While I truly believe that the choices we make and even the thoughts we think all matter greatly and affect the outcome of our existence, I also believe there is also another force at work and our role is actually more of a co-creator in our own lives.

There is no right or wrong way to experience your Higher Self, but it is important to pay attention until you are sure you can discern it. Then you can learn to listen to it. This level of attainment also shifts our relationship to the ego.

My internal arguments would be a bit embarrassing to replay -- but they are part of being human. Watching my mind at work has been such a humbling and wisdom-building process. It is amazing how my ego can see "danger" in harmless situations.

Our ego self is a crucial part of us. But until we learn to help it grow up it does tend to exaggerate all the daily threats of life. Spiritual intelligence, or SQ, allows us to shift from being driven by our fear-activated high-drama ego to being driven by our calmer, wiser Higher Self.

Spiritual intelligence is critical for personal growth and authentic leadership. The community, family, global and business leaders of the future will be those who are quickest to recognize this fact and begin to measure and cultivate the skills of spiritual intelligence in themselves and their organizations.

This search to find our true nature raises the mystery of "I" above arcane arguments among philosophers and neuroscientists.

Frequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Answers, like our true selves, at least the truly important ones, are written within. It is up to us to discover the true nature of our being and in that process our answers are revealed.

Like any other emotion, love has many levels to it; we can go from the shallowest form to the deepest. How far we want to go is a personal choice and depends on our level of maturity as well.