iOS app Android app

Margaret Paul

Do You See Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Elaina consulted with me because she felt filled with shame. A beautiful woman with a highly successful career, two children and a loving husband, Ela...

5 Ways to Manifest Your Dream Life

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I've had many amazing things happen in my life that solidified my belief in the law of attraction. I've also come to understand exactly what we need t...

3 Ways to Not Get Drained by Needy People

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you often leave a conversation feeling drained, then you need to learn to be aware of what needy, draining people do that suck the life right out of you -- and what you can do to not get drained.

7 Ways to Care Rather Than Care-Take

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.

5 Ways We Push Away Relationships (And What To Do About It)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Is your primary intent in being in a relationship to get love, or is it to share your love with your beloved? If it's to get love -- due to your own self-abandonment -- then your challenge in attracting your beloved is to learn to love yourself and share your love.

'I've Got Your Back'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

One of the wonderful things we have to offer each other in our relationships is to have each other's back. Being alone with difficult challenges is very hard. But all too often, this is not how couples relate to each other.

What Love Really Means (And How To Show It)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Learning to love yourself is foundational for being able to love others. The more you learn to be kind and gentle with yourself, rather than judgmental and rejecting, the more loving you will be with others.

Joy! Causeless Joy!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Today was a great day, because I fully allowed love and beauty to open my heart to causeless joy. That joy continues as I share that now with you.

Are You Strong Enough to Love?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We cannot see the beauty in others when we are rejecting ourselves. When we allow others to define our worth, then of course we take it personally when someone rejects us -- because we have already rejected ourselves.

The Secret To Having More Ecstatic Moments

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.31.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If I'm not fully present with my heart completely open, then the above experiences will not feel ecstatic and luminous. Ecstatic moments occur only when you are fully present in each moment, with your heart completely open to all that life offers -- both the wonderful and the painful.

Conflict: 7 Decisions to Learn Instead of Fight

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If the other person never opens to caring conflict resolution, then you need to decide for yourself how to take loving care of yourself in the face of the unresolved conflict. This means accepting your helplessness over the other person and doing your own inner learning to discover what would be in your highest good.

Feeling Empty and Needy? 6 Ways to Fill Up and Heal Neediness

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you want to move beyond emptiness and neediness, then practice these six ways of filling up. You will be amazed at the shift that occurs in your life -- both in your relationships and in your ability to manifest your dreams!

8 Reasons to Develop Your Spiritual Connection

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It is an incredible freedom to not be dependent upon others to show you what is best for you. You can learn to live your best life by learning how to stay consistently connected with your spiritual guidance.

What Do You Want to Manifest in the Coming Year?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The joy of relationships is to be able to connect from the heart and share love -- with a partner, parents, children and friends. If this is not your experience, then you might want to consider doing some inner work in the coming year.

Learning to Trust Again

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Now, instead of focusing on trusting others, I focus on trusting myself -- my feelings, my inner knowing, my intuition, my spiritual guidance. This lets me know immediately whether or not I can trust another.

Do You Trust Your Intuition? 4 Ways to Heal a Lack of Trust in Your Inner Knowing

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Notice what happens when you listen to your inner knowing and what happens when you don't. Consciously listen and follow through with action when you are aware of the thoughts, feelings and images that pop in, and see what happens.

10 Ways to Know It's Time to Leave Your Relationship

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Unless there is physical danger, staying in the relationship while you explore and heal your end of the relationship system will serve you well. Once you have healed your end of your relationship system, it will become very clear to you whether or not your relationship has a chance of becoming loving and caring, or whether it is time to move on.

6 Ways to Stop Escalating Fights With Your Partner

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It's a big challenge to accept helplessness over another, but when you fully accept it, then you are free to take loving care of yourself and do whatever you need to do to not escalate the fight, and to then compassionately tend to your own feelings.

Are You as Loving to Yourself as You Are to Your Dog?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

David sat in front of me at one of my Inner Bonding five-day intensive retreats. A successful businessman with a wife and two grown children, David be...

9 Steps To Self-Acceptance

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Sharing love is the most fulfilling experience in life, but you need to be filled with love in order to have love to share. Learning to love yourself is what fills you with love.

Are You Manifesting Your Dreams?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Manifesting does not mean sitting around waiting for spirit to bring you what you want. It means that you are disciplined to take the actions you need to take to eventually bring about your dreams.

Beyond Anxiety

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Being present and mindful means that we need to learn to lovingly and compassionately manage our painful feelings rather than avoid them. When you learn to have compassion for your feelings, then you can stay present in your body and learn about what your feelings are telling you.

When Should You Give Someone 'The Benefit of the Doubt'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Trust the early signs of someone being resistant and fearful of intimacy -- of using lateness, a judgmental attitude and emotional distance to push you away.

The Joy and Grace of Loving

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Love is not something that is generated from within us. Love is what enters our mind and heart and soul when we open to it. Love is what we live in -- it's the intelligence of the universe and the life force that keeps us alive.

Does Anger Help or Hurt Relationships?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Sometimes letting the steam out of the pot can be helpful in avoiding future resentment, provided both of you learn to be non-reactive, to not take it personally, and to not say hurtful things when angry or irritated.