Many of us were collectively calling out for a fresh start at the end of 2012, which often manifests itself in the form of resolutions -- that may already be broken. But you don't need a new year to make improvements, just a fresh outlook.
I'm a big believer that anything is possible. That "crazy" business idea you have. Running a marathon when you presently get winded climbing the stairs at work. Taking a year off to travel the world. An amazing relationship with the great guy you're convinced doesn't exist.
I had a baby, my first, earlier this year. After over a decade of telling parents how to raise their girls, I'm now tasked with raising my own. I have no doubt I'll take back some of what I said from a childless perch -- and hopefully feel gratified about the rest.
The reason why it's so hard to stick to new habits is that we often try to achieve a performance or appearance-based goal without changing our identity. Most of the time, we try to achieve results before proving to ourselves that we have the identity of the type of person we want to become.
Just thinking about "finding your purpose" exercises can make folks sweat and pace -- especially this time of year. Like it or not, we're at a precipice. We're being called to leap into new beginnings and all that jazz.
Whether your idea of getting some R&R is lying on a tropical beach or hiking Mt. Kilimanjaro, make it a point to make the plan and stick to it. You will be glad you did. Here's to the year of breaking free for some adventure!
For some people, I've noticed, saying you are going to do something feels just as good as actually doing it. How can we understand these promise-breakers, whose intentions start out both genuine and admirable, but who never seem to act on them?
In the past, when faced with dilemmas, your dreams had to take a back seat. By befriending your dilemmas, I'm going to show you how you can follow a new road map that will lead you in an even stronger direction.
How can we stack the cards in our favor? How can we make it more likely that we will be consistent with the changes we set forth to make and actually see a lasting change in our life? One of the keys is in the way we think about our goals and the language we use to describe them.
I was a straight-A student through college who did whatever it took to produce work at a level that would please my professors. The rules changed when I started my own business over seven years ago. I realized that doing A-work in everything limited my success.
Often, when we consider making a New Year's resolution, we think about adding new activities to our day-to-day lives -- doing more by getting stricter with ourselves. Although there can be value in this approach to creating change, sometimes what we most need is just the opposite.
We expect to succeed. We have no contingency plan when we fail. When we inevitably come up short -- the stats are bleak when it comes to sticking with New Year's resolutions -- we have nothing to do but revert to our old behavior.