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You Can't Go Home Again... Or Can You?

Serena Piper | Posted 05.12.2013 | College
Serena Piper

Last summer after my grandma passed away, I had a conversation with my mom about whether or not it's a good idea to return to your childhood home after you've moved out and on with your life. "I know I never could because I knew it wouldn't be the same," she said.

Living With Loss

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 05.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

If you can pay attention, and let yourself hurt, it will open you up to living life more meaningfully. By knowing we don't have forever here or with someone, we can learn to appreciate the people in our lives more, to love more, and to be more open with what people mean to us.

Why It's Impossible To Fill Someone Else's Shoes

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.11.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I can think of a lot of things that need filling up at one time or another. Some of those things might include: A bank account, a gas tank, a martini glass. Now... do you know what definitely does not need 'filling'? Somebody else's shoes.

The Color Orange and My First Cousin Jesse: Rediscovering Family

Elizabeth Boleman-Herring | Posted 05.07.2013 | Women
Elizabeth Boleman-Herring

The Last of the Mohicans was made in 1992, just after my mother (the next to the last of my Mohicans) succumbed to cancer. Very much in Chingachgook's moccasins, I am the last, now, of the Boleman-Herrings.

5 Things Not To Say To A Woman After A Miscarriage

Lindsay San Giacomo | Posted 05.04.2013 | Parents
Lindsay San Giacomo

I recently had a miscarriage. While I got some fantastic advice from some great people, I was shocked at the bizarre and sometimes hurtful things people said to me. But I can't really blame them. When you don't talk about something, you don't know how to talk about it, either.

It's OK: 36 Things Widowers Can Do Without Guilt

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.04.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Sometimes all we need is for just one person who has walked the same path to quietly and gently say, "It really is OK..."

How I Overcame Grief After The Loss Of My Spouse

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.27.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Twelve years. An entire lifetime ago. Whether by plane, car, ship, train or other means, most of us have taken a long trip of one kind or another. While in the midst of traveling, our habit tends to be to constantly check the time or the mileage to determine how far we have to go until we get 'there,' wherever 'there' happens to be.

The Upside Of Divorce

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 04.23.2013 | Divorce
Robin Amos Kahn

There is life after divorce, I promise you. And there is, believe it or not, joy.

Italian Wedding Soup

Jonathan Agin | Posted 04.23.2013 | Impact
Jonathan Agin

Every parent who has lost a child to disease or some other mechanism knows this pang. In most instances, as time marches beyond the day your child passed away, these moments of blunt force trauma to the soul are brought about without any warning or advanced notice.

Why I Don't Believe In Closure

Kim Goldman | Posted 04.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Kim Goldman

I have always said that grief and loss are like a best friend, "It knows me better than anyone, it's reliable and always there when I need it. It makes me angry. It makes me sad. Grief comforts me, loves me and protects me. I will never have another relationship quite like it."

A Glimpse Into the Afterlife

Dr. Annie Kagan | Posted 04.22.2013 | Religion
Dr. Annie Kagan

People often ask if hearing Billy's voice from the afterlife is frightening. Not at all. As he speaks, the bliss of his world flows into mine and I feel almost euphoric. According to Billy, this is just the smallest taste of what awaits each of us when we pass into the hereafter.

What A Lost Earring Taught Me About Life

Patricia Crisafulli | Posted 04.21.2013 | Fifty
Patricia Crisafulli

Umbrellas implode. Socks and gloves disappear. Car keys jump from pockets. Phone numbers written on scraps of paper flutter away. Dreams fade. Love dies. By the time we reach mid-life, there is a long list of absences -- people, opportunities, aspirations -- due to departures, gradual or sudden.

The Appalling Thought That Just Occurred To Me

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

A really appalling thought recently occurred to me. I would even go so far as to call it an epiphany.

The Art of Losing

Khanh Ho | Posted 04.16.2013 | Books
Khanh Ho

Perhaps I was destined to grow into an expert -- an expert of loss. Perhaps that is why I even managed to lose, at such a tender age, something that another human being found unforgettable, so much so, that she kept it to her breast.

What A Valentine's Day Tragedy Taught Our Family About Love

Carissa K | Posted 04.09.2013 | Parents
Carissa K

Valentine's Day is a tricky holiday for my husband and me. Seven year's ago, in 2006, Valentine's Day stopped being Valentine's Day and started being simply "the day."

Losing Grandma: A Life Lesson

Robin Gorman Newman | Posted 04.07.2013 | Parents
Robin Gorman Newman

I've always found the notion of death a challenging one to fully wrap my head around. We will never see her again. My husband lost his beloved mom. I lost the only mother-in-law I will ever know. And, my son has lost his only grandmother.

Love Lives On

Concetta Bertoldi | Posted 04.06.2013 | Weird News
Concetta Bertoldi

I've occasionally had to try not to laugh when a well-meaning spirit gives dating advice to someone here who is being overly critical and picky -- they say they want to find love but they're too busy finding fault.

Is There A Right Way To Grieve?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

How I Embraced A New Me After The Loss Of My Spouse

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.23.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The widowed community generally spends a lot of time talking about how much late spouses are missed. Not only is this completely and totally normal, it is also a welcome catharsis and a necessary factor in moving through the grieving process. But do you ever miss 'you' as well?

Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda: Dealing With Grief and Guilt After a Loved One Passes

Tory Zellick | Posted 03.20.2013 | Fifty
Tory Zellick

You suddenly are responsible for a life other than your own -- ensuring compliance with medication regimens, scheduling and attending doctor appointments, preparing meals, and so on. So what do you do when your Mama role comes to an end?

Seahawks and Broncos Fans: Welcome to the Dark Side

Shaneika Dabney | Posted 03.18.2013 | Sports
Shaneika Dabney

Being a die-hard fan is almost masochistic. But that won't stop you next year from starting this process all over again.

What if the New Year Is Not 'Happy?'

Myra Demeter | Posted 03.17.2013 | Fifty
Myra Demeter

When you love intensely you also leave yourself open to great pain. Now all my son can feel is the hurt. One day he will feel love again. I promise.

Who's To Blame For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed.

5 Things I Learned From My Grandmother

Danielle Herzog | Posted 03.15.2013 | Women
Danielle Herzog

After thinking about my grandmother and our 38 years together, I have put together a short list of some of the things I have learned from her.

Legacies

Lai-Lai Jenkins | Posted 03.12.2013 | Parents
Lai-Lai Jenkins

Last week, as I thought about 2013 resolutions and reflected on the events of 2012, I realized that I am often so consumed with work and bills (the "reason" I have to work) that I neglect the "real" reasons that I have to work -- my family and myself.