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How to be Your Own Mediator: A Relationship Goal is Necessary for Aim

Grande Lum | Posted 10.20.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Conflict-Resolution, Mediation, Communications, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Relationships, Living News
Grande Lum

As a mediator, I often ask the parties individually and collectively about their relationship goals.

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Divorce Lawyers and the Reptilian Brain

Belinda Etezad Rachman | Posted 09.23.2009 | Living

Read More: Mediation, Mediator, Divorce, Peaceful Divorce, Marriage Termination, Divorce Lawyers, Living News
Belinda Etezad Rachman

There is only one sure bet about divorce, and that is this: hiring a divorce lawyer will only make things more expensive and nasty.

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Peaceful Revolution: When Compromise Is a Dirty Word

Joan Blades | Posted 09.21.2009 | Living

Read More: Mediation, Health Care Reform, The Mayo Clinic, Health Care, Living News
Joan Blades

Congress must collaboratively envision a world-class health care system. Congress could craft successful reform given good faith commitments to keep our collective focus on this higher goal.

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How to Be Your Own Mediator: Disconnect the Reaction from the Person

Grande Lum | Posted 09.07.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Relationships, Communication Skills, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Negotiation Tips, Work Relationships, Healthy Relationships, Work-Relationships, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Mediation, Communication Tips, Communications, Mediator, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

When you can distance yourself from your response, you separate the reaction from yourself.

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How to be Your Own Mediator: Raise the Issue Swept Under the Rug

Grande Lum | Posted 09.01.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Communication Tips, Communication Skills, Mediator, Communications, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Unlike a comedian who has to setup a punch line carefully and wait for the right beat, you can come back to an issue that happened hours, weeks and even years ago to work things out.

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The Good, the Bad, & the Mediated

Carter Phipps | Posted 08.30.2009 | Media

Read More: Thomas De Zengotita, Consciousness, Mediated, Harpers Magazine, Narcissism, Marshall Mccluhan, Mediation, Posmodernity, Post-Modernism, Evolution, Pop Culture, Media, Norman Mailer, Culture, Media News
Carter Phipps

Everyone should read Thomas de Zengotita, not because he has the answers but because he's breaking new ground in tracking a whole field of disconcerting cultural trends.

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One Nice, Simple Way to Find Your Center

Margaret Ruth | Posted 08.15.2009 | Living

Read More: Energy, Stress, Center, Margaret Ruth, Mediation, Intuition, Healing, Clarity, Flow, Centered, Living News
Margaret Ruth

Even if you have not attained perfect inner harmony, there is something to be gained from finding out what is going on with you at your core.

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How To Be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Third Story

Grande Lum | Posted 08.13.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Conversation Skills, Negotiations, Conflict, Mediation, Conversation, Communication Tips, Lessons on Communication, Mediator, Communication Skills, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Mastering Conversation, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

In conflict, two people can view identity as a zero sum game. The more right you are; the more wrong I am. You can sense this mentality creeping into stories we tell ourselves and other people.

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How to be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Story Twice

Grande Lum | Posted 08.07.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Relationship Lessons, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Conflict-Resolution, Mediation, Mediator, Communication Skills, Relationship Tips, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Catch the ways you leave out the other person's perspective. Alter your actions by altering the stories you tell yourself and others.

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How to Be Your Own Mediator: Empathize and Assert at the Same Time

Grande Lum | Posted 08.06.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Conflict, Communication-Tips, Mediation, Communication Tips, Mediator, Communication Skills, Relationship Tips, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Feeling forced to choose to be assertive or empathetic is natural. Yet you may actually feel mixed and even desire to both assert and empathize.

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Study: Mantras Help Reduce Stress

oprah.com | Miranda Hitti | Posted 07.31.2009 | Living

Read More: Meditation Research, Stress, Mantra Meditation, Oprah, Mediation, Meditation Stress Reduction, Mantras, Anxiety, Stress Reduction, Happiness, The Inner Life, Living News

Mantras can help with stress reduction, new research shows. Mantras, or mantrams, are a word or phrase with spiritual meaning, write Jill Bormann, Ph...

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A Mother's Day Gift of Private Time

Cheryl Saban | Posted 06.09.2009 | Living

Read More: Mediation, Mind-Body Connection, Mother's Day, Relaxation, Living News
Cheryl Saban

Even if you don't have the private time it takes to enjoy this meditation on your own, you'll find that it relaxes you even when you share it with someone else. Enjoy.

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Making Sense of the Dumbest Generation

Tom Huston | Posted 05.31.2009 | Living

Read More: Mediation, Narcissism, Thomas Friedman, Baby Boomers, Thomas De Zengotita, Gen X, Generation Y, Living News
Tom Huston

Can we finally get over ourselves and start participating in life so fully, so unreservedly, that we remove any doubt as to where we really stand?

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How To Find Happiness In 14 Words

Karen Salmansohn | Posted 02.02.2009 | Living

Read More: Happiness Tip, Karen Salmansohn, Relationship Advice, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, Relationships, Happiness, The Balanced Life, Living News
Karen Salmansohn

This year promise yourself that next time you're in conflict with someone you will ask yourself if you really do find it so joyously preferable to feel so very, very right all the time.

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Tear Down the Walls: How to See Everyday Conflicts as Cross-Cultural

Grande Lum | Posted 12.11.2008 | Living

Read More: Mediation, Negotiations, Mediator, Relationships, Conflict, Cross-Cultural, Culture, Conflict Management, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

If you are already scratching your head about the other person before you've even engaged with them, then you are missing something.

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Tear Down the Walls: How to Bring Curiosity into the Mix

Grande Lum | Posted 12.01.2008 | Living

Read More: Negotiations, Conflict Management, Relationships, Happiness, Mediation, Conversation, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

As a mediator, I remember the power of asking the parties questions they would not ask each other. Anything a mediator can do, individuals can do on their own. Observe with fresh eyes.

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Tear Down the Walls: How to Change Conflict to Collaboration

Grande Lum | Posted 11.14.2008 | Living

Read More: Collaboraiton, The Negotiation Fieldbook, Anger, Fear, Conflict, Problem Solving, Mediation, Mediator, Resolution, Confrontation, Conflict Resolution, Anxiety, Happiness, Rage, Living News
Grande Lum

Each reaction to a difficult person is a learning opportunity. If rage overwhelms you, then you can learn to control rage. If fear paralyzes you, then you can learn how to gain safety from that fear.

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Another Corporate Gimmick -- Arbitration

Dave Johnson | Posted 06.22.2008 | Business

Read More: Deregulation, Mediation, Tort Reform, Corporations, Courts, Arbitration, Attorneys, Corporate Power, Business News
Dave Johnson

More and more consumer-oriented contracts have clauses specifying that disputes must go to arbitration rather than our civil justice system. But 98.8% of arbitrations end in favor of the corporations.

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