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A Straight Person's Guide to the Coming-Out Conversation

Joe Anthony | Posted 09.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Anthony

My hope is that, when a friend does finally choose to come out to you, these notes will help you be more comfortable with it, and that you'll understand what he or she has been going through up to this day that shapes the conversation in his or her head.

Tyler Clementi's Brother James Turns Tragedy Into Activism (VIDEO)

Nathan Manske | Posted 08.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Nathan Manske

2014-08-30-20140828JamesClementi2small.jpgIn 2010 Tyler Clementi took his own life after being publicly outed on the Internet by his college roommate. His oldest brother James, who is also gay, is now an activist hoping to shape a world that's more accepting and inclusive of LGBTQ people.

Fight or Flight for Recognition

Michael LaMasa | Posted 08.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

Yes, here in New York or in Maine or in Massachusetts we see you. But you deserve to be seen where you live. Stay. Stand up. Provide those around you with the opportunity to see you and allow them the opportunity to change.

My Own Private Hollywood

Savas Abadsidis | Posted 08.28.2014 | Gay Voices
Savas Abadsidis

Joseph Baken is a Hollywood wünderkind whose hilarious Hollywoodland YouTube videos have gone viral. Baken's ascent has been rapid, having already worked with everyone from Gus Van Sant to James Franco. I spoke with Baken just as he released the second of his Hollywoodland videos.

Kids These Days

Michael LaMasa | Posted 08.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

Nicky was in the middle of a math worksheet when he noticed the ring on my left ring finger. He looked at my ring and looked up at me and asked if I was married. I was engaged at the time and explained that to him, saying that I would be married soon. He squinted his eyes and said, "So you have a girlfriend." I froze. Was I about to come out to a 7-year-old?

Michelle Nunn's 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell'

Jeff Cleghorn | Posted 08.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeff Cleghorn

Georgia Democrat Michelle Nunn is running in a competitive race for an open seat against Republican David Perdue. There is little doubt where Mr. Purdue stands on LGBT issues (strongly opposed), but there is a lot of doubt about where Ms. Nunn stands. And what to do about that is an issue Georgia's LGBT community is wrestling with today.

'Father Hunger' Doesn't Mean You're Gay

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 08.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

I know that I am inviting controversy by claiming that some straight men seek sex with men, especially because I have found that "father hunger" can be a contributing factor. However, there is a world of difference between what I am claiming and what the reparative therapists claim.

PrEP'd and Ready

Michael LaMasa | Posted 08.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

PrEP has magnificent potential to prevent infection. It has the potential to provide many with a chance at a more comfortable life, but I would encourage the gay population to be responsible and remember that none of us are invincible, no matter what powers we think we possess.

I'm White, Gay, and Dating a Black Man: What I've Learned About Racial Profiling

Jeza Belle | Posted 08.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeza Belle

Over the years, the startling consistency of the manner in which I am addressed while he is ignored has become a quasi joke between us.

Everyone's a Little Biased

Dr. Carmen Cruz | Posted 08.22.2014 | Latino Voices
Dr. Carmen Cruz

As a diversity trainer and psychologist, I've heard how classism, racism/colorism, and homophobia hurt others. Given that understanding differences is a slow process in our self-development, I believe there are three steps to move yourself along the continuum.

Sex, Intimacy, and Being Gay

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

Sex seems central to intimate and romantic relationships. If it is a means of intimate communication, and communication is the secret to a lasting and healthy relationship, why don't we gay men talk about it that way more often?

The Muscular Elephant in the Room: Gay Men and Steroid Use

Renato Barucco | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Renato Barucco

The title's muscular elephant is not a pun; it's purely proverbial: We don't talk about anabolic-androgenic steroid (AAS) abuse in gay men, but we know it's there.

Turning 20 Twice

Joe Hutcheson | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Hutcheson

I now find myself turning the age that is supposed to be "the new 30," but that feels like a mathematical impossibility. I've realized that it's not the aging process itself that I fear. I do my best to fear only things I have some control over, like icky spiders and abdominal fat. It is the stigma of age that I fear most.

Why I Prefer Side-by-Side to 'Top' or 'Bottom'

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 08.22.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

My preferring not to have intercourse might be less about a distaste for the actual act (or pain, or boredom) than it is about the way in which too many guys approach it, not just as the endgame but as the only way to truly score.

How a Young Boy Knows He's Gay

Randy Eddy-McCain | Posted 08.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Randy Eddy-McCain

As I reflect on that innocent horseback ride with Paul, I see it now as a time when my natural, God-given sexuality was beginning to take shape. I cherish the memory of that time with my young friend. Unfortunately I was robbed of the joy of being able to celebrate my coming of age.

Here's Why Lesbians Are More Likely To Orgasm Than Straight Women

The Huffington Post | Cavan Sieczkowski | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices

Lesbians are apparently having better sex than straight women. A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine focuses on how sexual or...

How To React If Your Teammate Comes Out To You

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 08.19.2014 | Sports

There's only one way to react to teammates who come out: SUPPORT THEM. It's just that simple. Respect them -- exactly as you would any other ...

Social Media's New Dark 'Secret'

Michael LaMasa | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael LaMasa

Bullying and taunting follow people through their entire lives, and it's not just a problem for our children. Just ask the drag queen who was brought to tears onstage during a late-night cabaret show in New York when discussing recent anonymous attacks against her on Secret. Who benefits from that?

The Duality of Being a Gay Christian

Glenn Garner | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Glenn Garner

As a gay Christian, I have only faced true discrimination for one of these identities. Here's a hint: It's not Christianity. When I tell someone I'm Christian, they don't come up with a series of offensive questions and remarks. I have never felt threatened or in danger when praying or practicing my Christian beliefs. Christianity is not an oppressed identity.

WATCH: This Policeman's Impromptu Dance Performance At Pride Is Everything!

The Huffington Post | Avery Stone | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices

Have you ever been so psyched to celebrate something that you just can't help but break into dance? This Swedish policeman has. In this video fr...

LGBT Parenting and the Flaming Hoops of Second-Parent Adoption

Allison Auldridge | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Allison Auldridge

The hoops that LGBT parents and families jump through to protect and assert our rights are consistent reminders that we remain on unequal footing with our straight peers.

High on Heels

Michael Rohrer | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

Sometimes a man's gotta do something that's out of the ordinary. Sometimes he has to push himself. Sometimes a man's gotta walk into a shoe store and buy a pair of heels.

ACT OUT: Enabling the LBGT Actor's Inherent Tendancies

J.W. Harvey | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
J.W. Harvey

If good acting is dependent on accepting & accessing the quirks, quarrels and quests of a performer's own life, Act Out suggests that there is no greater well to draw from than members of the LBGT community.

What Women Want

Robin Koerner | Posted 08.15.2014 | Politics
Robin Koerner

Feminism is about enabling women to have what they choose. But women choose to feel like women - to experience the delectable polarity of the female and the male, and that requires a culture that empowers, and celebrates, both.

Here, Kitty, Kitty - It's Time for Change

Judge Kemp | Posted 08.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Judge Kemp

On the verge of my 50th birthday and with all the fear-inducing cancer-metastasizing now luckily behind me, I'm done. I'm not afraid anymore.