I notice the all-too-familiar hums of gossip coming from the corner. Their whispers and stares fail to attain a level of subtlety. Although it's not uncommon for gay guys to judge each other, this time is different. Their gossip is aimed at the interracial couple who just walked through the door.
The implication: It was OK to kiss me in the hallway of a dark club on Saturday night, but he wasn't interested in me as a multi-dimensional human being or, presumably, being seen in public with me in the harsh, unforgiving light of day.
The thing that makes me the saddest about the politics of interracial dating -- which can be just as functional and happy as dating within your race -- is that it pits us against each other. Who is the "us" here? Women.
In 2012, a Pew Research Center study reported that 15 percent of all new marriages in the U.S. (in 2010) are interracial; there are now 4.8 million interracial marriages in the U.S., accounting for 1 in 12 marriages.
I'm pretty sure there is no box for that. You might need a suitcase for all of that. And knowing that will not likely help you to relate to me, understand me or know me any more than you did five seconds ago.
As the "white" half of a Japanese-American couple, I noticed some of the same questions keep popping up again and again. After a quick chat with some other interracial couples, I realized my experiences were not unique.
We need to be having a conversation about heritage, what it truly is to be black, looking at ways as a society to stop being a slave to these stereotypes that exist about us -- we are a great people with a great story of endurance that isn't yet over.
There is a certain uncomfortable undertone to all of this, and I need to ask it: Do hot Asians feel like they have to "graduate" to white people? I'd prefer not to think so. What if there's just a naturally common attraction between Asians and whites?
Whiteness has been a privileged and prized identity in the U.S.; our national culture has made it this way. So when black men select white women and de-select black women, they are doing so in a context of charged racial meanings.
As a professor and author who studies diversity and communication, not to mention a multiracial individual and future parent, I'm interested mostly in what's hiding behind questions like "what are you, exactly?"
As the hit series Scandal continues to show us, despite the increasing rate of interracial marriage within the United States, interracial relationships are still frequently represented as dirty little secrets -- relationships to be hidden rather than shown with pride.
Hollywood often ignores pleas for more diverse casting and continues to deny the negative impact it has on society as a whole. Seeing more diverse couples on screen makes the subject easier to discuss around the dinner table.
Ryan's party affiliation -- and his seeming political shift from his days of crossing the racial divide and rocking to Rage Against the Machine -- got me thinking. Have attitudes about interracial dating changed for the new generation?
These images suggest that the time for multiracialism is now. But is it really? Does today's focus on multiracialism mean that we're finally seeing the end of racism? Or does it mean that racism has simply been made over?
I should have known by the look in his eyes. The middle-aged white man looked at my chocolate self, then to my light-skinned baby and back to me. "Excuse me," he said walking closer. "But is his father white or Asian?"