No one likes to lose and nobody wants their losses hung out to dry. Last November, I did both when I ran for the United States Senate. It wasn't just losing the election. That was no surprise. It was losing by so much. The magnitude was sobering.
Our minds need to develop new thought pathways different from the old belief system. To make the shift more solid, research has shown it takes 21 - 30 days of practice; a mere fraction of the time it took you to acquire the initial negative pattern. What a relief!
Christians are as wildly for sex as anyone; that's what got Bristol into trouble. They simply have an idealized notion of it, one that's increasingly divorced from the reality and the direction of the larger society.