What follows is not a trick question: Would you rather feel exhilarated, grateful, humble, inspired, resolute, compassionate, and content -- or fearful, sad, worthless, jealous, angry, overwhelmed, and bored?
I always take in a person's looks first; I suppose we all do. My own insecurities are numerous, and it is impossible for me not to focus on other women and to compare myself to them, at least a little.
When you reach your goal or get close to it and trim down, it isn't easy adjusting to a new body image. Like others who have lost a lot of weight, I was confronted with a core issue -- standing up for myself.
I still have dreams about my back brace. I threw it out so long ago, but it is there when I meet new people whom I am unsure about, when my judgement is questioned, when my children's teachers chastise me for being late to pick-up.
To boost your confidence a bit, practice being a bit more out-going and assertive with your coworkers. Ask one of your colleagues out to lunch, join in a water cooler conversation, make a comment or raise a question at a meeting.