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'I disagree with copulation without love' - Married Man, age 29, 1949

Zoe Strimpel | Posted 03.25.2014 | Women
Zoe Strimpel

The talk today about young men wanting sex all the time and hating commitment, with womanly love as the enemy to the fun, strings-free life all young dudes desire, is usefully framed by the feedback of young men in the late 1940s.

Somebody Else's Guy: Sex and the Not-So-Single Man

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 03.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

Defects, he had a few, and Daniel was perfectly willing to own them. The 34-year-old businessman from Spain revealed one of those "defects" (his word)...

Dick and Duane, Husband/Husband Comedy Duo, Talk 32 Years of Marriage, Performing Together and Open Relationships (NSFW PHOTOS)

Phillip M. Miner | Posted 04.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Phillip M. Miner

I recently had the pleasure of sitting down with Dick and Duane, the husband-and-husband comedy team. Dick (aka Richie Cohen aka Monkey) and Duane (aka Duane Tragis aka Ape) have been a couple since their teens (32 years and counting) and performing together since the '80s.

Gay Men Should Do Whatever They Want in Their Relationships

Mark Brennan Rosenberg | Posted 02.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark Brennan Rosenberg

There has been a lot of controversy over a blog post I wrote on The Huffington Post two weeks ago entitled "Are Gay Men Scared of Monogamy?" Given the response, you'd think I'd written a post called "The Gay Apocalypse Is Coming, and If You Don't Pair Off, You're Going to Die!"

Why Modern Monogamy Has Failed, And Where to Go From Here

Eric Barry | Posted 02.18.2014 | San Francisco
Eric Barry

Most people say they find open relationships unappealing or even ethically wrong. Why is it that an open relationship, in which two consenting parties have agreed to have multiple partners, is less accepted by society than pervasive cheating?

Why I Never Want To Be Just Like Straight People (And Why You Shouldn't Either)

Noah Michelson | Posted 02.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Noah Michelson

What's got me so despondent (and dramatic)? A couple of recent blog posts that appeared on HuffPost Gay Voices, lamenting, worrying about or lashing out at queers (like me) who don't want to live a heteronormative life.

Are Gay Men Scared of Monogamy?

Mark Brennan Rosenberg | Posted 02.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark Brennan Rosenberg

It seems to me that if we want our relationships and marriages to be accepted by our straight counterparts, then maybe it's time to keep a lid on what exactly it is that we do behind closed doors. Maybe it's just no one's business.

Monogamous: To Be or Not to Be?

Irene Monroe | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Irene Monroe

We have to ask ourselves whether monogamy is a natural instinct in us or a social construct devised to protect and regulate the institution of heterosexual marriage.

We're Here, We're Queer, We're Monogamish

Matthew Lewis | Posted 08.06.2013 | Gay Voices
Matthew Lewis

There's nothing like my first-date dinner companion telling me he hopes I can someday play with him and his partner together. I don't know what happened to first-date etiquette, but this information might have been useful before wooing me into thinking you're a man I could settle for.

How Do Gays Crack the Monogamy Code?

Tyler Curry | Posted 08.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

Is it possible for two gay men to be in a long-term relationship and remain monogamous? Of course it is, but for the frustrated but hopeful "monogay," it often seems nearly impossible to find a homo couple who have surpassed the five-year mark without opening up their relationship.

Challenging Poly Stereotypes In Media (and at Home)

Sierra Black | Posted 06.10.2013 | Women
Sierra Black

It turns out my mom likes my girlfriend and my kids are fine and the neighbors don't care what I do as long as I trim my forsythia and shovel the snow. And it's great to be given a platform to bust some of these harmful myths about polyamory and show off the good thing I have going.

Monogamish

Gregory Cason, Ph.D. | Posted 05.04.2013 | Gay Voices
Gregory Cason, Ph.D.

Dan Savage coined the term "monogamish" to describe his relationship and others that do not exactly conform to the rigid construct of monogamy. As someone who believes that rigidity is at the heart of most, if not all, psychopathology, I was intrigued. It spoke to me.

'Monogamish': Two Is Company, But Is Three Really A Crowd?

Zach Stafford | Posted 04.29.2013 | Gay Voices
Zach Stafford

By expanding our understanding of how a couple can operate together, and maybe throwing away that old saying, "two's company, but three's a crowd," maybe we can actually make ourselves happier and have longer, healthier relationships, even if they are "monogamish."

The 5 Worst Things About Open Relationships

Sierra Black | Posted 03.20.2013 | Women
Sierra Black

Sometimes, open relationships just suck. I say this as someone who's been practicing responsible, open, non-monogamy my whole adult life.

The American Family Is Queer

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 01.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

As AMC's Mad Men effectively dramatizes (in its subversion of 1950s norms), the conservative ideal of "the American Family" is, and has been, an oppressive, non-functional fantasy. Is this cause for alarm, as Republicans and the religious right suggest?

You're Bringing Who Home for the Holidays?!?!

Sierra Black | Posted 01.20.2013 | Women
Sierra Black

One year, several years ago, I asked my mom if I could bring my then-boyfriend home for Thanksgiving. "I think that would make me and your stepfather very uncomfortable," she said. It's not that she didn't like my boyfriend. It's just that I'm happily married to someone else.

Your Boyfriend Lives With His Husband?

David Duran | Posted 12.05.2012 | Gay Voices
David Duran

Having lived all over the country in several metropolitan cities, I have experienced and learned a lot about queer culture and diversity within our community, but nothing has shocked me more than what I learned in San Francisco. Gay men here mostly play by different rules.

In a Word: Defining 'Poly' and 'Non-Monogamy'

Amy Shiner | Posted 12.03.2012 | Gay Voices
Amy Shiner

While discussing what "poly" is with a commenter on my last blog, I realized that there really isn't a reason to place a definition on it. However, there is a need for open-mindedness about other people's relationship dynamics.

The 50 Shades Solution

Petra Zebroff | Posted 11.28.2012 | Women
Petra Zebroff

At times Ana is not sure how she feels about Christian or the relationship, but what she does know is that getting so much focused attention from a hot, rich man turns her on. And apparently reading about it turns on the reader as well.

WATCH: Mondays With Marlo: Dr. Sue Johnson With Marlo Thomas

Posted 08.21.2013 | MarloThomas

This week, I was excited to have Dr. Sue Johnson, relationship expert, join me on Mondays With Marlo. Most people have many questions about love and r...

What Those Photos Of Anderson Cooper's Boyfriend Kissing Another Man Could Teach America

Noah Michelson | Posted 10.14.2012 | Gay Voices
Noah Michelson

Instead of assuming that Maisani was cheating on Cooper, as almost all the media outlets have done, why not assume that Cooper knew exactly where his boyfriend was and had simply said, "Have fun with Bob. I'll see you later tonight. Oh, and can you pick up some more milk? We're almost out"?

Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Posted 10.10.2012 | Women

Kristine deGuzman | EmandLo.com A few years ago, when I was a bright-eyed junior at UC Berkeley, I wrote about how my boyfriend and I were going o...

To Wed Or Not To Wed?

Stephanie Fairyington | Posted 04.15.2012 | Gay Voices
Stephanie Fairyington

My girlfriend is visiting my shrink with me so we can duke out our premarital differences, which can be boiled down to one, ever-nagging question: why, after three and a half happy years together, do I still cringe at the thought of getting married?

Communication: Struggles Between Poly Star-Crossed Lovers

Amy Shiner | Posted 04.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Amy Shiner

I guess you could say that if two people communicate, share common bonds and emotions they are in a relationship. However, I don't consider my best friend from childhood to be in a poly relationship with me.

The Gay Male Couple's Guide To Nonmonogamy

Daniel Vaillancourt | Posted 03.21.2012 | Gay Voices
Daniel Vaillancourt

Despite the perils it presents, nonmonogamy can be a source of great satisfaction. But when it comes to opening up a relationship, two men are best served by clear communication and mutually agreed-upon boundaries.