I wore my hair very long in high school and cut it in college only when it caused my mother serious distress. But my parents never let how I looked diminish how much they loved me or wished to be with me... anytime, anywhere.
After my friend left I thought, what is wrong with me? Why would I just spew out unsolicited advice like that? Then I realized why, and I realized it's the same reason people offer unsolicited advice to new mothers.
If you have a child later in life, like I did, it only increases the likelihood that you will be parenting without your parents. I never had that maternal advice, and my son doesn't have my mom as a grandmother.
All over the country, recent high school grads are planning their exodus from home, thinking that relative freedom from parental intervention is about to begin. In the age of the electronic tether, they might be in for a big surprise.
To maximize the chance of getting your article published, be careful to make exactly the same argument that shows up in every other article on the topic. It sounds like this: "Parents today refuse to set limits for their children."
I always bite my tongue when I meet little girls, restraining myself from telling them how darn cute and well-coiffed they are. What's wrong with that? It's our culture's standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn't it?
Diaper explosions. Spit up stains. Cradle cap. No parent goes into this job without expecting some icky moments but there a few chores that are so frustrating, gross or bizarre that you want to look around for the hidden camera.
"Tramp" is a provocative 5 letter word. We must be careful how we use it. Whether in slander or owning it, the meaning is the same. A woman is either being devalued or is devaluing herself. And, that is a message that we don't want to give our daughters.
I'm sick and tired of moments here on the Strip when I have to censor an otherwise wonderfully profane anecdote simply because some little darlings are within earshot. In a bar. In Las Vegas. Is nowhere unsacred?
In our worried, anxiety-ridden efforts to create high achieving, multi-talented college students, we and our children often lose touch with our sense of wonder, our penchant and flair for the the impromptu, the spontaneous, the surprise.