At its most basic, self-awareness is simply self-appreciating the self. To find an answer to a question we are all interested in -- "How am I doing?" -- you have to be willing to look in the first place.
Change without force is certainly possible. What you need is to create a matrix for making better choices. By matrix I simply mean your setup for daily living.
If you want to stay healthy for life, you need to take care of yourself. That's the conventional wisdom. But the real secret to lifelong good health is actually the opposite: Let your body take care of you.
You must take responsibility for your present condition and understand that you are not a victim of your past but claim the power to shape your future.
Gregory Bateson once cautioned us young people that if we were ever going to have a psychotic episode, we should try not to do it while in America, lest we get swept into its so-called Mental Health system and never return.