Paul was just the kind of grandfather a little girl wants. The goofy jokes, the songs sung to me, the big, strong paw of a hand gentle on my arm. When he and my grandmother retired to Florida, we would spend every vacation with them, and he would sit on the terrace for hours after dinner with a glass (or two, or more) of wine, looking out at the ocean.
What's wrong with looking my age? I am almost sixty. I don't want to be a younger woman. I love my spirit and my body. I love this age I am in now--one of growing wisdom and longer-lived knowing. So, why do I need to color my hair to a younger woman's shade? This was not about anyone else. It was only about me.
Over the past three decades I've been writing about Belize. I've regularly borrowed Morley Shafer's line from the mid-80s, when he traveled to Belize City to film a segment for 60 Minutes."The good news from Belize," Morley said looking up from a little wooden boat in the middle of the Belize River, "is no news from Belize."
As companies focused more on the bottom line, they began to refer to workers as "assets" and when times got tough, they looked at which "assets" to cut. "Do more with less," "Get rid of the fat," and "leaner and meaner" were the propaganda slogans that sent chills down workers' spines. Older workers quickly read the writing on the wall.
The Dalai Lama wrote a wonderful book called, The Art of Happiness. In it, he makes clear that essentially, it's the quest for happiness inspires us to awaken in the morning. Wars happen because everyone wants what they want, and believe that getting it will make them happy. Fights happen for the same reason.
Growing up as a product of the '60s and women's lib, which by the way did awesome things when it came to opening doors to previously unattainable careers for women, I learned to follow a philosophy of never needing a man except to make a baby. So like many women of our generation, I became a powerhouse who stepped on men regardless of their feelings.
To get to the bottom of Louis-Dreyfus' appeal, one has to examine the facts: She's irrefutably beautiful, but is no girlie-girl and prefers the company of men who better appreciate her bawdy, take-no-prisoners outlook on life. Though she was born in New York City, the actress taps into an easy accessibility that makes her a relatable "everywoman."
Most of the health focus of the boomer Generation is on how we're living longer. The assumption is that we are healthier, take better care of ourselves, and make healthier choices, including diet and exercise. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The health facts are actually not good for boomers.
Whether it's the first time their children are leaving, or time for them to return to a dorm room or off-campus apartment, the homes of these parents will suddenly be empty of stuff, of people, of noise, of activity. For some there's a sense of relief, while for others this is a heartbreaking and sad time.
I'm a senior trying to care for an even more senior parent. There are lots of us. We are grandparents who are struggling through our "golden years," some of us still working far beyond age 65. Many of us are trying to be good "children" for our parents at the same time we are trying to be present in the lives of our grandkids. It's a tough, multi-generational balancing act.
What's great about the Golden Age of Television is some of the lasting, nostalgic memories -- and some of the great one-liners delivered by the likes of Barney Fife (Don Knotts): "Nip it in the bud!" Or, our favorite greaser of all time, Fonzie (Henry Winkler), who made the first letter of the alphabet so special: "Aaay!"
We expect brilliant people such as Robin Williams to contribute to society well past their 60th birthdays. Yet the rest of us are more or less expected to retire, step aside, and draw benefits from the government for the rest of our lives. This neediness and dependency view is vastly out of touch with what we now know about aging.