Modern Family highlights a common contemporary media image of gay parenting: wealthy, urban, white gay men raising an adopted child. However, U.S. Census Bureau data suggest that same-sex couples raising children are substantially more diverse.
Virginia's proposed law goes well beyond protection of religious freedom by affirming the right to discriminate in adoption and foster placement by any agency (religiously based or otherwise) based on any moral objection to certain types of parents.
On Dec. 23, 2011, Florida's 5th Circuit Court of Appeal ruled that the state of Florida must recognize the parental rights of two lesbian moms, one the biological mother who contributed the egg and the other who was the birth mother.
Fascinating, isn't it, that being referred to as a "gay dad" has the ability to enhance the connection I have with other parents, or the ability to completely disregard my parenting skills based on the false ideology that homosexuality is wrong.
It's not easy being gay in America, and even harder in Nashville, due to the homophobic climate. So I've been asked by several people in Nashville, "Why would you do a show like Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys?"
Nobody would ever ask a biological mom how much her out-of-pocket expenses were for a week of neonatal ICU for her preemie. But let anyone know you adopted or used a gestational surrogate or egg donor, and people feel entitled to ask the price tag.
I thought my kids were ready for school. They were armed with ready answers about why they had two dads and what adoption means. But I was wrong. They were not ready. Perhaps more accurately, I was not ready.
Of all the reasons I've heard from people who oppose same-sex parenting, perhaps the most oft-repeated is that the child who will endure teasing about the comparative oddity of her family. As one person recently asked, "Did you ever think about the needs of the child?"
As the only two-dad family in an elementary school with almost 500 kids, we become the default face of same-sex parenting for some of the children and their caregivers. And that's OK -- when we filled out paperwork to adopt six years ago, we literally signed up for this.