Increasing numbers of dual-income families means that these issues also hit home with working fathers -- fathers who are spending more hours parenting than ever before. But flexibility and the opportunity to learn, grow and advance are also a primary concern to Millennials
Stop trying to be perfect. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop trying to meet everyone's expectations. You can't fix all your kids' problems and have all the answers. You can't heal all their wounds. Sometimes, you have to let things go.
To me, having it all means that I have respect from my colleagues, love from my family, personal health and integrity, financial security and time for an occasional quiet moment. That's what matters to me and my family.
Start with keeping close everything that brings positivity into your life and push out what does not. By simply doing that, you're going to realize what in your life makes you most happy -- isn't that what having it all means? Depends how you define it.
It's hard to feel good about "having it all" when you've got incompatible sets of expectations and beliefs knocking around in your head. The trick is to learn to modify or steer around these beliefs and expectations so they don't make you feel like you're constantly on the verge of collapse.
I have a young daughter and my message to her will always be that she can be whatever she wants to be. But I would be doing her a disservice, not to mention setting her up for failure, if I told her that she can "have it all."
My maternity leave was coming to an end and I was feeling the fear of going back to work increase daily. On one hand, I was excited to return and put that hard-earned master's degree to good use. On the other hand, I was devastated.
We need to reframe the conversation for women (and men) around success, but not focus on an antiquated notion of work-life balance or having to achieve a certain "level" of success, but by the fundamental way we live our lives and what we want to be remembered by.
More attention needs to be given to alternatives to the societal assumption that the definition of "having it all" is full-time career and children. Let each of us define what choice and path makes us happy and feeling successful. Let each of us applaud, not denigrate, another's life choice.
Ever have that feeling in your career where there are so many paths you want to pursue and you're pulled in every direction, yet you don't know which one to pick? Maybe you're interested in many different passions, but there aren't enough hours in a day to do all that you wanted.
I thought her statement was harsh. And that she needed anger management or couples counseling. I actually feared for her marriage -- and her husband. Fast-forward five years and I completely understand.
I have started inching my way toward my own definitions of success, balance and having it all. It's taken much, much longer than a lunch hour, and I'm not sure when the process will end (if it ever does) or what the path will ultimately look like.