When we're authentic, the world responds. Relationships are easier, business deals are smoother, and people trust us. Authenticity projects confidence and strength -- both of which are signs we're standing in our power.
As a therapist, I've seen firsthand that changing relational patterns often transforms even the most inflexible "trait" into something softer, gentler -- not a fixed feature, but a protection that eventually yields to touch and intimacy in all the ways one would hope.
Wanting to experiment with makeup and nail color and wearing clothes they pick out because of the rhinestones doesn't make them less smart or less powerful -- and that applies to my son as well as my two daughters.
What then are the root causes which are at the heart of a crisis of faith? We can see these in the lives of five great men of God in the Old Testament. Men who did some of the greatest exploits that have ever been done in the name of God.
Whenever I catch myself reverting to a place of doubt, I latch onto certain markers like my therapist's feedback as a reminder that my thoughts do indeed have their rightful place and that somebody somewhere is interested in what I have to say.
The next time your fears and doubts begin to cast a shadow on your talents and rob you of your joy, look within. Tap into your intrinsic worth as a human being. Recognize the gift of the life force within you that flows and creates through you.
It's unfortunate that gay men with an unhealthy body image can ultimately hurt our shared commitment to individuality and the wider perception of our community. We have failed to challenge the many reasons that we suffer with an unhealthy preoccupation with the physical.
If you love each other you shouldn't fight, things will be consistently blissful forever, you never have to say you're sorry... about anything, you'll never be lonely again and about a thousand other things that will turn out to be untrue. The word for these beliefs is "illusions."
The most glaring problems are easy to spot -- but if you get too hung up on the obvious traits, you can easily miss the subtle (and often more common) features that allow a narcissist to sneak into your life and wreak havoc.
What if we stopped the comparison game altogether? What if the success of others had nothing to do with us, and our own success had nothing to do with anyone else? What if we didn't spend aso much of our precious time focusing on how we "measure up" to the people around us?
I am crazy (in the normal way). Let me just put it out there, it's true. I am insane (in the normal way). I know we are all a little psycho (in the normal way), but me more than others (not in the normal way), okay?
"Whether you are a CEO or a secretary, self-employed or unemployed, rich or poor, a 20-something or a 60-something, a master at the task or a first-timer, none of those labels matter when you are serving. I like to think of service as a great equalizer."
My client found it unbelievable. "Here I am 37 years old, a wife, a mom, a nurse valued by patients and staff, and I am hurt -- no, correct that, devastated -- by a supposed friend and her group of friends."
What follows is not a trick question: Would you rather feel exhilarated, grateful, humble, inspired, resolute, compassionate, and content -- or fearful, sad, worthless, jealous, angry, overwhelmed, and bored?