The entertainer John Tesh was once quoted as saying he's really not that busy. If the host of the syndicated radio program Intelligence for Your Life didn't feel squeezed for time, I figured the rest of us could learn something.
You may recognize the spiral-downward logic when your internal barometer registers that someone is seemingly much more accomplished -- not to mention much more glamorous -- than you are: What decisions have I made that brought me to this place? Have they been the right ones?
If you don't think you can live up to other people's expectations then it makes sense you'd try to protect yourself by minimizing expectations. So you decide that it's better to play small than to risk humiliation. Plus, you get extra points for being modest -- especially if you're female.