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What I Really Want for Christmas: How to Tell Your Family You're Having Kids!

Dr. Guy Ringler | Posted 12.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Dr. Guy Ringler

There are many treatment options today for gay and lesbian family building, and sharing your plans with loved ones during the holidays can help muster their support and engage them in the process. Whatever your situation, here are some suggestions for those first conversations.

Rediscovering Kindness

Jason Guberman | Posted 12.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Jason Guberman

As a dad, there are moments I'm filled with doubt because my hope is that I'm doing everything I can to give my daughter the best life possible. To me at least, part of giving her the best life means giving her space to grow and be independent, even as a toddler.

Do I Love My Adopted Child As Much As Birth Parents Love Their Kids?

David Valdes Greenwood | Posted 11.21.2014 | Parents
David Valdes Greenwood

Parenting is not biology or blood work, just as it's not process of acquisition or paperwork; parenting is practice, the love you give, and the life you make.

A Gay Dad's Open Letter to Rose McGowan on Lessons Learned

Rob Watson | Posted 11.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Rob Watson

I am sorry that you have not felt that the outcry against misogyny from gay men has been loud enough. Given your comments about Speedos and Molly, I can only assume that your comments are in part the result of seeing the "gay community" as the buff young men on the party circuit.

My Lesbian Mom Died Terrified of Going to Hell

Vanessa Mártir | Posted 11.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Vanessa Mártir

I was orphaned when my mother Millie died nine years ago. My biological mother went back to being a Jehovah's Witness and now says she regrets being with Millie for 20-some-odd years. "Les di un mal ejemplo," she says. That's B.S. See, Millie is the one who loved me -- tender, unconditional, I-believe-in-you love.

I Am a Gay Navy SEAL Pushing for Equality in Red States

Brett Jones | Posted 11.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Brett Jones

I live in Alabama, and as most people know the south can be a very conservative place. Aside from God's love, my family is the principal source of my happiness. Like many of the SEALs I have worked with, I am willing to fight and die to protect that. Unfortunately, this state does not recognize my family, a fact that is beyond disheartening.

An Open Letter To The Gay Dads Who Save The Life Of Their Son Each Day

Posted 11.04.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rob Watson | The Next Family A little boy named Grayson is one of the most special children in the world. It all started with a haircut. Cha...

The Challenges of Being a Gay Stay-at-Home Dad

Alex Davidson | Posted 11.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Alex Davidson

You might think a gay stay-at-home Dad in San Francisco would be surrounded by others in similar situations - I did. But more often that not I was reminded of how rare a species I was - oftentimes I was the only gay dad anywhere.

Why I Love Halloween -- Now More Than Ever

Andy Miller | Posted 10.31.2014 | Gay Voices
Andy Miller

That's when it hit me. All those future Halloweens. I never considered I might not be around for those. Was this the first and last time I would take Clark trick-or-treating? Was this the only costume I would ever see him in?

Friday Night Lights

Christopher Thangaraj | Posted 12.13.2014 | Gay Voices
Christopher Thangaraj

My husband I may have fought our own little culture war to get here, but as I contemplate my family under the bright stadium lights on a warm Friday night, I believe my boys will be just fine.

WATCH: The Gay Dads In This Cheerios Commercial Have The Most Beautiful Love Story

The Huffington Post | Cate Matthews | Posted 10.05.2014 | Gay Voices

As a gay man, André never expected to be able to be a dad, but when he and Jonathan met by chance on a blind date they had what they describe as an "...

The Lucky Ones: Personal Reflections for LGBTQ History Month

Morgan Meneses-Sheets | Posted 12.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Morgan Meneses-Sheets

It is LGBTQ History Month, which got me thinking about my own history. When I came out to my mother her struggle was largely based on worrying what the neighbors would think.

If I Have Gay Children: 4 Promises From a Christian Pastor/Parent

John Pavlovitz | Posted 11.27.2014 | Gay Voices
John Pavlovitz

I won't love them despite their sexuality, and I won't love them because of it. I will love them; simply because they're sweet, and funny, and caring, and smart, and kind, and stubborn, and flawed, and original, and beautiful... and mine.

That's Just Not Fair

Christopher Thangaraj | Posted 11.26.2014 | Parents
Christopher Thangaraj

etween both our sons' adoptions, I can't count the number of times we uttered, "Well, that's just not fair." Such as when a birth mom chooses the heterosexual couple that just finished their application after your two-year wait.

Focus on the Family

Roberta Kaplan | Posted 11.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Roberta Kaplan

I'd like to present a thought experiment with two different questions posed by two different judges during oral arguments on the legal right of gay couples to marry. Their inquiries relate to whether it is constitutionally permissible to deny gay couples the right to marry because of purported concerns relating to the welfare of children.

A Gay Dad Vs. The Conservative Christian Anti-Gay 'Teen Plot' Grandmother

Posted 09.22.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rob Watson | The Next Family Laurie Higgins is a Christian grandmother with a limited professional background (according to her bio). She has wo...

Looking Back on Two Decades of Helping Gay Men Have Kids

Dr. Guy Ringler | Posted 11.17.2014 | Gay Voices
Dr. Guy Ringler

It's been a long road to marriage equality, and it seems we're still only halfway there. For the last two decades I've been on another fulfilling journey with our community. It's made fewer headlines than our fight for marriage rights, but it's been so important for so many families just now finding that legal recognition.

5 Things You Should Never Ask A Lesbian Mom

Posted 09.15.2014 | Gay Voices

By Shannon Ralph | The Next Family Recently, my family and I found ourselves in a rather uncomfortable situation. We had stopped into a hair salon...

The Journey Home

Anthony Romeo | Posted 11.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Anthony Romeo

My husband and I are ready to be dads. I've done some writing in the past that talked about our aching "brovaries," as one fellow Gays With Kids writer called them. And in the nine months of gestation that my brain has done since releasing that piece, we have decided to take the plunge.

The Same-Sex Marriage 'Debate' Is Based Upon Ignorance and Inaccurate Information

Mark Baer | Posted 11.11.2014 | Politics
Mark Baer

It seems as though Judge Feldman allowed his own prejudices get in the way of his duties as a judicial officer. He showed his ignorance by making such comparisons and referring to homosexuality as a 'lifestyle choice.'

How My Second-Grader Explains His Two-Mom Family, A Play in One Act

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 11.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Setting: Interior, my Subaru Outback, en route to a school field trip. Characters: Kid One, whom I have just met. Kid Two, who has been my son's clas...

Is The 'Gay Parent Trap' Killing Queer Culture?

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 09.11.2014 | Gay Voices

Writer-performer Justin Sayre laments the demise of queer culture and the rise of what he describes as "the gay parent trap" in his latest clip for Hu...

The 7 Queerest Questions I've Been Asked as a Gay Dad

Brent Almond | Posted 11.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Brent Almond

While the motivations may be different, the questions all make the same assumption -- that every child needs a father and a mother in order to be healthy and happy.

The Questions I Want My Son To Keep Asking

Brent Almond | Posted 11.10.2014 | Parents
Brent Almond

As two gay men adopting a child -- as "different" parents raising a "different" family -- this was, in fact, what we'd signed up for. Yet no amount of preparation or groundwork or open-mindedness kept me from being surprised by these not-really-out-of-the-blue questions.

LOOK: An Incredible Letter To An 'Overly-Anxious' Gay Dad From His Teenage Daughter

Posted 09.04.2014 | Gay Voices

By Bianca Y. Dalangin | The Next Family “I want you to be everything that’s you, deep at the center of your being.” – Confucius So here...