Sustainability| More...
 

Negotiation

365 Days and Still Thanking Jesus

Lorelei Kelly | Posted 11.05.2009 | Politics

Read More: Negotiation, Governance, Afghanistan, American Democracy, Peacebuilding, President Obama, Narrative, Middle East, Cold War, Defense Budget, Government, Facilitation, Military, Climate Change, One Year Later, Conflict Resolution, Barack Obama, Timidity to Govern, Politics News
Lorelei Kelly

In looking at Obama's first year, we must not fall into the typical trap that pits idealism against pragmatism, where the virtuous line up against the effective, and the purists fight the negotiators.

Read Post

Getting to Yes in the Negotiation of the Sexes

Barrett S. Avigdor, J.D. | Posted 11.04.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Getting to Yes, Working Mothers, The Shriver Report, William Ury, Battle of the Sexes, What Happy Working Mothers Know, Working Women, Cathy Greenberg, Roger Fisher, Barrett Avigdor, The War of the Sexes, Living News
Barrett S. Avigdor, J.D.

If men and women see success in the work place and at home as a zero sum game -- I win, you lose -- then we will not move beyond where we are today.

Read Post

How to be Your Own Mediator: A Relationship Goal is Necessary for Aim

Grande Lum | Posted 10.20.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Conflict-Resolution, Mediation, Communications, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Relationships, Living News
Grande Lum

As a mediator, I often ask the parties individually and collectively about their relationship goals.

Read Post

Healing the Spirit/Matter Split

Arjuna Ardagh | Posted 10.15.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, John Gray, Awakening, Balance of Life, Buddha, State of Consciousness, Contribution, Iphone, Success Built to Last, Jack Canfield, The Secret, Est, Werner Erhart, Giving, Starbucks, Stewart Emery, Greatness, Poonjaji, Living News
Arjuna Ardagh

The greatest area of split and misunderstanding, which I discover among my friends and other writers and teachers, is the split between the longing of the spirit and material desire.

Read Post

Authentic Persuasion - The Art of Woo

Jen Grisanti | Posted 10.12.2009 | Books

Read More: Success, Negotiation, Small Business, Deal-Making, Business, Influence, Persuasion, Richard Shell, Mario Moussa, The Art of Woo, Books News
Jen Grisanti

In the book The Art of Woo authors G. Richard Shell and Mario Moussa give very insightful tips on how to authentically woo through self-awareness.

Read Post

Arms Trade Must Be Regulated - Crucial Month at the UN

Louis Belanger | Posted 10.06.2009 | World

Read More: Negotiation, Oxfam, Arms Control, United Nations, World News
Louis Belanger

in 2006, 153 governments took the historic step of voting to begin work on an Arms Trade Treaty. Now, governments have the chance to launch formal negotiations to make the Treaty really happen.

Read Post

Basic Bargaining Theory and Health Care Reform

Mark Kleiman | Posted 11.20.2009 | Politics

Read More: Negotiation, Health Care Reform, Bargaining, Budget Reconciliation, Health Care, Politics News
Mark Kleiman

If a solidly Democratic bill were to pass under the balance of negotiating advantage would shift. So why does everyone write as if reconciliation were an alternative to ordinary legislation rather than a prelude?

Read Post

Moment of Truth In Afghanistan, Iran, Israel-Palestine, Southeast Asia, Africa, FSU

Stephen C. Rose | Posted 10.16.2009 | World

Read More: Negotiation, Holocaust, Afghanistan, Afghan War, War, Sri Lanka, Violence, Iran, Eisenhower, South East Asia, Peace, Pbama, President, Religion, Mcchrystal, Military Industrial Complex, Burma, Africa, Former Soviet Union, Israel, Sustainable Communities, Realpolitik, Global Emergency, Nietzsche, World News
Stephen C. Rose

In all these situations, violence is active or incipient. In all of them, there is no solution being proposed that promises an end to the prospect of more of the same.

Read Post

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Disconnect the Reaction from the Person

Grande Lum | Posted 09.07.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Relationships, Communication Skills, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Negotiation Tips, Work Relationships, Healthy Relationships, Work-Relationships, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Mediation, Communication Tips, Communications, Mediator, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

When you can distance yourself from your response, you separate the reaction from yourself.

Read Post

Life in the "Lilong": My Shanghai Lane House Adventure

Tom Doctoroff | Posted 09.03.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Chinese Self-Protection, Home Renovation, Lilong, Chinese Generation Gap, Longtong, Chinese Culture, Shanghai Life, Negotiation Skills, Shanghai Lane House, Living News
Tom Doctoroff

Lilong life has charm. But, with an open eye and mind, one can plumb the scene for insights on the fundamental motivations of Chinese people, even the structure of Chinese society

Read Post

How to be Your Own Mediator: Raise the Issue Swept Under the Rug

Grande Lum | Posted 09.01.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Communication Tips, Communication Skills, Mediator, Communications, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Unlike a comedian who has to setup a punch line carefully and wait for the right beat, you can come back to an issue that happened hours, weeks and even years ago to work things out.

Read Post

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Lower Your Boiling Point

Grande Lum | Posted 08.23.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Communication Skills, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Mediator, How to Communicate, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

A mediator in a conflict can see people's temperatures rising and make choices to lower them immediately.

Read Post

How To Be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Third Story

Grande Lum | Posted 08.13.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Conversation Skills, Negotiations, Conflict, Mediation, Conversation, Communication Tips, Lessons on Communication, Mediator, Communication Skills, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Mastering Conversation, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

In conflict, two people can view identity as a zero sum game. The more right you are; the more wrong I am. You can sense this mentality creeping into stories we tell ourselves and other people.

Read Post

How to be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Story Twice

Grande Lum | Posted 08.07.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Relationship Lessons, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Conflict-Resolution, Mediation, Mediator, Communication Skills, Relationship Tips, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Catch the ways you leave out the other person's perspective. Alter your actions by altering the stories you tell yourself and others.

Read Post

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Empathize and Assert at the Same Time

Grande Lum | Posted 08.06.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Conflict, Communication-Tips, Mediation, Communication Tips, Mediator, Communication Skills, Relationship Tips, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Feeling forced to choose to be assertive or empathetic is natural. Yet you may actually feel mixed and even desire to both assert and empathize.

Read Post

How to be Your Own Mediator: It's Me Not You

Grande Lum | Posted 08.01.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Relationship Lessons, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Conflict, Communication Skills, Conflict Resolution Studies, Communications, Relationship Tips, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Identify your contribution to the conflict. By accepting your part and then taking responsibility, you give yourself the best chance possible for getting out of conflict.

Read Post

Tear Down the Walls: How to Move to Their Side

Grande Lum | Posted 08.01.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Relationships, Communications, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Influence, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

If you truly want to bridge the gap between you and the person across from you, sitting alongside is still the place to start.

Read Post

Tear Down the Walls: Imagine a Video Camera is Only Capturing You

Grande Lum | Posted 07.30.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, How to Be Happy, Com-Munications, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Conflict, Relationships, Conflict-Resolution, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

See yourself doing well. Separate that from what the other person has done or will do. Picture success as it relates to you, your body language, volume, tone and words.

Read Post

Create a Comfort Zone for the Other Person

Grande Lum | Posted 07.20.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Communications, How to Negotiate, Relationship Tips, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

If the the person your butting heads with is feeling safe, they are less likely to lose it.

Read Post

Tear Down the Walls By Becoming More Comfortable First

Grande Lum | Posted 06.14.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Relationship Lessons, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Conflict, Conflict Resolution, Communication, How to Relax, Living News
Grande Lum

When you have discomfort, treat it as a learning opportunity. The less you go into denial and accept discomfort as expected, the easier it will be to relax.

Read Post

Tear Down the Walls: How to Imagine Their Internal Conflict Story

Grande Lum | Posted 05.25.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Conflict, Communications, How to Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Living News
Grande Lum

Remember that another person has a positive intention.

Read Post

Tear Down the Walls: How to Find Your Internal Conflict

Grande Lum | Posted 05.23.2009 | Living

Read More: Work Relationships, Negotiation, Communications, Relationships, Conflict, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Regulation, Living News
Grande Lum

When you have conflict with someone else, look for the conflict inside yourself.

Read Post

How to Seek Heroism in Demands

Grande Lum | Posted 04.10.2009 | Living

Read More: Work Relationships, Negotiation, Relationships, Conflict, How to Negotiate, How-to-Negotiate, Conflict Resolution, Communication, Influence, Living News
Grande Lum

In conflict, heroism may be hidden. Recognize the noble goal that is holed up behind demands and defensiveness to find a constructive way out. Act in ways that live up to heroic ideals.

Read Post

Tear Down The Walls -- How to Use Demands as Clues

Grande Lum | Posted 01.29.2009 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Negotiations, Communications, Conflict Management, Business, Happiness, Communication, Office Conflict, Fights, Conflict Resolution, Anger Management, Living News
Grande Lum

When you are surprised by your own flash of anger, you may not be fully conscious of your own desires. You may be missing the underlying needs that your own anger is revealing to you.

Read Post

Tear Down the Walls: How to Separate the Position From the Person

Grande Lum | Posted 12.24.2008 | Living

Read More: Negotiation, Work Relationships, Negotiations, Communications, Family Business Relationships, Communication, Happiness, Living News
Grande Lum

A part of who we are is what we believe. This explains why we tend to assess other people's likeability and credibility based on their positions.

Read Post