If you are thinking about creating a family with someone, stop and think. Ask yourself, "Will this person love the children we create?" If the answer is "Maybe not," then perhaps it is time to take a big step back and do some real thinking.
If we keep talking to that little girl for the next 10 years as if it's her destiny to fall in love with a man, how will she react to herself and others if she finds herself attracted to the girls around her, not the boys? Or to both?
My mom and dad did something that few people ever do: They walked their talk. They cut ties with their longtime church because they realized that their gay grandson wasn't welcome there. And they set out to find a truly open and affirming church. I knew how hard this was for them.
My son Jason was 18 years old, and we were a mess, both crying and laughing as we sat in my office. I'd just written the dedication to my soon-to-be-published book Hot Target, in which I introduced and capital-O-outed Jason to my hundreds of thousands of readers around the world.
The subtext -- the wondrous, beautiful subtext -- in that one small sentence can fill pages. The main message is: "Mom, I know who I am, and because I know who I am, I won't spend my life crashing around in despair, hurting myself and others, trying to be something that I can never be."
I realized that the PFLAG China parents were looking to us in the U.S. for signs that the world is changing. I understood that our progress is their hope for their children and their families. China is watching us closely and believing that our evolution can be their future.
"Are you a gay parent?" asked the stranger. Without a second's thought, I responded, "Yes! My 8-year-old son is gay." It wasn't until later that I realized that that wasn't what he was asking. He was asking whether I am a gay person who has kids. But that experience made me think about another.
Although most farewell dinners are somewhat bittersweet, the parents gathered at the dinner last week couldn't have been happier about ending their regular monthly meetings. There simply was no further need for them, at least in this part of Connecticut.
Here are some helpful hints for supporting your gay child before they ever come out to you. After all, parenting gay kids does not start when they come out. They've been gay since day one, whether you knew it or not.
We told our son that he had to choose between Jesus and his sexuality. Choosing God, practically, meant living a lifetime condemned to being alone. So, just before his 18th birthday, Ryan, depressed, suicidal and disillusioned, made a new choice.
The challenge for moms and dads is complex. Will they support their LGBT children unconditionally and bring on the rejection of their churches, workplaces, and family members, or will they adopt Pastor Sean's methods and hope for a "conversion"?
In recognition of National Coming Out Day, I joined my mother and father, Jane and Joseph Clementi, in a conversation with LGBT rights activist Mitchell Gold to get to the heart of why coming out matters and how we can support young people as they go through this process.