"Who cares? It's our kitchen on a Monday night. I love you and I want to touch you and have you be excited about that. Is that so wrong?" He is starting to back away, the grooves on this path worn in a rut we fall into so easily.
Unfortunately, as most relationships mature, couples can find themselves bickering over small things. If those negative interactions, as minor as they may seem at the time, continue and increase, they can eventually pervade the relationship.
There may now be hard science behind the notion that true love can last a lifetime. A neurological study from Stony Brook University revealed that couples who experience "romantic love" long-term can keep their brains firing similarly to the brains of couples who have just fallen in love.
We are told that great relationships are based on realistic expectations, communication know-how, and gender-fluidity when it comes to who manages the household , and who earns the money. But... is there more to it?
Committing your life to another person, until death do you part, is not always the happily ever after that you might see in fairy-tales and romance stories. After being married just shy of two years, I am coming to terms with the fact that I don't love my wife.
Be the couple that eats off of each other's forks, if that works for you. Be the couple that fights over money or politics or favorite brand of laundry detergent. Be swingers, for all I care; I will sit back and judge you in silence, like God intended.
Of course, becoming a "Mrs." doesn't mean you will abandon your independence completely. You will still be an individual, with your own career, interests and relationships. But in your new role as a partner in marriage, your husband's needs and desires will factor into almost everything you do.