We have become approval junkies always looking for the next fix, the next hit of validation and approval. The problem is that our goals (Look Good + Perform Well + Get Approval) are all extrinsically based.
Once again, Becca and I made the walk of shame to the office for another late slip. The second one in three days. Becca smiled at me and said, "It's okay, Mommy. It's a new school. You hats to get used to it, just like me."
Parenting is the most important and difficult job for which we will ever apply. The best advice I can give is to lay the strongest foundation for your child's healthy development and then get out of the way and trust that your child will "make you proud!"
Being away from parents is a good thing. It gives kids room to grow and explore in new ways. We will still be the most influential people in our children's lives, but they don't have to be -- and shouldn't be -- our mirror image.
Open your own heart and understand that children benefit when they participate in a family event that includes both celebration and pain. Together you can face the sorrow, share the tears, and always, always, hold the love in your hearts.
As parents, our responsibility is to keep kids unharmed. That doesn't mean shielding them from all possibility of defeat. It means letting them fail safely. Here's how to help your child take risks -- and make mistakes, inevitably -- safely.
I tend to think the hallmark of good parenting is more about how well you teach your children to do for themselves. And I think what you teach them to do for themselves will largely determine their success and happiness in life.
If I decided to take a more introspective look at our "DIY Summer," I would have to admit that I can be an impediment to our children's self-sufficiency. It's hard for me to accept "their" way of doing things. After all, no one can make "hospital corners" like I can or load the dishwasher just so.
The point isn't to criticize children. But it's to recognize that self-esteem really, truly comes as the result of achievement -- in the classroom, on the field, at home -- rather than false accomplishments.
As an educator of teachers and counsellors, I never have to wait long to hear the next sentence that contains an expletive alongside the word "teenager." Having raised three of my own, I'm not unrealistic about the challenges that they can bring.