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The Top 10 Bestselling Gay Sex Books of 2014

Mike Alvear | Posted 12.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

Given how obsessed gay men are with gay sex, you'd think this category would be producing more titles than an automatic profile generator on Grindr, but it isn't. If you look at my list of the top 10 most popular gay-sex books on Amazon, you'll see that only one of the books was published in 2014. The rest go as far back as 1998! Take a look.

Is Your Online Persona Killing Your Game?

Nicholas Marlin | Posted 12.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Nicholas Marlin

In the age of digital dating your online persona can make or break you. With as much as 70 percent of gay couples now meeting online, it's difficult to argue the importance of your online persona. Mountains of revealing personal information is available to any potential love interest with a just few simple keystrokes.

Check Out The Gay Dating App That's Taking China By Storm

AP | LOUISE WATT | Posted 12.01.2014 | Gay Voices

BEIJING (AP) — By day, Ma Baoli was a high-ranking officer in a seaside city police force. By night, he ran a website for gay people to share experi...

Here's How SCRUFF Is Moving Beyond 'HIV Status' On Its App

Jason Marchant | Posted 12.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Jason Marchant

Our community is still struggling with how to communicate about HIV and how to treat those who are HIV positive. This is especially evident in the way we are accustomed to asking guys to disclose HIV status online, which has remained largely unchanged since the advent of profile-based websites over 20 years ago.

Rejected: The Struggles of Dating With HIV

Tyler Curry | Posted 11.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

You are going to be rejected. It is true, and it is going to happen eventually. Someone is going to shut you down before they get to know you because you are living with HIV. It sucks, it isn't fair, and there is nothing that you can do about how they feel. But you can stop equating rejection with loss.

5 Things This Gay Man Learned From Dating Abroad

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 11.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

Eight years, eight cities: Buenos Aires, Melbourne, Bangkok, Berlin, Rome, Tel Aviv, Cape Town and Sydney. And what do I have to show for all that time spent living outside the U.S.? Here are some highlights: at least twice as much romantic drama (and comedy) in half the time I spent in New York City, at least two books, and at least five valuable lessons in love and lust.

Why Dating Newly Out Gay Men Has Its Perks -- And Pitfalls

Posted 10.23.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com I'll be the first to admit, when I was coming out at age 38, after being married to a woman for 13 years and havi...

I'm Not Sure If I Was Sexually Assaulted Or Not: On Men And Date Rape

H. Alan Scott | Posted 12.21.2014 | Gay Voices
H. Alan Scott

I've never been in a situation where I thought I could be raped. I'm a big guy, strong, how could I be raped? Until the moment when my legs were in the air, totally vulnerable, looking into the eyes of a man insistent on fucking me, did I ponder, Am I in danger?

No, I Don't Have a Dick Pic, and Here's Why My Dignity Is Still Intact

Mike Alvear | Posted 12.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

Last week Noah Michelson, Executive Editor of HuffPost Gay Voices, wrote a blog post called "Yes, I Have a Dick Pic, and Here's Why I'm Not Ashamed of...

Deal Breaker No. 1: Why I'll Never Again Date a Guy Who's in the Closet

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 11.30.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

I fell in love with a boy who had to sneak out of his house to see me. I say "boy" not because we were teenagers breaking curfew. Shane and I were grown men, consenting adults who had been seeing each other for several months. We had everything: chemistry, passion, heat. But only when we got behind closed doors.

6 Questions to Find Out If She's the One for You

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 11.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

I've had my heart broken a bunch of times. To be fair, I'm sure I've bruised a few hearts as well. Love can be confusing, and it's hard to know if what you're feeling is really real.

Dating & Disability in the Digital Age - Point, Click, Cripple

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 11.03.2014 | Gay Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Many of us have resorted to online dating. It seems easy enough, right? No transit woes, no access issues... problem solved. If only things were that simple. Dating with a disability in the digital age comes with its own unique set of challenges and scenarios.

The Year's Hottest Gay Short Film Comes To The Stage For One Night Only

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices

The pleasures and pitfalls of gay hookup apps are explored in "Grind: The Movie," Zachary Halley's short musical film which has been sweeping the fest...

Online Foreplay and Bringing Sexy Back

Brandon Andrew Robinson | Posted 10.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Brandon Andrew Robinson

Online foreplay is a conversation that allows individuals to mutually share their fantasies and sexual wants. Users can erotically turn each other on while trying to express their desires and sexual practices. This online foreplay becomes a way to negotiate one's sex life.

Flirt! Texts That'll Make Him Bend Over (With Laughter)

Mike Alvear | Posted 10.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

Used incorrectly, texts can toss a promising romance into the garbage disposal and flick the switch on your hopes and dreams. Used correctly, flirty text messages can get you the love of your life or, at the very least, some serious action.

'Sorry, I Don't Do Asians': The Dangers of Racial Discrimination in Dating

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 10.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

Like so many men with the no-Asians dating and hooking-up policies, Nolan hid behind the old "That's just my preference" excuse. He compared his not being attracted to Asians to his preferring men over women. I let that one slide because it was such a ridiculous argument.

This Gay College Student's Poem About Finding The Courage To Love Will Have You In Tears

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 08.05.2014 | Gay Voices

Remember your first crush -- the excitement, the nerves and the anticipation for what seemed like a world of possibilities? Gay college student Steven...

Signs You Might Be a Serial Dater (and What to Do About It)

Kim Rosenberg | Posted 10.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Kim Rosenberg

There is nothing better than being emotionally ready for a relationship. If you exude these qualities and are stable in all areas of your life, you're ready to accept a healthy relationship and a new love.

Am I Good Enough?

Michael McNair | Posted 10.03.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael McNair

All of those things that we believe to add value to our lives should only be applied to our lives for the sake of our own desire and love for them, not because of what we perceive someone else to desire from us.

The 8 Things Gay Men Need to Say Less Often

David Toussaint | Posted 09.30.2014 | Gay Voices
David Toussaint

8. "Community": News flash, men: We are no longer a "community" any more than left-handed men are. We are a minority, and we're more often than not using the appeal to "community" to bring others down a notch.

LOOK: 19 Breathtakingly Overconfident Texts. Are You Brave Enough to Send Them?

Mike Alvear | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

You have to be careful because there's a thin line between confidence and arrogance. One will get you the guy, the other gets you kicked to the curb.

5 Myths About the Single Gay Guy and One Truth

William Dameron | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices
William Dameron

My friend Sam is a "confirmed bachelor," and I'm using air quotes as I write this. Years ago, before you could swing a dead cat in a Banana Republic without hitting an openly gay man (which I would not recommend), that was code for being gay.

What Not to Do If You Are Dating and HIV-Positive

Tyler Curry | Posted 09.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

There is one surefire way of turning every future love scenario into a bloodbath, no matter how much of a match the two of you may be, and that is being HIV-positive and desperate for a date.

What Does Your Online Torso Pic Really Say About You?

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 07.13.2014 | Gay Voices

An award-winning queer filmmaker is producing a series of short documentary-style films that examine the dynamics surrounding modern day gay culture, ...

Why Do So Many Hot Young Gay Celebrities Go After Older Men?

Mike Alvear | Posted 09.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

Typically when you see somebody with a trifecta of blessings -- youth, wealth and fame -- you're going to see them out from under a lot of bodies. But that is not the case with many gay celebrities. It's not just that they've settled down; it's that they've settled down with somebody from another generation. Why?