I would thrive.

What I'm Proud To Tell The World About My Daughter

Kerstin Auer | Posted 09.05.2014 | Parents
Kerstin Auer

There is one thing that I have been itching to take a stand on -- online and offline -- and it's something I am not willing or able to respect any asshole opinions on: my daughter is gay and I think that's perfectly fine.

The Many Ways We All Lose in a Heterosexist Environment

Warren J. Blumenfeld | Posted 09.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Warren J. Blumenfeld

When any group of people is targeted for oppression, it is ultimately everyone's concern. We all, therefore, have a self interest in actively working to dismantle all the many forms of oppression, including heterosexism.

Are We OK the Way We Are?

John Backman | Posted 09.05.2014 | Religion
John Backman

How do we know what we are vs. what we are becoming, what can change vs. what can't? The words from today's Eucharist do not offer hard and fast answers. They do, however, draw from the treasure trove of Christian tradition to speak to our universal condition:

The Last Lap

Michael LaMasa | Posted 09.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

No matter who you are or how insignificant you may feel, your existence has already done more for this cause than you think. When fatigue sets in, remember that.