From childhood on, both males and females learn to do whatever we need to do to get the attention we need to survive. We fashion ourselves accordingly. And then, should that attention ever go away, it's only natural to do the same things we've always done, rely on what we've always relied on, in order to make it come back.
When Alex Bernadotte first landed at Dartmouth, it was the moment she had been preparing for her entire scholastic life. The first in her family to go to college, she wanted set a new path for generations to come. But to her great surprise, her grades faltered, she felt uncomfortable socially and had no clue how to tap the resources that Dartmouth had to offer. She nearly dropped out.