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Insecurity

Finding a Way Home: The Situation for Young Afghan Returnees

Vanessa Thevathasan | Posted 09.23.2014 | Impact
Vanessa Thevathasan

It is clear that the scale and complexity of problems facing refugees necessitates long-term political commitment in Afghanistan in order to bring about sustainable transformation for refugees.

My Distressed Quest For Smaller Breasts

Stephanie D. Lewis | Posted 09.23.2014 | Fifty
Stephanie D. Lewis

When I was 15, a boy inquired about going to the junior prom, never once taking his eyes off my enormous bosoms. I told him, "Oh yes, they'd be delighted to go." His baby blues widened as I continued, "They'll be ready by 7 p.m., but you need to return them safely back home and attached firmly to my torso by midnight."

What I Wish I Knew When I Was a Freshman

Charles Howard | Posted 08.19.2014 | College
Charles Howard

I wish I had known then that a lot of us, in fact nearly every freshman, feels that insecurity in some way or another -- wondering whether they will succeed, whether people will like them, whether they can do the work.

Why am I Still Single?

Tracy Crossley | Posted 08.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Tracy Crossley

If we lack confidence, it's from playing it safe for way too long. It comes from hiding out and sticking our toe in rather than both feet. We won't know if it's safe, until we venture all the way in, and if the water is too cold, we can choose to try a warmer, more receptive place to jump in!

Struggling With Twink Envy

Glenn Garner | Posted 08.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Glenn Garner

My first real-life, up-close glimpse of this insane standard for the gay male physique was at a bar in New Orleans. Although I did not want to use my minimum wage to stuff the dancers' G-strings, I envied their natural ability to grasp the attention of the room. I realized that beauty and a good body came with a lot of power.

Nasty Neural Habits: Take 2 Positive Thoughts and Call Me in the Morning

Marc Gopin | Posted 08.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Marc Gopin

The first step in healing the destruction in our world is healing the destruction in our own thoughts. Moving on from that to positive thinking we have discovered an infinite world of possibility that creates real change in human relations that emerges from inside the resilient human brain.

Insecurity at the Borderline

Wray Herbert | Posted 08.26.2014 | College
Wray Herbert

Psychological scientist wondered if the language we use to label ourselves also reflects how secure, or insecure, we feel about our status.

The Buffer Zone: Romance and Insecurity

Wray Herbert | Posted 07.22.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Psychological scientists Jeffry Simpson of the University of Minnesota and Nikola Overall of the University of Auckland have been working for some time on a dyadic model that they believe better illuminates how real couples deal with insecurity issues every day.

My Mother, My Self

Dina L. Relles | Posted 07.11.2014 | Parents
Dina L. Relles

I recently discovered letters my mother had written (on a typewriter, no less!) to a close friend -- before she became a mother at all. They were from her pregnancy with me, her first, and reflected on how she felt about motherhood as she stood at its threshold.

Got Rejected? How You Respond Can Damage Your Emotional Health

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

The bottom line is that rejections are a fact of life -- we all experience them and we all hurt when we do. The best thing we can do is to soothe our emotional pain, take steps to revive our self-esteem, and to connect to our core groups and by doing so remind ourselves that others value and love us even if our date does not.

7 Strategies for Dealing With the Narcissist You Love

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

If you've tried a more loving approach to sharing what hurts in your relationship, and the narcissist in your life still won't soften, you truly have done everything you can.

The Louise Log Season 3: Seen in a Different Light

Marcel Hidalgo | Posted 06.14.2014 | Comedy
Marcel Hidalgo

Louise has a new hairstyle and a new hair color. She is now a blonde. And her once straight hair is now curly, pulled away from her face. She we...

Actions Speak Louder Than Words in Raising Secure Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 06.07.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

Your actions, and those of your children, can really make the difference between insecurity and security.

You Are Enough

Mike Robbins | Posted 06.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

In this week's video blog, I explore three questions and how we can let go of our thoughts and feelings of not getting enough, being good enough, or doing enough... ultimately remembering that we are enough just as we are right now!

What Parents Can Say to Raise Secure Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 06.01.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

The next time we were out for a walk with Catie, she, as usual, fell down. But instead of rushing to her, we just waited a few seconds. And in those brief moments, our catchphrase was born.

Women at Work: The Language of War and the Invisible Codes of Honor

O'Brien Browne | Posted 05.21.2014 | Business
O'Brien Browne

If a businesswoman doesn't command this language, men think she doesn't "get it." If she does, people say she's not a "real" woman. To make matters even more complicated, what men say and how they strut, huff and puff may have very little to do with how they act in reality, away from the battlefield.

Venezuelans Unite: From Streets to Cyberspace

Michael Solis | Posted 04.22.2014 | Impact
Michael Solis

Over 11,000 miles away from her home country, Venezuela, Haydee Izaguirre was stunned as she watched the movie scene that her country had become on February 12, 2014.

How To Let Go Of Fear And Insecurity

Dr. Cynthia Thaik | Posted 03.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Cynthia Thaik

Fear has very real effects on the body, and these effects are meant to protect us from danger. In day to day life, a small amount of fear or insecurity can be beneficial, in that it keeps you on your toes and motivated.

How We Use Social Networking, Part 3: The FoMO Effect

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 03.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

FoMO can easily take on a life of its own and gradually dominate a person's life style. As daunting as it may be, working toward developing real-life attachments and close friends is ultimately likely to be a better cure for any insecurity that may be motivating you.

How We Use Social Networking And Why: Part 2

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 02.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

My main objective in writing these last two blogs has been to share some insights that might be useful as guides for all those men and women who use social networking. Its popularity notwithstanding, as a clinician I've heard more than a few stories of people who felt burned by their encounters on the Internet.

'Am I Ugly?' A Massive Online Community Reveals Surprising Truths About Body Insecurity

Annabelle Buggle | Posted 02.12.2014 | Women
Annabelle Buggle

People are social animals: it's in our nature to crave approval from those around us, and it's only normal to want to be accepted -- and, more than that, admired. In this image-obsessed society, it makes sense that we'd want to get an idea of what others see when they look at us. Are we pretty, or are we ugly?

Learning to Trust Again

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Now, instead of focusing on trusting others, I focus on trusting myself -- my feelings, my inner knowing, my intuition, my spiritual guidance. This lets me know immediately whether or not I can trust another.

4 Signs You're Being Perceived as Insecure

Tamara Star | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Tamara Star

When we're authentic, the world responds. Relationships are easier, business deals are smoother, and people trust us. Authenticity projects confidence and strength -- both of which are signs we're standing in our power.

10 Things To Give Up In Exchange For Happiness

Tamara Star | Posted 12.10.2013 | Women
Tamara Star

I'm told happiness is a choice. Unfortunately we complicate our lives to the point of being unable to recognize happiness when it appears before our eyes.

Everyone Feels Like Crap in the Dressing Room (So Let's Stop Hating Ourselves)

Literally, Darling | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

There is this myth that we tell ourselves that clothes magically fit everyone else, and it's just our own terribly misshapen bodies that are the anomaly.